Will the IRS penalize me for filing as married when I'm legally single?
Hey tax people, I'm in a weird situation and need some advice. Last year I lived with my girlfriend for the entire year and we basically share everything financially - joint bank account, split all bills, etc. When I was doing my taxes this year, I checked "married filing jointly" because it seemed to give us a better refund (like $3,800 more!). I'm now freaking out that this was totally wrong since we aren't legally married - we just have a commitment ceremony but nothing official with the state. Could the IRS come after me for this? Will I get audited or have to pay fines? How bad is this mistake? Should I file an amendment or just leave it alone and file correctly next year?
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Amina Diallo
This is actually a pretty serious issue. Filing status is determined by your legal marital status as of December 31st of the tax year. If you weren't legally married (with an actual marriage certificate), you can't file as married filing jointly - regardless of how committed your relationship is or how you manage finances. The IRS could definitely flag this as fraud since you claimed a status you weren't entitled to. You should file an amended return (Form 1040-X) as soon as possible to correct your filing status. You'll likely need to each file separate returns as single individuals (or possibly as Head of Household if either of you qualifies). You will probably owe the additional tax plus interest, and potentially penalties. However, voluntarily correcting the mistake before the IRS discovers it usually helps reduce potential penalties.
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Oliver Schulz
•Would they still need to amend if they did a domestic partnership registration? Some states treat those similar to marriages for tax purposes, right?
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Amina Diallo
•Domestic partnerships are generally not recognized by the federal government for tax filing purposes. Even if your state recognizes domestic partnerships for state tax purposes, the IRS only recognizes legal marriages for federal tax returns. Only legally married couples (traditional marriages or same-sex marriages recognized by the state) can file jointly on federal returns. If they have a domestic partnership but not a legal marriage, they would still need to amend their federal return to file as single or head of household.
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Ravi Gupta
Filing with an incorrect status is definitely something you need to fix ASAP. My cousin did something similar (claimed Head of Household when he wasn't eligible) and ended up owing not just the tax difference but also a 20% accuracy penalty plus interest. The longer you wait, the more interest accrues!
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Paolo Conti
•Thanks everyone for the advice! I'm definitely going to file an amended return. One question - do both me and my girlfriend need to file separate amended returns since we filed jointly? And will this flag us for audits in future years?
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Ravi Gupta
•Yes, you'll both need to file separate amended returns since you can't file jointly as unmarried individuals. Each of you will need to file as single (or possibly Head of Household if either of you qualifies by having a dependent). As for future audits, correcting the mistake voluntarily generally looks better than having the IRS discover it themselves. They don't automatically flag accounts for future audits just because there was an amendment, but they might look more carefully at your future returns. Just make sure everything is accurate going forward and you should be fine.
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GalacticGuru
Ugh, the tax system is so outdated. Why should marriage even matter for taxes anyway? My partner and I have been together 11 years, share all finances, but can't file jointly because we don't have a piece of paper. So frustrating!
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Javier Mendoza
•The marriage tax benefits originally came from when one spouse (usually the wife) didn't work outside the home. The system was designed to not "penalize" households with only one income earner. It's definitely outdated now but 🤷♀️ that's our tax code for ya.
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Zainab Khalil
I work in tax preparation and see this mistake more often than you'd think. The key thing is that you need to act quickly to minimize penalties. File Form 1040-X for both of you as soon as possible - you'll each need to file as single taxpayers. The IRS has a "reasonable cause" provision that can help reduce penalties if you can show the error was made in good faith (not intentional fraud). Since you're voluntarily correcting it, that works in your favor. You'll owe the tax difference plus interest, but the penalty might be reduced or waived entirely. Pro tip: When you file the amended returns, include a brief explanation letter stating that the error was unintentional and you're correcting it voluntarily. This can help your case if they review the amendment.
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Ethan Brown
•This is really helpful advice! I'm curious - when you say "reasonable cause" provision, does that apply even when someone got a larger refund than they should have? I always thought the IRS was more strict about errors that resulted in people getting more money back than they deserved. Also, how long does the amended return process usually take to get resolved?
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