FAFSA just saved us $87,000 for college - why are tuition costs so insane?
Just got our financial aid package email today and I'm literally shaking with relief. We calculated that my daughter's 4-year degree would've cost us around $208,000 without any assistance (in-state public university but with housing/meal plan/books). Between her merit scholarships ($32,000 total) and FAFSA-based aid (got a decent SAI score despite our middle-class income), we're now looking at about $121,000 spread over 4 years. That's still INSANE money, but at least I don't need to pick up another weekend job like I was planning. I've already been working full-time plus evening shifts at a restaurant to save for this. My question is - how is any family supposed to afford college without financial aid? Even with FAFSA helping, we're still looking at $30k+ per year! Anyone else shocked by how the system works? I'm grateful but also kinda angry about the whole situation.
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Javier Garcia
First, congrats on getting your financial aid package! That's a huge relief, I know. The cost of higher education has outpaced inflation for decades. When I went to college in the early 2000s, the same state university likely cost 1/3 what your daughter is paying now. Couple things to consider: 1. Make sure you understand exactly what aid is grants vs loans. Sometimes the financial aid letters make loans look like "free money" when you'll actually be paying it back. 2. Your daughter should apply for additional private scholarships each year. Even small $500-1000 awards add up. 3. Consider if she can knock out some gen-ed requirements at community college during summer breaks to reduce overall credits needed. The system is definitely broken, but maximizing your FAFSA benefits each year will help. Remember to submit a new application every year and report any changes in financial circumstances that might lower your SAI further.
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NebulaNomad
•Thanks for the breakdown! Yes, we've been VERY careful about distinguishing between grants and loans. She got a Pell Grant (wasn't expecting that!) plus some other need-based grants directly from the school. We're only taking about $5,500/year in federal loans, which seems to be the standard amount they offer freshmen. The community college tip is smart - I hadn't thought about summer classes there. Will definitely look into that! I'm just still in shock about the total costs. Her grandparents went to the same university in the 70s and paid like $2,500 a YEAR for everything. The math doesn't add up.
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Emma Taylor
the whole system is a SCAM. my son got his "financial aid" package and it was ALL LOANS. we make too much for grants but not enough to actually pay for college without going into massive debt. fafsa is a joke for middle class families. and don't get me started on the parent plus loans they try to push on us. WHY should I go into debt for 20+ years just so my kid can get a degree that might not even get him a good job?? the whole system needs to be torn down and rebuilt
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Javier Garcia
•I understand your frustration. The "donut hole" for middle-income families is very real - making too much for need-based aid but not enough to comfortably cover costs. Did you appeal your financial aid offer? Sometimes schools have additional institutional funds they can provide if you explain your specific situation. Also, did your son receive any merit scholarships? Those aren't dependent on FAFSA calculations.
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Emma Taylor
•we tried appealing and got nowhere. they just kept pushing those parent plus loans on us. he got a $2000/yr merit scholarship which is basically NOTHING when tuition+housing is $38k per year. its all just numbers on paper that dont mean anything to real families
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Malik Robinson
Same boat here! Just got our daughter's package yesterday and we're looking at about $29k/year after FAFSA and her scholarships. We've been saving since she was born and still only have enough for maybe 2 years. College costs have gotten completely detached from reality. I hate that I'm grateful for "only" having to pay $116k over four years when that's still more than our mortgage.
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NebulaNomad
•Right?? It feels crazy to be relieved about still paying six figures for an education. And I feel guilty even complaining when I know some families get way less aid than we did. The whole system seems designed to stress everyone out regardless of income level.
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Isabella Silva
Financial aid advisor here. Congratulations on receiving your package! A few points to consider: 1. Your FAFSA application will need to be renewed annually. Your SAI could change each year based on income fluctuations. 2. After first year, your daughter can potentially qualify for departmental scholarships within her major that aren't available to freshmen. 3. Work-study opportunities, if included in your package, offer valuable experience plus income that doesn't negatively impact next year's FAFSA calculation the way regular jobs might. Regarding why college costs have risen so dramatically: state funding for public universities has declined significantly (most state universities now receive less than 20% of their operating budget from state funds, compared to 70-80% in the 1970s). This has shifted costs directly to students. Additionally, administrative costs, expanded campus services, and infrastructure maintenance have all contributed to rising costs. For those struggling with the FAFSA process or looking to appeal aid decisions, speaking directly with a Federal Student Aid representative can be incredibly helpful, though reaching them can be challenging.
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NebulaNomad
•Thank you for this detailed explanation! Really helps to understand the bigger picture. She did get offered work-study, which I wasn't familiar with before. Good to know that won't hurt next year's calculation. One question - her major is Engineering. Do you know if those departments typically offer more scholarship opportunities than others? Just trying to plan for the coming years.
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Isabella Silva
•Engineering departments often do have more scholarship funding available than many other disciplines! This comes from a combination of industry partnerships, alumni donations, and grants specifically for STEM fields. Once she's completed her first year with a strong GPA, she should speak directly with the Engineering department's administrative office about scholarship opportunities. Many of these aren't widely advertised and require students to be proactive. Also, encourage her to join engineering-specific student organizations as some offer their own scholarships or can connect students with industry scholarships. The Society of Women in Engineering (SWE), if applicable, is particularly good for scholarship connections.
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Ravi Choudhury
My son just started his sophomore year and we had to take out a Parent Plus loan on top of his federal loans because our savings ran out faster than expected. Already $42k in debt with 3 years to go. The FAFSA system seriously needs an overhaul...it doesn't account for real-life expenses like caring for elderly parents, medical costs, or regional cost of living differences. A family making $80k in rural Kansas is completely different from one making $80k in Los Angeles, but FAFSA treats them the same.
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CosmosCaptain
•This is EXACTLY my frustration! We live in a high cost-of-living area and what looks like a decent income on paper barely covers our mortgage and basic expenses. Then FAFSA expects us to contribute like $20k+ per year to college? It's completely unrealistic. Have you tried appealing your financial aid package? I've heard some schools will reconsider if you explain special circumstances.
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Freya Johansen
After spending hours on hold trying to reach someone at Federal Student Aid about our verification issue, I found this service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me through to a real person in under 20 minutes. They have a demo video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ The agent I spoke with was able to explain exactly why our SAI came back higher than expected and told me what documentation I needed to submit for an adjustment. Saved me so much frustration after spending literal days trying to get through on my own.
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Omar Fawzi
•Is this legit? Seems sketchy that you have to pay to talk to a government agency we fund with our taxes...
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Omar Fawzi
my daughter dropped out after 2 yrs because the debt wasn't worth it. now she's in trade school learning hvac and making more than her friends with bachelor's degrees lol. sometimes the best financial aid is skipping the traditional college path entirely
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NebulaNomad
•Honestly, we considered that route too. My daughter is set on engineering though, which pretty much requires the 4-year degree. But I've told my younger son (sophomore in high school) that trade school is absolutely on the table if that's what interests him. A friend's son did an electrician apprenticeship and makes great money with zero debt.
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Isabella Silva
One additional note - if your financial situation changes at all during the academic year (job loss, major medical expenses, etc.), you can submit a Special Circumstances form through your daughter's financial aid office. This won't change the current FAFSA calculation, but many schools have institutional funds they can use to provide additional aid mid-year. Keep all documentation of any significant financial changes, as you'll need to provide evidence.
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NebulaNomad
•That's really good to know! My company has been hinting at potential restructuring, so this is important information to have just in case. I'll make sure to keep detailed records of everything financial from here on out.
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CosmosCaptain
When we first got our son's financial aid package, I was so confused because they included $15,000 in Parent PLUS loans as part of the "aid" package! That's not aid - that's DEBT! We decided to only let him accept the direct student loans ($5,500) and grants. We're cash-flowing the rest by selling our second car, taking on extra consulting work, and having him live at home to commute. It's not ideal but I refuse to take on debt at 52 years old that I'll be paying off in retirement. Has anyone successfully appealed their SAI calculation? We had some unusual medical expenses last year that weren't reflected in our tax return.
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Javier Garcia
•Yes, medical expenses can definitely be grounds for an SAI appeal! You'll need to submit what's called a Professional Judgment Request (different schools might call it different things) with documentation of your medical expenses. If those expenses exceeded 11% of your Adjusted Gross Income, you have a strong case for an adjustment. I successfully appealed my daughter's SAI last year when my ex-spouse's alimony payments ended, which was a significant change to my income that wasn't reflected in the tax returns FAFSA used. They reduced our SAI by about 20% after the appeal.
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Demi Lagos
Wow, congratulations on that aid package! $87k in savings is absolutely life-changing. I totally understand the mixed feelings though - being grateful but also frustrated that we have to feel grateful for "only" paying six figures for education. We're in the thick of this process too with our twin daughters who are high school seniors. After running the FAFSA estimator, I'm already having panic attacks about potentially paying for two kids at once. Even with aid, we're looking at potentially $60k+ per year combined if they both go to our state university. Quick question - did your daughter's merit scholarships come directly from the university or were they external scholarships she applied for separately? We're trying to figure out our scholarship strategy and wondering if we should focus more on school-specific awards or cast a wider net with outside scholarships. The fact that your daughter's grandparents paid $2,500/year in the 70s really puts this in perspective. Even adjusting for inflation, that would be maybe $15k today - still WAY less than current costs. Something is seriously broken when education costs have outpaced inflation by this much.
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