Ex-husband died in 2021 - What survivor benefits can my 92-year-old mother claim from Social Security?
My mother is 92 years old and her ex-husband just passed away in 2021. His wife had already died before him. They were married for over 25 years before they divorced back in the 80s. She's currently receiving about $1,250/month from Social Security based on her own work record. I'm trying to help her figure out if she's entitled to any survivor benefits from her ex-husband's Social Security. He was an engineer and I'm pretty sure his benefit amount was higher than what she gets now. Does anyone know if she qualifies for anything additional? And if so, how soon should we apply? I'm not sure if there's some time limit since he passed away last year.
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Daniel Rogers
Yes, your mother likely qualifies for survivor benefits based on her ex-husband's record! Since they were married for more than 10 years, and she hasn't remarried before age 60, she can claim divorced survivor benefits. She should contact SSA immediately because there might be retroactive benefits available, but they're usually limited to 6 months. She would receive the higher of either her current benefit or up to 100% of what her ex was receiving. Don't wait - the sooner she applies, the better!
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Zara Perez
•Thank you so much for this information! Do you know what documentation she'll need? She has her marriage certificate but not the divorce decree - it's been so many years and she's moved several times since then.
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Aaliyah Reed
my aunt was in simillar situation. she got exhusbands benefits but had to prove they were married. bring marrige certificate and divorce papers when u go to appointment. they gave her back pay for 6 month i think
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Zara Perez
•Thanks! I'll have to help her look for the divorce papers. I hope SSA can help if we can't find them.
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Ella Russell
Be aware that at 92, if your mother is collecting on her own work record, she'll only get survivor benefits if they're HIGHER than what she currently receives. SSA doesn't add them together - they'll pay whichever amount is greater. So if her ex-husband's benefit would give her $1,500 instead of her current $1,250, she'd get the $1,500 (not $2,750). Also, make sure to check if she's entitled to any lump-sum death payment, though there are strict time limits on claiming that.
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Mohammed Khan
•This is EXACTLY right! So many people think they get both benefits added together and it causes huge disappointment. It's just the higher of the two amounts. Social Security NEVER gives you full dual benefits simultaneously.
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Gavin King
Your mother absolutely needs to contact SSA right away. The most important thing to understand is that survivor benefits are time-sensitive. There's a limit on retroactive benefits (6 months), so every month she waits potentially means lost money that she can't recover. Don't waste time trying to call the main SSA number - you'll be on hold forever. I used a service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me connected to a real SSA agent in under 10 minutes instead of waiting on hold for hours. They have a video showing how it works here: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU For documentation, she'll need: - Her own Social Security card - Birth certificate - Marriage certificate - Divorce decree - Death certificate of ex-husband - Her banking information for direct deposit If she can't find some documents, SSA can often help locate them, especially if she knows when and where events happened.
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Zara Perez
•Thank you for the suggestion! I'll check out that service because I tried calling SSA last week and gave up after being on hold for an hour. And thanks for the document list - that's really helpful. I'll gather what we have and see what we need to request.
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Nathan Kim
Does your mom know how much her ex was getting? My mom got survivor benefits from her ex and it increased her monthly check by almost $600! But my neighbor's mom only got like $75 more. Depends on how much he paid into the system during his working years.
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Zara Perez
•I have no idea what he was receiving. He was an engineer with a big company for about 30+ years, so I'm guessing it was substantial, but I don't have any way to find out the exact amount. I guess we'll just have to apply and see.
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Eleanor Foster
Everyone here is giving good advice but missing something important - there's a HUGE BACKLOG at SSA right now because of budget cuts. My mom applied for survivor benefits in January and didn't get approved until May! And retroactive payments took another month to arrive. So set your expectations accordingly. Your mother should apply ASAP but be prepared for a potentially long wait for processing. Also, when you finally get an appointment, don't let them talk you into applying online - INSIST on applying in person or via phone with a representative who can make sure everything is filed correctly. The online system misses nuances for survivor benefits.
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Zara Perez
•Oh that's really good to know. I'll make sure we apply right away but won't count on seeing the money anytime soon. And thanks for the tip about not using the online system - I probably would have tried that first.
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Mohammed Khan
i went thru this with my mother last year!!! the SSA people told her she wasnt eligible but that was WRONG!! we had to talk to a supervisor to get it fixed. they kept saying she remarried but she NEVER did. if they give u trouble, ask for supervisor right away dont take no for answer.
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Ella Russell
•This happens more than people realize. The front-line representatives sometimes make errors on more complex cases like divorced survivor benefits. Always escalate if something doesn't seem right. And get the name of everyone you speak with, along with dates and times of conversations.
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Gavin King
One more thing to consider - if your mother is receiving any SSI (Supplemental Security Income) or other means-tested benefits in addition to her Social Security retirement, the increased income from survivor benefits could affect her eligibility for those programs. It's almost certainly still worth applying for the higher survivor benefit, but be aware there might be effects on other benefits she receives.
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Zara Perez
•She's not on SSI, just regular Social Security retirement, so hopefully that won't be an issue. She does get a small pension from a factory where she worked for about 15 years, but I don't think that will be affected.
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