Disappointed with first financial aid package - will all colleges offer similarly low amounts?
We just received our daughter's first financial aid offer from her top-choice college and I'm honestly shocked at how little they're offering. Her SAI came back at 14,800 which I thought was pretty reasonable given our income ($97K), but the school is only offering $9,200 in grants when their total cost is over $58,000! The rest is all loans and work-study. We were counting on at least $20K in institutional aid since their website basically implied students with our finances would get substantial support. Has anyone else experienced this? Are all schools going to offer about the same amount based on our FAFSA, or do some schools actually provide better packages? This school actively recruited her and she has a 3.9 GPA, so I'm really confused about the disconnect.
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Aurora St.Pierre
No, financial aid packages can vary DRASTICALLY between schools! Each institution has their own formula for calculating institutional aid on top of federal aid. Some schools are extremely generous with merit scholarships and need-based grants, while others are notorious for offering little beyond the basic federal aid. A few things to consider: 1. Did you complete any supplemental financial aid forms? Many private colleges require the CSS Profile in addition to FAFSA. 2. This is just your first offer - you can appeal it! Contact the financial aid office and ask for a professional judgment review, especially if you have any special circumstances. 3. Look at schools that meet 100% of demonstrated need - they tend to offer the most generous packages. 4. Don't assume your SAI equals your expected contribution. Schools interpret this differently.
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Christopher Morgan
•Thank you for this detailed response. We did complete the CSS Profile for this school, which makes the offer even more disappointing. I didn't realize we could appeal! Would we need to provide additional documentation for that? Their financial aid website mentions professional judgment reviews but it sounds like it's only for major life changes like job loss.
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Grace Johnson
speaking from experience, my kid got 6 COMPLETELY different aid packages from 6 schools. one offered barely anything (like yours) but another covered almost 80% of cost!!! colleges have their own money they can give out however they want. the fafsa just tells them what the govt thinks you can pay
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Jayden Reed
•THIS!!! The system is so frustrating because they tell you to fill out one form but then every school treats it differently! My daughter got offered everything from $8k to $32k in grants from different schools with the EXACT SAME FAFSA information. It's like a game and they don't tell you the rules.
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Nora Brooks
Financial aid counselor here. What you're experiencing is very common, especially with the first offer. Your SAI is just one factor schools consider. Many schools practice what's called "preferential packaging" - they offer their best aid packages to students they most want to attract. A few points of clarification: - The $14,800 SAI doesn't guarantee any specific amount of institutional aid - Schools with large endowments typically offer more generous packages - Some schools front-load offers (more generous freshman year, less later) - Your daughter's major may impact aid (some programs get more funding) I would recommend: 1. Wait for all offers to come in before making decisions 2. Compare the net price at each school, not just the sticker price 3. Prepare to appeal with a polite letter explaining why you need additional consideration 4. Look at each school's Common Data Set (Google the school name + "Common Data Set") to see their typical aid packages
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Christopher Morgan
•This is incredibly helpful, thank you. I didn't know about preferential packaging or the Common Data Set - will definitely look into that. We're still waiting on 3 more offers, so hopefully some will be better. For the appeal process, should we mention other schools' better offers if we receive them? Or is that considered bad form?
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Nora Brooks
Absolutely! Mentioning competing offers is a standard practice in appeals. Many schools will match or at least improve their offer if you have a better package from a peer institution. Be polite but direct - "We've received a more generous offer from X University, but our daughter prefers your school. Is there any way you could reconsider your offer to make it more comparable?" Make sure to submit a formal appeal letter with documentation of the competing offer. Most schools have a specific appeal form or process.
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Eli Wang
•I can vouch for this! My son got a basic package from his preferred school, but after we showed them his offer from their competitor (which was $12k better), they suddenly found an additional $8k in "merit aid" for him. It's absolutely a negotiation.
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Cassandra Moon
I spent HOURS trying to reach someone at our financial aid office to appeal our pathetic offer. Kept getting voicemail or disconnected. Finally used Claimyr to get through to a human at the Federal Student Aid office (claimyr.com) and got some clarity on our SAI calculation, which helped with our appeal. There's a video showing how it works here: https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ The FSA agent explained that while they calculate the SAI, they don't control how schools use it for institutional aid. But understanding exactly how our numbers were calculated gave us ammo for the appeal process. Our daughter ended up with a $7k increase in her grant after we talked to the school with this info.
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Zane Hernandez
•thanks for sharing this! i've been trying to get through to someone about our verification issue for weeks. didnt know there was a service that could help with that.
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Jayden Reed
The whole financial aid system is RIGGED!!! Don't let anyone tell you different. Schools advertise all these amazing aid packages on their websites but then when it actually comes time to give out money, they suddenly don't have enough. My son had the same issue - 4.0 GPA, tons of extracurriculars, and the "generous" school gave him a package that would still leave us $30K in debt EVERY YEAR! It's criminal what they're doing to families.
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Grace Johnson
•it does feel like false advertising sometimes. they show these calculators that say "average student pays $X" but then when you get your actual offer it's nowhere close to that number 😡
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Aurora St.Pierre
One thing to consider is that some schools intentionally offer less competitive packages to students they consider "likely to enroll" regardless of aid. If your daughter showed a lot of interest (multiple visits, early application, lots of contact with admissions), sometimes schools will offer less because they think you'll come anyway. This is why it's important to apply to schools that are known for generous aid. Some colleges meet 100% of demonstrated need, while others might only meet 60-70%. The difference is enormous. Don't get discouraged yet - wait for all offers to come in. And definitely plan to appeal once you have competing offers to leverage!
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Christopher Morgan
•That's frustrating but makes sense from their perspective I guess. She did do an overnight visit and interviewed with them, so maybe they think she's a sure thing. We're still waiting on UVA and William & Mary which I've heard can be more generous with aid. Fingers crossed!
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Eli Wang
My daughter went through this last year and we were just as shocked with her first offer! But don't panic - her last offer ended up being the best by far (nearly double the grant money of the first school). Sometimes the timing is just based on when each financial aid office processes applications.
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Christopher Morgan
•That's reassuring to hear! I hope we have a similar experience. Did you end up having to appeal any of the offers or were some just naturally better than others?
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Eli Wang
Two were naturally good offers, but we did appeal at her top choice. They increased her package by about $5K per year after we showed them the better offer from their competitor. It was a pretty straightforward process - just a letter and a copy of the competing financial aid award letter.
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Grace Johnson
also!!! dont 4get to look at outside scholarships!!!! my daughters rotary club gave her $2500 and she got another $1800 from our insurance company of all places. every little bit helps when colleges r being stingy
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Genevieve Cavalier
•Just be careful with outside scholarships - some schools will reduce their institutional aid dollar-for-dollar when you receive outside scholarships. Ask each financial aid office about their outside scholarship policy before you go hunting for those.
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Christopher Morgan
Thank you all for the great advice and encouragement! We're going to wait for all the offers to come in and then start the appeal process with her top choices. I feel much better knowing this first offer isn't necessarily what we'll have to accept. Will update when we hear from the other schools!
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Evan Kalinowski
Just wanted to add another perspective as someone who went through this process with twins last year! Your experience is unfortunately very typical for that first offer. What really helped us was creating a spreadsheet to track not just the grant amounts, but the NET COST after all aid for each school. Some schools with higher sticker prices ended up being cheaper than "affordable" state schools after aid. Also, timing matters - we noticed schools that released decisions later in the cycle often had more competitive packages, possibly because they could see what other schools were offering. Don't be afraid to ask the financial aid office directly: "What would it take for my daughter to receive additional aid?" Sometimes they'll tell you exactly what documentation or circumstances would help your case. One last tip: if your daughter has any unique talents, achievements, or circumstances that weren't fully captured in the original application, mention those in your appeal. Schools sometimes have small pots of money for specific situations that aren't part of their standard formula. Good luck - the process is stressful but it often works out better than that first disappointing offer suggests!
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