Tips for filing taxes with a disabled adult dependent on SSI - maximizing returns?
Title: Tips for filing taxes with a disabled adult dependent on SSI - maximizing returns? 1 Married filing jointly here with two dependents - our 12-year-old and our 22-year-old son with severe autism who requires round-the-clock care and supervision. He's on permanent disability and receives SSI benefits. Our household income is around $65k. Due to a recent move last year, we lost our caregiving support, so I've had to leave my job to become a full-time caregiver for our son. Just wondering if there are any legitimate tax breaks or credits we might be overlooking? Not trying to game the system at all, just want to make sure we're not missing anything that could help our family situation since we're down to one income now. Thanks in advance for any advice!
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Emma Taylor
7 You're in a tough situation but there are definitely some tax benefits you should look into! First, you should be able to claim your 22-year-old as a qualifying dependent since he lives with you and you provide over half his support. Even though he receives SSI, this doesn't typically count against dependency status if he meets the other requirements. Look into the Credit for Other Dependents (ODC) which is up to $500 for dependents who don't qualify for the Child Tax Credit. Your adult son likely qualifies for this. You might also qualify for the Child and Dependent Care Credit if you had any care expenses for your son while you were looking for work. This covers care for dependents who are physically or mentally incapable of self-care. Since you've become a stay-at-home caregiver, check if you qualify for the Earned Income Tax Credit (EITC) based on your spouse's income. Having two qualifying dependents could increase this credit. Also, some medical expenses for your son might be deductible if they exceed 7.5% of your adjusted gross income. This includes specialized treatments, transportation to medical appointments, and certain home modifications for medical purposes.
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Emma Taylor
•13 Thanks for this info! Would expenses like special dietary needs (he can only eat certain textures/brands) or sensory items qualify as medical expenses? Also, does the fact that he gets SSI affect our ability to claim these credits?
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Emma Taylor
•7 Special dietary needs can sometimes qualify as medical expenses, but only if they're specifically prescribed by a doctor as treatment for a medical condition - just having preferences isn't enough for the IRS. You'd need documentation from a healthcare provider stating these specific foods are medically necessary. For sensory items, they might qualify if they're recommended by a doctor or therapist as part of his treatment plan. Regarding SSI, your son receiving these benefits doesn't disqualify you from claiming him as a dependent or from claiming these tax credits. SSI benefits aren't typically considered taxable income, and they don't count toward the support test as long as you're still providing more than half of his total support (housing, food, clothing, medical care, etc.).
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Emma Taylor
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Emma Taylor
•5 How does it handle the dependency status for adult children with disabilities? My tax preparer seems confused about whether my 24-year-old can be claimed since he has some income from a supported employment program.
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Emma Taylor
•16 I'm curious - did it help identify state-specific tax benefits too? My state has some additional credits for caregivers that most tax software misses.
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Emma Taylor
•19 The service handles dependency status questions really well. It walks you through the qualifying dependent tests specifically for adults with disabilities, including the gross income test and support test. It even handles situations with supported employment programs, which can be tricky since that income counts toward the gross income test, but often doesn't disqualify them if they still meet the other criteria. Regarding state-specific benefits, yes! That was actually one of the most helpful features. It identified several state-level credits I didn't know about, including a caregiver credit and a special needs expense deduction that was specific to my state. The system seems to cross-reference both federal and state tax codes to find everything you qualify for.
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Emma Taylor
16 Just wanted to follow up - I tried taxr.ai after seeing the recommendation here and it was actually really helpful for our situation. My daughter has cerebral palsy and receives disability benefits, and I've always been confused about what medical expenses we could deduct. The service flagged about $4,700 in deductible expenses I would have missed, including some home modifications and specialized transportation costs. It also helped me document everything properly which was huge since I've always been nervous about claiming these deductions. Found a state-specific disability credit too that I had no idea existed! Definitely worth checking out if you're in a similar situation with a disabled dependent.
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Emma Taylor
8 Hey there - I see you're dealing with a complex tax situation. I was in a similar boat last year trying to get answers about disability-related deductions from the IRS. Spent WEEKS trying to get through on their phone lines with no luck. Someone recommended I try Claimyr (https://claimyr.com) to get through to an actual IRS agent, and it worked amazingly well. They have a cool demo video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c Basically, their system navigates the IRS phone tree for you and calls you back when they have an agent on the line. I got through in about 40 minutes instead of waiting on hold for hours. The IRS agent I spoke with gave me specific guidance on exactly which forms and documentation I needed for my adult son with disabilities. They also confirmed which medical expenses were deductible in our situation and how to document them properly. Definitely saved me from making some mistakes on my return that could have triggered an audit!
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Emma Taylor
•21 This seems too good to be true. The IRS phone system is notoriously impossible - how does this actually work? And do they charge for this service?
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Emma Taylor
•13 I've been trying to get through to the IRS for months about my disabled dependent situation. There's a specific question about how his ABLE account contributions affect our taxes. Does this service actually work for complex questions or just basic stuff?
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Emma Taylor
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Emma Taylor
21 I was totally skeptical about Claimyr at first - seemed impossible that anyone could crack the IRS phone system. But after my third failed attempt to get answers about my daughter's disability expenses (4+ hours on hold each time!), I was desperate enough to try it. Not only did it work, but I got connected to an IRS specialist who actually knew about tax benefits for families with disabilities. She walked me through exactly which expenses qualified as medical deductions for my daughter's sensory needs and specialized education costs. She also explained how to document everything properly to avoid audit issues. The agent confirmed I could claim the Credit for Other Dependents AND deduct certain medical expenses, which my tax preparer had been unsure about. Ended up getting almost $3,200 more on my refund after applying everything correctly! Wish I'd known about this service years ago.
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Emma Taylor
10 One thing nobody's mentioned yet - look into an ABLE account for your son if you don't already have one. It's similar to a 529 plan but specifically for people with disabilities that began before age 26. The money grows tax-free and withdrawals aren't taxed when used for qualified disability expenses. The big advantage is that funds in an ABLE account (up to $100,000) don't count against the $2,000 asset limit for SSI eligibility. So you can save for your son's future needs without jeopardizing his benefits. Some states even offer tax deductions for contributions to their state's ABLE plan.
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Emma Taylor
•3 How exactly do ABLE accounts work with taxes? Can family members contribute to it? And does it affect the dependent care credit at all?
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Emma Taylor
•10 ABLE accounts are pretty flexible with taxes. Anyone can contribute to the account (you, other family members, even your son himself), though total annual contributions are capped at $17,000 for 2025. Contributions aren't tax-deductible federally, but some states do offer state tax deductions if you use your home state's plan. The money in the account grows tax-free, and withdrawals aren't taxed as long as they're used for qualified disability expenses (which is a broad category including education, housing, transportation, healthcare, assistive technology, and more). Having an ABLE account doesn't affect your ability to claim the dependent care credit at all. The two are completely separate in the tax code. The ABLE account is really about protecting assets and providing tax-advantaged savings, while the dependent care credit is about offsetting care expenses.
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Emma Taylor
2 Make sure you're tracking ALL possible medical expenses for your son. With severe autism requiring 24/7 care, you likely have more deductible expenses than you realize. Things that count that people often miss: - Mileage driving to therapy/doctor appointments (medical mileage rate) - Special foods required for medical reasons (if prescribed) - Sensory equipment - Home modifications for safety - Specialized therapy not covered by insurance - Conference registration/materials related to your son's medical condition Just remember you need to itemize deductions to claim medical expenses, and only the portion that exceeds 7.5% of your AGI is deductible. But with significant medical needs, you might clear that threshold easily.
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Emma Taylor
•1 We've definitely been tracking doctor visits but didn't know about the mileage deduction! He sees specialists about 45 minutes away twice a month. Also didn't realize conferences might count - we attended an autism management workshop last year that was really helpful. Are there any specific forms we need to fill out for these expenses?
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QuantumQuest
•For medical mileage, you can deduct 22 cents per mile for 2023 (the rate changes each year). Keep a simple log with dates, destinations, and miles driven for medical appointments. You don't need a special form - just report the total on Schedule A under medical expenses. For the autism conference, you can deduct registration fees, materials, and even travel expenses if it was primarily for medical information related to your son's condition. The IRS allows deductions for conferences that provide medical information about a chronic condition affecting you or your dependent. You'll report all medical expenses on Schedule A (Form 1040). Make sure to keep receipts and documentation for everything, especially for items like specialized foods or equipment that might seem unusual to an auditor. A letter from your son's doctor explaining medical necessity can be very helpful. Since you mentioned your AGI is around $65k, your medical expenses would need to exceed about $4,875 (7.5% of $65k) before you can start deducting them. But with ongoing specialist visits, therapy, and specialized care needs, you might easily clear that threshold.
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Kingston Bellamy
Don't forget to also look into the Disabled Access Credit if you made any workplace modifications when you were still working, or if your spouse's employer made accommodations. It's a lesser-known credit that can be worth up to $5,000 for eligible access expenditures. Also, since you mentioned losing caregiving support due to your move, check if any respite care services you paid for while transitioning might qualify for the Child and Dependent Care Credit. Even temporary care arrangements can count if they allowed you to look for work or handle the move. One more thing - if your son has an Individual Education Program (IEP) or receives any specialized services through your state's developmental disabilities program, keep detailed records of any out-of-pocket costs. Transportation to these services, specialized equipment they recommend, and even certain educational materials prescribed by therapists can sometimes be deductible medical expenses. The key is documentation - keep receipts and get letters from healthcare providers explaining medical necessity for anything that might seem questionable to the IRS.
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Liam O'Donnell
•This is really comprehensive advice! I had no idea about the Disabled Access Credit - we did make some modifications to our home office when I was still working remotely to accommodate my son's needs during the day. Would things like installing sound dampening panels or safety locks qualify? Also, the point about IEP-related expenses is huge. We've been paying for a specialized communication device that his school team recommended but insurance wouldn't cover. I have all the documentation from his speech therapist about why it's medically necessary. Sounds like this could definitely be deductible! Thanks for mentioning the documentation piece - I've been keeping receipts but didn't think to get letters from providers explaining medical necessity. That's going to be really important if we ever get audited.
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Luca Marino
•The Disabled Access Credit typically applies to business expenses, so home office modifications might not qualify unless you were running a business from home. However, those same modifications (sound dampening, safety locks) could potentially qualify as medical expense deductions if they were installed specifically for your son's medical condition and safety needs. You'd want documentation from his doctor or therapist stating these modifications were medically necessary. The communication device sounds like a slam dunk for medical expenses since you have the speech therapist's recommendation! That's exactly the kind of documentation the IRS looks for. Pro tip: when getting letters from providers, ask them to specifically state that the expense is "medically necessary for the treatment of [condition]" rather than just "helpful" or "recommended." The IRS is very particular about that language. Also make sure the letters are dated and on official letterhead. One thing to add - if you're itemizing for medical expenses anyway, don't forget to include health insurance premiums if you're paying them out of pocket, and any copays/deductibles for your son's care. These add up quickly and help you reach that 7.5% AGI threshold faster.
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Mary Bates
I wanted to add something that hasn't been mentioned yet - look into whether your state offers any caregiver tax credits or deductions. Many states have started recognizing the financial burden on families providing full-time care for disabled adult children. Also, since you left your job to become a full-time caregiver, you might qualify for the Premium Tax Credit if you're getting health insurance through the marketplace. The loss of employer-sponsored coverage due to caregiving responsibilities could make you eligible for advance premium tax credits, which could significantly reduce your monthly insurance costs. Another often-overlooked deduction is the cost of any professional development or training you've had to do related to your son's care. Things like CPR certification, specialized autism care training, or workshops on managing behavioral issues can sometimes be deductible as medical expenses if they're directly related to providing necessary care for your son's condition. Keep track of any adaptive technology purchases too - tablets with communication apps, weighted blankets prescribed for sensory needs, or specialized seating can all potentially qualify as medical expenses with proper documentation from healthcare providers. The fact that you're providing 24/7 care really opens up a lot of possibilities for legitimate deductions that many families don't realize they can claim.
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