Widow's benefits from late husband's Social Security - can my 82yo mom claim at this point?
My father just passed away last month (January 2025) and I'm trying to figure out what benefits my mother might be entitled to now. She's 82 and has been collecting her own Social Security retirement for years. Dad was 84 and also receiving his SS benefits when he died. They've lived in their own home and were financially independent. I'm wondering if mom is eligible for any widow's benefits based on dad's record? Would she get anything additional if his benefit amount was higher than hers? I know there's something called survivor benefits, but I'm confused about how it works when both were already retired and collecting. Do I need to notify Social Security about his death or would that have happened automatically from the funeral home? Any advice on steps I should take to help her would be so appreciated. This is all new territory for our family.
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NebulaNomad
Sorry about your dad. When my mom passed last year, the funeral home reported it to SS. Wait a few weeks and see if they contact her. If not, you should call SSA to report it anyway.
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Ravi Sharma
•Thank you. The funeral home did say they would handle the reporting, but it's been almost 4 weeks now and we haven't heard anything from Social Security.
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Freya Thomsen
I'm sorry for your loss. Yes, your mother may be entitled to survivor's benefits. If your father's benefit was higher than what your mother currently receives, she can switch to a survivor benefit equal to 100% of what your father was receiving. SSA calls this the "widow's benefit." Even though the funeral home likely reported his passing, your mother should contact SSA directly to apply for survivor benefits - they aren't automatically awarded. She'll need to provide: 1. Proof of death 2. Your parents' marriage certificate 3. Both Social Security numbers 4. Birth certificates if available The sooner she applies, the better, as benefits are only retroactive for up to 6 months from application date. Call the main SSA number at 1-800-772-1213 to set up an appointment.
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Ravi Sharma
•Thank you so much! This is exactly what I needed to know. I didn't realize she had to actually apply - I thought it might happen automatically. I'll help her call them this week and get those documents together.
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Omar Fawaz
When my husband died they switched me from my own smaller benefit to his bigger amount after I applied. It took like 2 months to actually get the higher payment. Make sure she calls them ASAP!!! They don't go back forever with backpay.
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Ravi Sharma
•Thank you for sharing your experience. Did you have to go into an office or were you able to handle everything by phone?
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Omar Fawaz
•I had to go to the office. Tried calling for DAYS and couldn't get through to a real person. So frustrating!!
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Chloe Martin
when my wife died i got nothing extra cuz i made more than her on social security. it all depends on who made more money during lifetime. if ur dad made more than ur mom then yeah she can get his amount instead of hers. if he made less then nothing changes for her
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Diego Rojas
To clarify a few points: 1. Your mother should be eligible for widow's benefits if your father's Social Security benefit was higher than what she currently receives. She would get the higher of the two amounts, not both combined. 2. This is not automatic - she must apply for survivor benefits. While funeral homes typically report deaths to SSA, this only stops the deceased's benefits; it doesn't trigger survivor benefits. 3. The application should be done promptly. SSA can only pay up to 6 months of retroactive benefits, and some benefits might be limited to if she applies within the month of death. 4. She'll likely need an appointment with SSA. Their phone system is overwhelmed, and it can take dozens of calls to reach a representative to schedule this appointment. 5. Survivor benefits are different from the one-time death payment of $255 that she may also be eligible for as the surviving spouse.
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Anastasia Sokolov
•I've been helping my aunt with this exact situation! Using Claimyr (claimyr.com) saved us SO much time getting through to an actual person at Social Security. We were disconnected THREE times trying to call directly, then tried this service and got through in 10 minutes. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU My aunt got the survivor benefits process started right away instead of waiting weeks for an appointment. The rep told us she'll get retroactive payments back to the application date, which made a difference of almost $900!
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Ravi Sharma
•Thank you for the detailed information! I didn't know about the 6-month limitation or the death payment. We definitely need to get this process started ASAP. And thanks for the Claimyr suggestion - that sounds really helpful. I'll check it out!
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StarSeeker
I went through this last year with my mom, and it took FOREVER to get it figured out!!!! The SSA is THE WORST to deal with. We called for WEEKS and couldn't get through. When we finally did, they told us mom had to come into the office, but there were no appointments for 6 WEEKS!!!!! We ended up going to a different office 45 miles away because they had an earlier appointment. Make sure she has EVERY document you can think of - they will find reasons to delay if anything is missing!!!!!!
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NebulaNomad
•Our experience was totally different. Called once, got through, had appointment next week. Maybe depends on your location?
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Ravi Sharma
Thanks everyone for all the helpful information! I talked to my mom and we're going to try calling the SSA tomorrow morning. I've explained that she might be eligible for dad's higher benefit amount. We've started gathering the documents mentioned (marriage certificate, death certificate, etc.) just in case. I'm a bit worried about the difficulty getting through on the phone that several of you mentioned. If we have trouble, we might try that Claimyr service someone suggested. I'll update once we make some progress. Really appreciate all your help during this difficult time.
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Chloe Martin
my neighbor tried to get her husbands SS after he died and they told her she made too much money on her own to qualify for anything extra. so dont get your hopes up too high
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Freya Thomsen
•That's because survivor benefits only provide the higher of the two benefit amounts, not both combined. If your neighbor was already receiving a higher amount than her husband, then she wouldn't receive anything additional. But if the husband's benefit was higher, she would receive that amount instead of her own.
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NebulaNomad
Dont forget about the $255 death benefit too. Not much but its something.
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Ravi Sharma
•Yes, someone else mentioned that too. Every little bit helps right now, so we'll definitely ask about that when we call. Thank you!
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