Should we get married in December for the biggest tax break with 3 kids?

The marriage question for taxes is actually pretty complex and depends on a few factors beyond just income. In your situation, here's what you should consider: Currently, if your boyfriend qualifies as Head of Household (living with at least one qualifying child and paying more than half of household expenses), he gets a better standard deduction than filing as Single. For 2025 filing, HOH standard deduction will be significantly higher than Single. If you marry, you'd file Married Filing Jointly and get a different standard deduction. The "marriage penalty" typically affects couples when both earn similar high incomes. In your case, with one income and three dependents, marriage might actually create a "marriage bonus" where you pay less tax. Other benefits: married couples can combine medical expenses more easily to reach the deduction threshold, and the home purchase might give you additional benefits if married. Plus, the married filing jointly brackets are generally more favorable for single-income families.

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One thing nobody mentioned yet - if you do decide to get married before year-end, make sure you consider the longer-term benefits too! My wife and I did the December courthouse wedding for tax reasons 4 years ago, and besides the immediate tax benefits, here's what we discovered: 1) Social Security survivor benefits are much better for married couples 2) Retirement account options improved (spousal IRAs) 3) Health insurance became cheaper when we could be on one family plan 4) Legal protections for homeownership were stronger Don't just look at the one-year tax picture. We saved about $2,100 that first year, but the other benefits have been even more valuable long-term!

Has anyone considered the Alternative Minimum Tax (AMT) here? My cousin was in a similar situation last year and got hit with AMT when they married and it wiped out a lot of their expected tax benefits.

Don't forget about the Earned Income Tax Credit! If you're a stay-at-home parent with 3 kids and only one income, the EITC can be substantial. Getting married might change your eligibility or the amount you receive. When we were making around $80k with 2 kids, we found that staying unmarried actually gave us a bigger combined refund because of how the EITC worked for us.

I'm in a very similar situation and just went through this analysis myself! One thing that really helped me was using the IRS's own withholding calculator at irs.gov to compare scenarios. It's free and official, so you know the calculations are accurate. With your income level ($95k) and 3 kids, you're likely to benefit from marriage because: 1) The Child Tax Credit ($2,000 per child) has higher income phase-out thresholds for married filing jointly 2) Your boyfriend's Head of Household status is good, but Married Filing Jointly standard deduction for 2024 is $29,200 vs $21,900 for HOH 3) The mortgage interest deduction he gets from the home purchase will still benefit you both when married However, definitely check if you're currently receiving any means-tested benefits like SNAP, WIC, or Medicaid. Sometimes the tax savings don't outweigh the loss of benefits. I'd also suggest running the numbers for both 2024 AND 2025 tax years, since some credits and thresholds change annually. We found that while marriage helped us in 2024, it might not be as beneficial in 2025 due to some expiring provisions. Good luck with your decision!