How to claim our newborn on tax return for maximum child tax credit?
Hey tax folks, I'm looking for some advice as a new parent. My girlfriend and I have a 4-month-old baby, and I'm a stay-at-home mom while she works to support our little family. This is our first baby and we're trying to figure out the smartest way to handle our taxes this year. Here's our situation: My girlfriend makes around $65k before taxes at her current W2 job. She hasn't filed taxes for a few years because she was working temp jobs through agencies and wasn't making much. I don't have any income since I'm home with the baby full-time. We're wondering what would give us the biggest tax benefit/refund: Should she claim me and our baby as dependents on her return? Or should we file separately with me claiming our child? We're really hoping to maximize the child tax credit since we're saving up for our first home purchase. Any advice about the best approach for new parents in our situation would be super helpful! Thanks!
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Ryan Young
Congratulations on your new baby! This is a great question and definitely worth planning ahead. Since you don't have income, you can't claim the Child Tax Credit yourself - you need earned income to benefit from it. Your girlfriend would likely benefit more by claiming both you and the baby if she qualifies to file as Head of Household (which she might if she provides more than half the household expenses). For her to claim you as a dependent, your income needs to be under $4,700 for 2025, and she must provide more than half of your financial support. As for claiming your child, the parent who the child lives with more than half the year typically claims them (which sounds like both of you equally). The Child Tax Credit is worth up to $2,000 per qualifying child for 2025 with up to $1,600 being refundable. Your girlfriend's income of $65k is well within the limits to receive the full credit. Regarding her unfiled past returns, she should get those filed ASAP. The IRS can hold current year refunds if there are unfiled prior returns, and she might be missing out on refunds from those years too.
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Sophia Clark
•If they're not married, can she really claim Head of Household? I thought you had to be legally single and not living with a spouse/partner to claim that filing status. Also, does the girlfriend meet the "qualifying relative" tests to be claimed as a dependent?
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Ryan Young
•You're asking good questions. The girlfriend can claim Head of Household if she's unmarried, pays more than half the cost of keeping up the home, and has a qualifying person living with her (in this case, their child). Living with a partner doesn't disqualify you from HOH status - it's about your legal marital status and having a qualifying dependent. For claiming the original poster as a dependent, they would need to meet the "qualifying relative" tests: income under $4,700, receiving more than half their support from the girlfriend, living together all year, and not being eligible to be claimed by anyone else. Since OP mentions staying home with no income, they might qualify.
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Katherine Harris
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Madison Allen
•Does it work for more complicated situations? Like if there's child support involved or if the parents live in different states? My ex and I alternate years claiming our kid but I'm thinking we're leaving money on the table.
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Joshua Wood
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Katherine Harris
•It definitely handles complicated situations - that's actually where it shines. It can analyze scenarios with split custody, child support, multiple sources of income, and even multi-state issues. It specifically looks at how different claiming arrangements affect both parents' tax situations. For your second question, this is different from TurboTax or H&R Block because it focuses specifically on optimizing dependent-related tax benefits rather than just walking you through the filing process. You would still use your regular tax software/service to file, but now you'd know exactly how to answer those dependent questions for maximum benefit. It's more of a strategic planning tool rather than a filing tool.
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Joshua Wood
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Justin Evans
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Emily Parker
•How does this actually work? The IRS phone system is notoriously impossible to navigate. So this service somehow gets you to the front of the line? That seems too good to be true honestly.
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Ezra Collins
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Victoria Scott
One thing nobody's mentioned yet - if your girlfriend claims Head of Household with your child as her qualifying person, she'll get a significantly better tax bracket than filing as Single. In 2025, HOH filing status has wider tax brackets and a higher standard deduction ($20,800 vs $14,600 for Single filers). Also worth noting that if she qualifies for Earned Income Credit with a qualifying child, that could be worth up to $3,995 depending on her exact income. This is ON TOP OF the Child Tax Credit everyone's been mentioning. All these credits and deductions could potentially mean several thousand dollars more in her refund!
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Benjamin Johnson
•How does someone prove they're eligible for Head of Household status if they're audited? My tax guy always warns me about claiming this when I'm not 100% sure.
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Victoria Scott
•To prove Head of Household eligibility during an audit, you'd need documentation showing: 1) You paid more than half the costs of keeping up the home (rent/mortgage receipts, utility bills, grocery receipts, etc.), 2) You have a qualifying person who lived with you for more than half the year (school records, medical records, birth certificate for a child), and 3) You're unmarried or considered unmarried for tax purposes. It's definitely worth claiming if you qualify, as the tax benefits are substantial. The IRS mainly wants to see that you're financially responsible for the household and have a qualifying dependent. Keep good records of your expenses if you're concerned about potential audit risk.
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Zara Perez
Just a warning - if your girlfriend hasn't filed in "a few years" she needs to get caught up before claiming these credits. The IRS is cracking down HARD on unfiled returns, especially when people suddenly file claiming refundable credits like the Child Tax Credit. Has she been getting notices from the IRS about unfiled returns? If she was working W2 jobs, even small ones, the IRS knows about that income. If they're already processed substitute returns for her, it can complicate things. The IRS can hold your current refund until all prior required returns are filed. Don't let that catch you by surprise when you're counting on that money for a house!
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Daniel Rogers
•Do they really check past filings before issuing refunds? I thought they just processed what you submitted for the current year.
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