FAFSA nightmare after mother's death - Should we resubmit with stepfather's info?
My stepdaughter's mom died unexpectedly in January 2024, and I'm completely lost trying to figure out her FAFSA for next year. We've had both stepdaughters living with us full-time since the death, and we're covering all their expenses now. But the FAFSA situation is a mess! Here's what's complicated - her mom was on disability before passing, and her stepfather (not my husband) claimed her on 2023 taxes since she lived with them most of last year. When we initially submitted FAFSA, we included my husband's and my income (around $115k combined), but it's been processing for almost 3 months with no SAI score or updates. I'm wondering: 1. Should we cancel and resubmit using just her stepfather's income since he claimed her on taxes? 2. Does it even matter since FAFSA requires all parents/guardians to submit income anyway? 3. Is there some kind of special consideration for students who lose a parent during the application year? 4. Her older sister got a full ride because of her mom's disability status - will that consideration transfer to the younger daughter now? I'm so stressed because fall term deposits are due soon, and we have ZERO idea what aid she'll qualify for. We live in North Carolina if that matters for state aid programs.
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GalacticGuardian
I'm so sorry about your loss. The FAFSA situation is definitely complicated in your case. Based on the 2024-2025 FAFSA rules, you need to report the income of the parent/stepparent where she lived MOST of the year in 2023. If that was with her mother and stepfather, and her stepfather claimed her, then technically his income should be the only one reported. However, since there's been a significant change in circumstances (her mother passing away), you should absolutely contact the financial aid office at each college she's applying to and request a Professional Judgment review (sometimes called a Special Circumstances review). This allows them to adjust her FAFSA based on current circumstances rather than outdated tax info. You'll need to provide documentation about her mother's passing and the change in living situation. Each school handles these differently, so contact them directly.
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Luca Bianchi
•Thank you so much for this info. So you think we should cancel the current application and resubmit with just the stepfather's info? And then contact each school separately? I'm worried about missing deadlines if we start over now.
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Nia Harris
omg so sorry about ur stepdaughters mom. fafsa is the WORST even without complicated family stuff. my cousin had something kinda similar happen and they had to do a special form called a "dependency override" but idk if thats what u need exactly
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Luca Bianchi
•Thanks - I'll look into the dependency override option. Did your cousin have to wait a long time for their FAFSA to be processed after submitting that form?
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Mateo Gonzalez
DON'T CANCEL YOUR CURRENT APPLICATION!!!! If you cancel and resubmit, you'll go to the back of the processing queue and wait EVEN LONGER. Instead, call Federal Student Aid directly to explain the situation and ask for guidance on how to update the existing application with the correct information. They might be able to expedite processing given the circumstances. BTW the financial aid offices have a SPECIFIC FORM for situations exactly like yours called a "Special Circumstance Form" for when family situations change AFTER the tax year that FAFSA uses. Death of a parent is literally one of the main examples they give for using this form.
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Aisha Ali
•100% this advice. I work in financial aid and I can tell you that submitting a Special Circumstance Form is the correct approach. We deal with these situations more often than you might think. Death of a parent is absolutely a qualifying special circumstance that warrants reevaluation. The schools will work with you - they want to get this right for your stepdaughter.
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Ethan Moore
I recently went through something similar with my nephew after my sister passed away. Here's what I learned that might help you: 1. For the 2024-2025 FAFSA, the issue isn't just who claimed her on taxes, but who provided more than 50% of her support. Since her mom passed in January 2024, and most of the support in 2023 came from her mom/stepfather, that's whose information should be on the FAFSA. 2. Don't cancel your application! Instead, use the correction function to update it with the right information. 3. For your specific situation, you should submit what's called a "Professional Judgment Request" to each college's financial aid office. This allows them to consider her mother's death and adjust the SAI calculation accordingly. 4. You'll need to provide death certificate, proof of current living situation, and documentation showing you're now providing support. The trickiest part is getting through to someone at Federal Student Aid to help you navigate this. I spent hours on hold trying to get answers.
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Luca Bianchi
•Thank you for sharing your experience. I've been trying to call FSA for weeks and either get disconnected or told the wait time is over 2 hours. Did you find any tricks to actually getting through to a real person?
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Yuki Nakamura
After dealing with endless FAFSA phone problems myself, I finally found a service called Claimyr that got me through to a Federal Student Aid agent in about 15 minutes instead of hours. You might want to check them out at claimyr.com - they have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ It was the only way I could actually talk to someone about my daughter's special circumstances. The agent I spoke with was super helpful once I actually got through to them.
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Luca Bianchi
•Oh my gosh, thank you! I'll check this out right away. At this point I'd do anything to talk to a real person who can help navigate this mess.
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Nia Harris
•does that actually work?? i've been trying to get through on the fafsa phone line for like a month lol
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StarSurfer
heres the thing nobody tells u about fafsa - the parent that provides MORE THAN HALF the support is supposed to file, not just who claims on taxes!! my daughter had almost this exact situation (diff reasons) and financial aid office told us we had to provide PROOF of who paid most living expenses which was a nightmare to document. Also since ur stepdaghters mom was on disability and passed away, she might qualify for Social Security survivors benefits which CHANGES HOW FAFSA COUNTS INCOME!! Make sure u mention this specifically to financial aid office!!!
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Luca Bianchi
•That's a really good point about Social Security survivors benefits - we did apply for those but I hadn't thought about how they might affect the FAFSA calculation. Do you know if we need to report those benefits as income on the FAFSA?
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Aisha Ali
•To clarify on Social Security survivors benefits: These are reported on the FAFSA, but in a specific way. They're considered untaxed income but they're treated differently than other income. Generally, colleges will take these into account during a professional judgment review. Make sure you document the monthly amount and when payments began.
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GalacticGuardian
One clarification on the FAFSA rules for 2024-2025 that might help you: The "providing more than 50% support" rule actually determines dependency status (whether a student files as dependent or independent). For dependent students, it's about which parent/stepparent the student lived with the most during the 12 months prior to filing the FAFSA. Since your stepdaughter lived with her mother and stepfather for most of 2023, their information would be required initially. However, with her mother's passing, this creates what's called a "special circumstance" that financial aid offices can address through professional judgment. I'd recommend: 1. Update your current FAFSA (don't cancel) with her stepfather's information only 2. Contact each school's financial aid office about a professional judgment review 3. Gather documentation: death certificate, proof of current living situation, your tax information 4. Ask specifically about dependency override considerations given the circumstances Hope this helps provide some clarity!
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Luca Bianchi
•This is SO helpful, thank you! I had no idea about the distinction between the 50% support rule and who she lived with most. We'll update the FAFSA with her stepfather's info rather than canceling. Really appreciate the clear steps.
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Aisha Ali
Financial aid counselor here. For your specific situation: 1. For 2024-2025 FAFSA, you should update (not cancel) the application to include only the stepfather's information since he claimed her on taxes and she lived primarily with him and her mother in 2023. 2. File a Special Circumstance Form with each college immediately explaining her mother's death. Include the death certificate and documentation showing she now lives with you full-time. 3. Each college can perform what's called a "professional judgment" to recalculate her aid based on current circumstances rather than 2022 tax information. 4. Because her mother was on disability, your stepdaughter likely qualifies for Social Security survivors benefits, which can affect her aid eligibility (usually positively). 5. Ask specifically about Orphan/Ward of Court status. While she has a living father (your husband), some schools may consider this since her custodial parent passed away. One last note: The full ride her sister received would have been based on her own merit combined with family circumstances at that time. It doesn't automatically transfer, but similar considerations should be made for your younger stepdaughter.
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Luca Bianchi
•Thank you so much for this detailed explanation. I've been so confused about who counts as her custodial parent in this situation. We'll get the Special Circumstance Forms submitted right away. Should we be contacting the financial aid offices by phone as well, or is submitting the forms enough?
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Aisha Ali
•I strongly recommend both submitting the forms AND following up by phone or email. Simply submitting forms can sometimes result in delays or misunderstandings. When you call, ask to speak with a counselor who handles professional judgment cases or special circumstances - they typically have more experience with complex situations like yours. Document everything: dates, names of who you spoke with, and what was discussed.
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Mateo Gonzalez
I swear the FAFSA system is DESIGNED to punish families in crisis!!! When my mom died during my brother's college application process, we got completely different answers from EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. we talked to. One school told us to do a dependency override, another said professional judgment, and the FAFSA people just kept saying "update your application" with zero actual guidance on HOW to update it!!!! The whole system is BROKEN.
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Nia Harris
•same!! my sister had to drop out for a semester bc our dad lost his job and the fafsa ppl just kept sending us in circles 🙄
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Luca Bianchi
•I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm definitely feeling that frustration too - it seems like there should be a clearer process for situations like this that aren't that uncommon. Did your brother eventually get his aid sorted out?
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Ethan Moore
Quick update regarding contacting FSA by phone based on my recent experience: The official Federal Student Aid number (1-800-433-3243) has been incredibly overloaded this year due to all the FAFSA system changes. If you can't get through using regular channels, try calling right when they open (8am Eastern) or consider using a call-back service. I personally used Claimyr when I was desperate to get through about my nephew's situation, and it worked well. Once you do get through, be sure to specifically ask about: 1. How to properly update an existing application in your situation 2. Documentation needed for the professional judgment process 3. Whether your stepdaughter might qualify for any dependency overrides 4. How survivors benefits affect the SAI calculation They can enter notes in your stepdaughter's file that will help expedite processing. Good luck!
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Luca Bianchi
•Thank you - I'll try calling right at 8am tomorrow. I'm going to look into that Claimyr service too since several people have mentioned it. At this point, anything that helps get this resolved faster is worth it.
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Luca Bianchi
UPDATE: I wanted to thank everyone for the helpful advice! I was able to get through to FSA using the Claimyr service (which worked exactly as described). The agent confirmed we should update rather than cancel our application, and they put notes in our file about the special circumstances. I've also contacted all three colleges she applied to, and they've been incredibly understanding. They're sending us their Special Circumstances forms, and two of them have even extended their deposit deadline for us given the situation. I still don't know what her final aid package will look like, but at least we're moving in the right direction now. Thank you all again for the guidance during this stressful time.
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Aisha Ali
•This is excellent news! I'm so glad to hear you're making progress. One additional tip: keep a dedicated folder (physical or digital) with copies of ALL correspondence, documentation, and notes from phone calls. If anything gets lost in their systems (which happens more than we'd like to admit), having your own records makes resolving issues much faster.
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Nia Harris
•so glad it worked out!! the waiting is the worst part tbh
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Isabella Costa
I'm so sorry for your loss and what you're going through with this FAFSA situation. As someone who's dealt with similar complexities, I wanted to add a few points that might help: Since you mentioned her older sister received a full ride due to their mother's disability status, make sure to specifically ask each financial aid office about "sibling consideration" policies. Some schools will take into account that multiple children from the same family are dealing with the same circumstances. Also, regarding the Social Security survivors benefits - these are typically reported as untaxed income on the FAFSA, but many schools will exclude them from their aid calculations during a professional judgment review since they're meant to replace lost parental support. One thing I learned the hard way: when you're gathering documentation for the Special Circumstances forms, include proof of ongoing expenses you're covering for her (medical insurance, school costs, etc.). This helps demonstrate the change in financial responsibility and can strengthen your case for aid adjustment. It sounds like you're on the right track now with getting through to FSA and contacting the schools directly. The financial aid offices really do want to help in situations like this - they just need the proper documentation to work with. Wishing you and your stepdaughter the best outcome!
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