Should I file married joint or married separate this tax season?
Hi everyone! So, I'm struggling with a big decision for my 2025 tax filing. My husband and I got married last summer, and this will be our first time filing taxes as a married couple. I'm trying to figure out if we should file jointly or separately. My situation: I make about $78,000 as a nurse, while my husband makes around $52,000 working for the city. I have student loans in income-based repayment (about $43,000 remaining), and my monthly payments are calculated based on my income. We've been keeping our finances pretty separate since getting married - separate bank accounts, we split bills proportionally to our incomes. I've heard that filing separately might keep my student loan payments lower, but I'm also hearing we might miss out on tax benefits if we don't file jointly. Does anyone have experience with this? What factors should we be considering when making this decision? Any tax benefits we'd miss by filing separately? Really appreciate any advice!
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Justin Chang
This is definitely something many newly married couples wrestle with! The married filing jointly vs. married filing separately decision comes down to a few key factors. Generally speaking, filing jointly offers more tax benefits - higher standard deduction, eligibility for certain credits like Earned Income Credit, Child and Dependent Care Credit, education credits, etc. Filing separately means you lose access to many of these benefits. However, in your specific situation with income-based student loan repayment, filing separately might make sense. When you file jointly, your husband's income would be included when calculating your student loan payment amount, potentially increasing your monthly payments significantly. This is often the main reason people choose married filing separately. I'd suggest running the numbers both ways before deciding. Calculate your potential tax liability both ways, then compare that to how much your student loan payments would increase if you file jointly. Sometimes the tax benefits of filing jointly outweigh the student loan payment increase, but not always.
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Grace Thomas
•If they file separately, don't they also lose the ability to contribute to a Roth IRA if their income is over a certain amount? I think the income limit is much lower for married filing separately.
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Justin Chang
•Yes, that's an excellent point I should have mentioned. If you file married filing separately and live with your spouse at any time during the year, the income limit for Roth IRA contributions drops dramatically - you can only make a full contribution if your modified AGI is less than $10,000. Above that, you're not eligible to contribute at all. This is in contrast to married filing jointly, where in 2025 you can make full Roth contributions with income up to around $230,000. So if retirement savings through Roth IRAs is part of your financial plan, this could be a significant disadvantage to filing separately.
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Hunter Brighton
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Kylo Ren
One thing nobody's mentioned yet - if you file separately and your spouse itemizes deductions, you MUST also itemize even if your standard deduction would be higher. This screwed me over last year big time! My wife had medical expenses that made itemizing beneficial for her, but I had almost no deductions. I still had to itemize and lost out on about $2,000 of my standard deduction. Something to consider if one of you has significant deductions the other doesn't.
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Wesley Hallow
•Thank you for mentioning this! I had no idea about this rule. Neither of us has enough deductions to itemize currently, but that's really good information to have. Would this apply even if only one of us has student loans? Or is that not related to the itemizing issue?
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Kylo Ren
•The student loan situation itself doesn't directly affect the itemizing rule. This rule only applies when one spouse chooses to itemize deductions - then the other spouse MUST also itemize, even if it's not beneficial. The student loans come into play in your decision about whether to file jointly or separately. If you file separately to keep your loan payments lower, then this itemizing rule could potentially become relevant if either of you has enough deductions to make itemizing worthwhile.
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Nina Fitzgerald
Just went thru this with my wife. We file separately even tho we lose some tax benefits bcuz her student loans r on PAYE (pay as you earn). We figured out we save like $4,300 a year on loan payments but only lose like $1,800 in tax benefits. BUT big warning - when u file separate u lose education credits, child tax credits, earned income credit, and cant contribute to Roth IRA if u make over $10k. Also cant deduct student loan interest. Def crunch the #s both ways!!
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Jason Brewer
•Did filing separately affect your ability to buy a house? We're in a similar situation but planning to apply for a mortgage next year and I'm worried that filing separately will make it harder to qualify.
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