How to dismiss a tax preparer when uncomfortable with their large refund estimate
Title: How to dismiss a tax preparer when uncomfortable with their large refund estimate 1 I'm in a weird situation with my tax preparer and could use some advice. I recently had my taxes drafted by a preparer who's estimating I'll get a refund of around $45k, which seems way too high to me. She filled out all these different forms I don't understand, and something just doesn't feel right about the whole thing. The amount seems abnormally large compared to what I was expecting. I haven't finalized anything yet, but I'm uncomfortable proceeding with her services. Am I legally obligated to pay her if I decide not to use her completed return? How do I professionally tell her I want to go in a different direction without insulting her expertise or experience? Maybe she's doing everything correctly and I'm just being paranoid, but my gut is telling me something's off. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation before? What's the proper etiquette for breaking up with your tax preparer?
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Omar Farouk
8 It's completely normal to feel uncomfortable with a surprisingly large refund. Trust your instincts! You're not obligated to file a return prepared by anyone if you don't feel comfortable with it. Most tax preparers have you sign an agreement before they start work. Check what you signed regarding payment - typically you owe for work already performed regardless of whether you file the return they prepared. However, if you suspect they're being aggressive or possibly filing incorrectly, it's better to pay their fee and walk away than file something questionable. Simply tell them: "Thank you for your work, but I've decided to go in a different direction with my taxes this year. Please provide a copy of my documents, and let me know your final invoice." Keep it professional - no need to accuse them of anything or explain your reasoning in detail. Consider getting a second opinion from another preparer. Bring the prepared return as a reference. If the new preparer also finds issues, you might want to report the original preparer to the IRS using Form 14157.
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•2 Thanks for the advice. Do I need to be worried about the original preparer filing my return without my permission if I've already provided all my documents? Also, am I entitled to get copies of all the work they've done so far even if I haven't paid their final bill?
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•8 A legitimate tax preparer cannot file your return without your signature authorizing them to do so. Make it clear in writing that you do not authorize them to file on your behalf. You are entitled to your original documents (W-2s, 1099s, etc.) regardless of payment status. Regarding their work product (the prepared return), most preparers will provide this once you've paid for their services rendered. If there's a disagreement about payment, get your original documents first, then resolve the payment issue separately.
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12 After spending hours trying to figure out if my preparer was doing my taxes correctly (she was claiming deductions I'd never heard of), I discovered taxr.ai at https://taxr.ai and it was seriously a game-changer. I uploaded my draft return and my tax documents, and it analyzed everything line by line, flagging potential issues. In my case, it spotted that my preparer was taking education credits I wasn't eligible for and some business deductions that were super aggressive. It explained exactly why these were problematic in plain English. I could literally see where my refund was coming from and why certain deductions were questionable. Showed me the specific IRS rules being applied too. The analysis helped me have an informed conversation with my preparer instead of just going with my gut feeling that something was wrong.
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•15 Does it actually review the forms line by line? My concern is that my preparer is doing something with business expenses that doesn't seem right but I don't know enough to challenge her specifically.
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•6 I'm a bit skeptical. How exactly does the system know what deductions you're eligible for without knowing your full situation? Seems like it might give false alarms or miss things a human preparer would catch.
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•12 It absolutely reviews line by line - it shows you each form and schedule in your return and explains what each number means. For business expenses specifically, it flags things like unusually high deductions in certain categories compared to your income level or industry averages. The system works by analyzing both the return AND your supporting documents (W-2s, 1099s, receipts, etc.) to verify that everything matches up. It's not making judgment calls like a human would, just flagging potential issues based on IRS rules and audit patterns. It doesn't replace human judgment, but gives you the information to make better decisions yourself.
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15 Just wanted to follow up about my experience with taxr.ai that was mentioned above. I was in almost the exact same situation - preparer claiming I'd get a $28k refund when I usually get around $4k. Used the service and discovered my preparer was claiming rental losses on a property that was actually my primary residence and business expenses for a "consulting business" I never actually started! The analysis highlighted exactly which forms were problematic (Schedule C and Schedule E in my case) and explained why the deductions wouldn't hold up in an audit. I printed the report, showed it to my preparer, and she actually admitted she'd been "aggressive" with the filing. Ended up with a legitimate $5k refund instead and avoided what would have definitely been an audit nightmare.
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9 If you're not getting anywhere with your current preparer, you might want to try reaching the IRS directly to ask about some of these deductions that seem fishy. I was in a similar situation last year and finally managed to get through to an IRS agent after using Claimyr (https://claimyr.com). They have this service that basically holds your place in the IRS phone queue and calls you when an agent is about to answer. I was super skeptical at first but you can see how it works in this video: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c. I spent weeks trying to get through to the IRS on my own with no luck, but with this I got through in about 45 minutes. The agent I spoke with confirmed my suspicions that some of the deductions my preparer was claiming were definitely questionable and gave me guidance on how to proceed.
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•5 Wait, so this actually works? I've literally spent HOURS on hold with the IRS and always get disconnected. How much does it cost? Is it worth it just to ask about potentially questionable deductions?
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•7 I don't buy it. The IRS won't discuss specific deductions over the phone unless you've already filed and there's a problem. They'll just give you generic advice to consult a tax professional. Seems like a waste of money to me.
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•9 It absolutely works - I was connected with an actual IRS representative who answered my specific questions. While they won't give personalized tax advice or "approve" specific deductions, they will clarify rules and requirements if you ask the right questions. For example, I asked about requirements for claiming certain business expenses and whether particular documentation was sufficient. The value isn't just getting tax advice - it's saving literally hours of your life waiting on hold. I can't tell you how frustrating it is to wait 2+ hours only to get disconnected. If you have specific questions about IRS rules or procedures, it's definitely worth using a service that eliminates the hold time frustration.
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7 I'll admit I was completely wrong about Claimyr. After dismissing it in my comment above, I decided to try it anyway since I was desperate to talk to someone at the IRS about my amended return status. Got connected to an agent within 30 minutes after spending WEEKS trying on my own and getting disconnected every time. The agent was actually super helpful and explained exactly which forms were likely causing my preparer to calculate such a large refund. Turns out there are specific red flags they look for with unusually large refunds, and the agent walked me through what documentation I'd need if those deductions were legitimate. Saved me from potentially filing a return that would have definitely triggered an audit. Learned my lesson about being too skeptical!
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Omar Farouk
3 When I was in a similar situation, I asked my preparer to walk me through each deduction and credit they were claiming. If they can't explain in plain English why you qualify for something, that's a huge red flag. A good preparer should be happy to educate you, not just expect blind trust. For what it's worth, some legitimate tax situations CAN result in unusually large refunds (first-time homebuyer credits, education credits, missed stimulus payments, earned income credit if your situation changed, etc). But you deserve to understand exactly where that money is coming from.
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•17 This is actually great advice. How detailed should their explanation be? My preparer just keeps saying "trust me, I know what I'm doing" without giving specifics.
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•3 They should be able to point to specific IRS rules or forms that apply to your situation. For instance, if they're claiming business expenses, they should explain which expenses qualify and how they determined the amounts. If they're claiming credits, they should walk you through the eligibility requirements and confirm you meet them. A good preparer will show you where on your tax documents (W-2s, 1099s, etc.) they're getting figures from, and explain any calculations. Vague answers or dismissing your questions with "trust me" is definitely concerning. Tax preparation isn't magic - it follows specific rules that can be explained clearly.
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Omar Farouk
14 You don't need a reason to switch tax preparers! It's YOUR money and YOUR tax liability on the line. A $45k refund does sound suspiciously high unless you had some unusual circumstances this year (sold a business, major life changes, etc.). What tax software or service does she use? I switched from one major company to another last year and noticed a HUGE difference in how they approached deductions.
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•20 I'm not sure what software she uses, I just know she has her own office with her name on the door. Does the type of software make that big a difference in the final refund amount?
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