Divorce finalized late in the year - tax filing consequences?
Just found out my divorce (technically legal separation but IRS treats it the same) was finalized in October this year, meaning I have to file as single. Problem is, I never updated my withholdings with my employer since I didn't realize I'd be considered single for the ENTIRE tax year. From January through September, I financially supported my ex-wife completely as she doesn't have a job. But apparently I can't claim her as a dependent because we didn't live together the full year and she's not related to me anymore. Now I'm looking at owing around $12,000 in taxes! Is there any way I can claim the support I provided (9 months of paying her rent, food, medical expenses) as a gift? Those expenses added up to a ton of money. Really stressing about this unexpected tax hit - any advice would be seriously appreciated.
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Zoe Stavros
This is unfortunately a common issue when divorces happen mid-year. The IRS does treat legal separation the same as divorce for filing status purposes, and you're correct that you'll need to file as Single for the entire year. Your former spouse doesn't qualify as your dependent since you're no longer related after the divorce and didn't live together the full year. The support you provided can't be claimed as a deduction, but there is a distinction between support and gifts. Financial support provided to an ex-spouse outside of a formal alimony agreement could potentially be considered a gift. For 2025, you can give up to $18,000 to any individual without filing a gift tax return. Amounts over that would require filing Form 709, but you wouldn't owe any gift tax until you exceed your lifetime exemption (which is in the millions). However, gifts don't reduce your income tax liability - they're not deductible expenses.
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Jamal Harris
•Wait, so the payments to the ex aren't considered alimony? I thought alimony was tax deductible? Or did that change with some tax law? My buddy went through something similar last year and I think he got to deduct his payments.
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Zoe Stavros
•The Tax Cuts and Jobs Act eliminated the tax deduction for alimony for divorces finalized after December 31, 2018. For divorces before that date, alimony was deductible for the payer and taxable income for the recipient. For divorces after 2018, alimony payments have no tax impact - they're not deductible by the payer and not taxable income for the recipient. This significant change has caught many people by surprise.
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Andre Moreau
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Dylan Cooper
Could you possibly claim Head of Household status instead of Single? If you had a qualifying dependent living with you for more than half the year (like a child), you might qualify for Head of Household even though you're divorced. The tax rates are better than filing as Single. Worth looking into if you have kids or another qualifying dependent!
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Andre Moreau
•No kids unfortunately. It was just me and my ex-wife. We don't have any dependents together, and no one else lived with us. Based on what everyone's saying, looks like I'm stuck with the Single filing status and this huge tax bill. Just wish I'd known about this earlier in the year so I could have adjusted my withholdings.
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Dylan Cooper
•That's tough, sorry to hear it. Without a qualifying dependent, you're right that Single is your only option. For next year, definitely update your W-4 with your employer ASAP to avoid withholding problems. One thing to consider is whether you might qualify for any tax credits based on your situation. The Saver's Credit could apply if you contributed to retirement accounts and your income isn't too high. There might also be education credits if you paid any tuition or student loan interest.
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Sofia Ramirez
Just a heads up - this might be minor, but if you paid any medical expenses for your ex while you were still married (even if you can't claim her as a dependent), those expenses might be deductible if your total medical expenses exceed 7.5% of your adjusted gross income. Keep all receipts and documentation. Divorce tax situations are always messy, but documenting everything helps.
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Dmitry Volkov
•This is good advice. Also, don't forget about any legal fees specifically related to tax advice during your divorce. Those might be deductible too, even though general divorce attorney fees aren't. My accountant helped me identify about $1,800 in deductible legal fees from my divorce last year that were specifically for tax consultation.
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