Can I receive Social Security survivor benefits at 56 while on SSDI? Ex-husband of 23 years just died
I just found out my ex-husband passed away last week at age 59. We were married for 23 years before divorcing about 6 years ago, and neither of us ever remarried. I'm currently 56 and receiving SSDI (about $1,740/month) due to a chronic health condition that began after our divorce. Since he was still working when he died and had a much higher income than me, I'm wondering if I qualify for any survivor benefits as his ex-spouse? I've heard conflicting things about age requirements and whether being on disability affects this. Has anyone gone through something similar or know what Social Security rules apply in this situation? I'm a bit overwhelmed right now and not sure where to start.
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Carmen Vega
First, I'm very sorry for your loss. Yes, you may qualify for survivor benefits as an ex-spouse since you were married over 10 years (the minimum is 10) and neither of you remarried. Normally, widow(er)s can't collect until 60, BUT there's an exception for disabled widow(er)s who can collect as early as 50. Since you're already on SSDI, you likely meet this requirement. However, there's something important to understand: SSA won't pay you both benefits in full. They'll essentially pay the higher of the two amounts. So if your ex's benefit would result in a higher payment than your current SSDI, you'd receive your SSDI amount plus the difference to equal the survivor benefit amount. I'd recommend calling SSA directly to apply as soon as possible, as survivor benefits are not retroactive beyond 6 months.
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Yuki Kobayashi
•Thank you so much for the information! I had no idea about the disabled widow exception. Do you know if I'll need to provide anything specific when I call them? His death certificate or our divorce papers? And will this affect my Medicare coverage at all?
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Andre Rousseau
my condolences on your loss. hang in there, the SSA process takes forever but its worth going through for the money. When my ex died it took like 5 months to get everything sorted but I did get back pay
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Yuki Kobayashi
•Thanks for the encouragement. 5 months sounds like a long wait! Did they require a lot of documentation from you? I'm dreading having to gather everything while dealing with this loss.
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Zoe Stavros
Call them right away!! I waited almost 2 months after my ex passed and they told me I could have gotten an earlier start date if I'd called sooner! They only backdate 6 months MAX no matter what and sometimes less. And be prepared to sit on hold FOREVER or get disconnected multiple times. Their phone system is THE WORST!!!!!!
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Jamal Harris
•THIS!!! I got disconnected 3 times trying to report my mom's death. Each time waited 2+ hours. It's ridiculous how understaffed they are. You'd think death reporting would be a priority line or something.
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GalaxyGlider
When I was in a similar situation last year, I tried calling SSA for three weeks and couldn't get through. I kept getting disconnected or would wait on hold for hours only to have the call drop. Finally found a service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me connected to an agent in under 10 minutes. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/Z-BRbJw3puU Saved me so much stress when I was already dealing with grief. They connected me directly to SSA and I was able to start my survivor benefit application process right away instead of waiting weeks. Definitely worth checking out if you're having trouble getting through on the phone.
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Zoe Stavros
•omg where was this when i needed it last year?? i spent like 9 hours total on hold trying to get through about survivor benefits. saving this for next time i need to call them!
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Mei Wong
Sorry about ur exhusband. The disability benefits and survivor benefits question is complicated! My sister gets both but they did some weird calculation and she only gets like $200 more total. Not the full amount of both. Still better than nothing tho! Good luck
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Carmen Vega
•You're right - SSA applies what's called the Maximum Family Benefit rule when someone qualifies for multiple benefit types. They don't pay both full amounts; they typically pay the higher of the two (effectively allowing you to "step up" to the higher benefit).
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Yuki Kobayashi
Update: I finally got through to SSA yesterday. They confirmed I'm eligible as a disabled surviving divorced spouse since we were married over 10 years. I need to provide our marriage certificate, divorce decree, his death certificate, and proof of my disability onset date. The agent said my benefit might increase by about $470/month based on his earnings record. They're mailing me paperwork and I have an appointment next month. Thanks everyone for your help!
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Liam Sullivan
•That's great news! One thing to keep in mind - make copies of EVERYTHING before you send it to SSA. They've been known to lose documents, and replacing things like marriage certificates can be time-consuming and expensive. I always send them copies (not originals) when possible, and keep a detailed log of what I sent, when I sent it, and who I spoke with. Congrats on the potential increase - that's a significant monthly boost.
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Jamal Harris
wait i thought survivor benefits were only for current spouses not exes? am i missing something here??
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Carmen Vega
•Ex-spouses can qualify for survivor benefits if the marriage lasted at least 10 years, neither person remarried (before age 60), and the other eligibility requirements are met. This is one of the most misunderstood aspects of Social Security - divorced spouses often don't realize they may qualify for benefits on an ex's record, whether retirement or survivor benefits.
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Zoe Stavros
IMPORTANT QUESTION: Does anyone know if getting survivor benefits affects your eligibility for Medicaid?? I'm on SSDI too and get Medicaid because my income is low, but if I got more from survivor benefits I'm worried I'd lose my medical coverage which I CANNOT afford to lose with my health conditions!!!
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Yuki Kobayashi
•That's a really good point I hadn't considered. I'm on Medicare since I've been on SSDI for over 2 years, but I also get help with my Part B premiums through a Medicare Savings Program. I should definitely ask about this at my appointment.
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Liam Sullivan
To clarify some information here: As a disabled surviving divorced spouse, you're eligible since your marriage lasted over 10 years. The benefit calculation will work like this: 1. SSA will calculate your ex-husband's Primary Insurance Amount (PIA) 2. As a disabled widow, you'll receive 71.5% of his PIA if you claim now at age 56 3. This percentage reduction is permanent (unless you switch to retirement benefits later) 4. SSA will compare this amount to your current SSDI 5. You'll receive the higher of the two amounts Since you're already receiving SSDI, there's no 5-month waiting period for survivor benefits. Any increase will be effective from your application date (or up to 6 months retroactively if you request it). Your Medicare will continue unaffected. When you turn full retirement age (FRA), you may want to reassess which benefit to take, as the reduction for early claiming no longer applies at that point.
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Yuki Kobayashi
•Thank you for breaking this down so clearly. I didn't realize the percentage would be reduced because of my age. So if I understand correctly, I'd get 71.5% of what he would have received at his full retirement age? And this might still be more than my current SSDI depending on his earnings history?
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Andre Rousseau
just wondering did your ex have any kids? my friend told me that can affect the benefit amounts too something about family maximum
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Yuki Kobayashi
•Yes, we have two children together but they're both adults now (31 and 28). I'm not sure if that affects anything at this point since they're no longer dependents.
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