ESD denied my claim after quitting for family emergency abroad - any chance of approval?
I'm in a really tough spot and need some advice from people who understand Washington unemployment rules. I had to abruptly quit my restaurant management job of 3 years when my father suffered a severe stroke in Brazil. I had to leave immediately and ended up staying for 6 weeks to help arrange his care. When I got back to WA, I filed for unemployment while I look for a new job, but just got a 'disqualified' notice saying I quit voluntarily without good cause. The letter mentioned something about 'family emergencies not being connected to the work.' Has anyone successfully gotten benefits after quitting for a family emergency? The denial letter mentioned I can file an appeal by March 30, 2025, but I don't know if it's worth trying or what evidence I'd need. Any advice would be so appreciated!
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Omar Fawzi
i dont think u can get UI if u quit, doesnt matter why. thats what i heard from my cousin. they only give benefits if ur laid off or fired. but maybe appeal anyway? what do u have to lose
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Freya Johansen
•Thanks for your input. That's what I'm worried about, but I've heard sometimes they make exceptions? The appeal form looks complicated and I'm scared of messing it up.
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Chloe Wilson
This is actually incorrect information. You CAN qualify for unemployment in WA state after quitting, but only for specific "good cause" reasons defined in the law. Family emergencies are tricky because they have to meet certain criteria. For your situation, the key question is whether you first tried to preserve your job by requesting leave or making other arrangements before quitting. Under RCW 50.20.050(2)(b)(ii), you need to show: 1. You had a genuine family emergency 2. You took reasonable steps to preserve your employment before quitting 3. You had no reasonable alternatives to quitting For your appeal, gather: - Medical documentation of your father's condition (translated if necessary) - Evidence you attempted to request leave or other accommodations - Timeline of events showing why immediate departure was necessary - Any communication with your employer about the situation Don't give up without appealing - I've seen several cases where people in similar situations won their appeals.
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Diego Mendoza
•YES! Listen to this person!! I went through something similar when my mom got sick in Oregon. The key was proving I asked my boss for unpaid leave first and they said no. I brought our text messages to the hearing and won my appeal. Definitely appeal!!!
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Anastasia Romanov
I had a nearly identical situation last year and sadly lost my appeal. The judge said I needed to have exhausted ALL other options before quitting. In my case, I didn't formally request FMLA leave in writing before leaving (just told my supervisor verbally), and that really hurt my case. Here's what I learned that might help your appeal: - If you didn't request FMLA or other formal leave IN WRITING, that will be used against you - They'll want to see if you tried to work remotely or arrange some compromise - Documentation of the medical emergency is essential (get it all translated officially) - If your employer offers any leave policies, they'll check if you tried using those first Good luck! The appeal hearing is intimidating but just stick to the facts.
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Freya Johansen
•This is really helpful, thank you. I did text my boss asking if I could take emergency leave but she just said "we'll see when you get back" - would a text message count as written documentation? I didn't formally request FMLA because everything happened so fast and honestly I didn't even think about it in the moment.
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StellarSurfer
THE WHOLE SYSTEM IS DESIGNED TO DENY YOU!!! They ALWAYS say no the first time even when u have a legit reason. They denied me when my company closed and I had literal proof. Had to fight for 2 months to get a penny!!! APPEAL APPEAL APPEAL and call them everyday until they get sick of you!!!
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Sean Kelly
•While I understand your frustration, this isn't entirely accurate. ESD doesn't automatically deny all claims - they follow specific eligibility criteria. That said, appealing is definitely the right move here, and persistence does help!
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Sean Kelly
Quitting for a family emergency can qualify as "good cause" but you need to meet specific criteria. The main issue is whether you took reasonable steps to preserve your employment before quitting. When I worked in HR, we had an employee win their appeal in a similar situation by proving: 1. The emergency was truly urgent and unforeseeable 2. They requested leave options before resigning 3. They kept in contact with the employer throughout the emergency 4. They attempted to return to their position when the emergency ended Your text messages asking for emergency leave will help, but you'll need to explain why you couldn't complete formal FMLA paperwork (the emergency was too sudden, etc.). Definitely appeal - many initial denials get reversed in the appeals process. The OAH (Office of Administrative Hearings) judges look at the full circumstances, not just the technical rules.
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Freya Johansen
•Thank you for this detailed explanation. I did try to keep in touch with my employer while I was gone, sending updates about every week. And when I returned, I did ask if I could have my position back but they had already hired someone else. Would that help my case at all?
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Zara Malik
wow this happened to my neighbor and she had to wait like 8 weeks for her appeal hearing and then another 3 weeks for the decision!! she couldnt reach ESD at all the entire time. totally ridiculous!!!
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Diego Mendoza
•The wait times for appeals are crazy! When I was going through this, I couldn't get anyone on the phone either. I ended up using Claimyr (claimyr.com) to connect with an ESD agent. They have this system that gets you through to a live person way faster. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/7DieNd3C7zQ?si=26TzE_zGms-DODN3 - it really helped me understand what documentation I needed for my appeal!
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Chloe Wilson
Since you mentioned you have a March 30, 2025 appeal deadline, make sure you file well before that date. The appeal form (which you can submit online through your eServices account) doesn't need to be perfect - you just need to explain: 1. The nature of the family emergency (your father's stroke) 2. Why it required your immediate presence (needed to arrange care in Brazil) 3. What steps you took to preserve your job (requested emergency leave via text) 4. Why you couldn't use other options like FMLA (emergency was too sudden) After you appeal, you'll get a hearing date with an Administrative Law Judge. You'll want to have all your documentation ready: - Medical records (translated) - Text messages with your employer - Timeline of events - Proof you tried to return to your position Also very important: KEEP FILING YOUR WEEKLY CLAIMS even while waiting for the appeal! If you win, they'll only pay for weeks you properly claimed.
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Freya Johansen
•Thank you so much for this detailed advice! I didn't realize I should keep filing weekly claims during the appeal process - that's really good to know. I'll start gathering all this documentation right away.
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Omar Fawzi
another option is just find another job asap. took me like 2 weeks to find something when this happened to me. faster than dealing with all the unemployment stuff tbh
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Freya Johansen
•I'm definitely job hunting too! Just worried about covering rent in the meantime. But you're right that might be faster than waiting for an appeal.
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GalacticGladiator
I went through a very similar situation two years ago when my mother had a heart attack in the Philippines. Initially got denied, but won my appeal after 3 months. Here's what worked for me: The judge really focused on whether I made a "reasonable effort" to keep my job before quitting. Your text to your boss asking for emergency leave is actually really valuable evidence - print screenshots with timestamps! What helped my case: - Showed the emergency was truly unforeseeable (stroke definitely qualifies) - Proved I tried to work with my employer first (your text messages) - Documented that I had no choice but to leave immediately - Kept detailed records of trying to return to work One thing to add to your appeal packet: if your father's condition required specific family coordination that only you could handle (like being the only English speaker, having medical power of attorney, etc.), document that too. It shows why remote work or delayed travel weren't realistic options. Also, restaurant management experience should make you pretty marketable for quick employment while you wait for the appeal decision. Don't let this stress consume you - you have a legitimate case and good documentation to support it!
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NeonNomad
•This is incredibly helpful, thank you! Your situation sounds almost identical to mine. I'm the only one in my family who speaks both English and Portuguese fluently, so I was really the only one who could coordinate with the doctors and handle all the medical decisions. I didn't think to document that aspect but you're absolutely right - it shows why I couldn't just delay the trip or handle things remotely. I'm feeling much more confident about appealing now with all this advice from everyone. Thank you for sharing your experience!
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