Supporting parents living with me - what's my correct tax filing status?
Hey everyone, I'm in a situation where my parents are living in my house and I need some tax filing advice. I own the home (mortgage is in my name only), and I cover pretty much all the household expenses - mortgage payments, utilities, groceries, you name it. My parents both have full-time jobs and earn their own income, but it's significantly less than what I make. Right now, we're all filing our taxes separately - they file as married-filing-jointly, and I file as single. But I'm worried because we all share the same physical address. Is this setup okay with the IRS? Since we're all at the same address but filing separately, could this cause problems? My parents might qualify for government benefits like food stamps in the near future, and I'm concerned our living arrangement might affect their eligibility. Someone suggested we should create some kind of affidavit showing that my parents contribute to household expenses too. I found an article online saying households need to basically live separate financial lives for this to work. Another option I'm considering is claiming them as dependents. But if I do that, would I need to include their income on my tax return? That would probably increase my tax bill substantially. Also, would my income count when determining their eligibility for benefits like food stamps or Medicare if I claim them as dependents? Any advice would be super helpful!
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Katherine Ziminski
This is actually a common situation, and you've got several good questions here. First, it's completely okay for multiple taxpayers with different filing statuses to use the same physical address. The IRS is well aware that families often share homes - this happens with adult children living with parents, siblings sharing homes, etc. For your specific situation, here's what you need to know: You can continue filing as single while your parents file married-filing-jointly, even at the same address. This won't raise any red flags with the IRS as long as you're all reporting your own individual incomes correctly. Regarding claiming them as dependents - you could potentially claim your parents as dependents if they qualify as your "qualifying relatives." To do this, several tests must be met: their income must be below $4,800 (for 2025), you must provide more than half their total support for the year, and they must meet relationship and residency requirements (which they do if they're living with you all year). If you claim them as dependents, you DON'T include their income on your tax return. You'd just get the dependent tax credit for each qualifying parent. Their income remains separate from yours for tax purposes. As for benefits eligibility - this gets tricky. Different programs have different rules about household composition. For some benefits, if you're providing most of their support and claiming them as dependents, your income might indeed be considered part of the household income for their benefits applications.
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Noah Irving
•Thanks for this info! Could you clarify one thing - if I DON'T claim them as dependents but they live with me, would my income still count toward the household income for something like Medicare? And if I did claim them as dependents, would they still be able to file their own tax return, or would I be filing for all of us?
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Katherine Ziminski
•If you don't claim them as dependents, generally your income would not be counted for Medicare purposes (specifically for programs like Medicare Savings Programs or Extra Help with prescription costs). Medicare typically looks at the individual's or married couple's income rather than the entire household. They would still file their own separate tax returns even if you claim them as dependents. Claiming someone as a dependent doesn't change their obligation to file their own tax return if they meet the filing requirements based on their income. You're just claiming a credit for providing their support, not absorbing their tax situation into yours.
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Vanessa Chang
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Jade Santiago
Something important that hasn't been mentioned yet - if you decide to claim your parents as dependents, make sure you have documentation proving you provide more than half their support. This includes records of mortgage payments, utility bills, grocery receipts, medical expenses you paid for them, etc. I went through an audit a few years ago specifically about my dependent claims, and having this documentation organized and ready made the process much easier. The IRS might ask you to prove the support test, especially if your parents have their own income that's close to the threshold. Also, if they receive Social Security benefits, remember that those count toward their income for the gross income test for dependency ($4,800 in 2025).
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Kaiya Rivera
•Thanks for bringing this up! What specific documentation did the IRS ask for when you were audited? And how exactly do I calculate whether I provide "more than half" their support? Like, do I need to track everything they buy for themselves vs. what I pay for?
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Jade Santiago
•The IRS requested records of all my payments for housing, utilities, food, medical expenses, and other support I provided. They also wanted information about my dependent's income and what they spent on their own support. For calculating "more than half" their support, you'll need to determine the total cost of their support from all sources and then figure out how much of that you provided. Support includes housing, food, clothing, medical expenses, transportation, recreation, and other necessities. You'd need to track what they pay for themselves, what you pay, and what others might contribute. I created a spreadsheet that listed all expenses related to my dependent's support and who paid each expense. For shared expenses like housing and utilities, I calculated their portion based on the number of people in the household. This documentation was crucial during my audit and made the process much smoother.
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Caleb Stone
Just a word of caution about claiming parents as dependents - make sure you consider the impact on health insurance too. If your workplace offers dependent coverage, adding parents might be very expensive compared to what they could get on their own through Medicare or the marketplace. Also, some states have different rules than federal for dependent eligibility for certain benefits. Where I live, my mom still qualified for state prescription assistance even though I claimed her as a dependent on my federal taxes, but this varies by location.
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Daniel Price
•This is a really good point! My mother qualified for much better subsidies on her health insurance when she filed independently rather than being claimed as my dependent. Saved thousands of dollars, even though I lost the dependent credit. Worth running both scenarios to see which works better financially.
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Chloe Zhang
I'm dealing with almost the exact same situation! My elderly parents moved in with me last year and I've been so confused about all the tax implications. Reading through everyone's responses here has been really helpful. One thing I learned from my tax preparer that might help you - she said to keep really detailed records of who pays for what, even if you don't end up claiming them as dependents this year. That way if your parents' financial situation changes (like if their income drops or they need more support), you'll have the documentation ready to make that decision next year. Also, regarding the benefits eligibility question - I found out that for SNAP benefits specifically, they do look at household composition differently than the IRS does for tax purposes. So even if you're all filing separately, the benefits office might still consider it one household for food stamp eligibility. Definitely worth checking with your local benefits office about their specific rules. The address thing really isn't an issue at all - the IRS sees multi-generational households all the time. As long as everyone is reporting their own income correctly on their individual returns, you're good to go.
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Taylor To
•This is such valuable advice about keeping detailed records even if you don't claim them as dependents right away! I hadn't thought about how their situation might change over time. Your point about SNAP benefits looking at household composition differently than the IRS is really important too. It sounds like there's a lot of variation between different benefit programs in how they define "household." Do you know if Medicare programs follow similar household rules as SNAP, or do they stick closer to the IRS definitions? I'm starting to think I should talk to someone at the local benefits office before making any decisions about dependency claims, just to understand how it might affect my parents' current and future benefit eligibility.
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