Can my parent claim me as a dependent if I'm 23, financially independent, and live elsewhere?

I'm a 23-year-old about to turn 24 next month and I've got a tax filing question. My situation is that my parents are separated, and I've been living with my dad for roughly 2 years now. I work full-time and support myself financially. Last year when I filed taxes for the first time, my mom insisted that she needed to claim me as her dependent because I was on her health insurance. She took me to H&R Block and handled everything, so I just went along with it without questioning much. Now this year, she's saying the same thing even though I'm no longer on her insurance (I got coverage through my employer). She's already filed her taxes claiming me as a dependent and wants me to go with her again to file my taxes when I get my W-2. Something feels off about this situation. I don't live with my mom, she doesn't provide any financial support, I have my own job and insurance now. Should she legally be able to claim me? Does this impact my tax return? I wasn't planning to claim myself as a dependent, but I'm confused about whether what she's doing is correct. Am I missing something here?

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QuantumQuest

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You're right to question this! For your mom to legally claim you as a dependent, you need to meet specific tests for a "qualifying child" or "qualifying relative." As a 23-year-old who doesn't live with her, you likely don't qualify as her dependent. The qualifying child test typically requires you to be under 19 (or under 24 if a full-time student) AND live with the parent for more than half the year. The qualifying relative test requires that the person claiming you provides more than half your support during the year. Based on what you've described - you live with your dad, support yourself financially, have your own job and insurance - it sounds like your mom shouldn't be claiming you. This can impact your taxes significantly because if she incorrectly claims you, you cannot claim your own personal exemption. You should definitely file your own taxes and claim yourself. If your mom has already filed claiming you incorrectly, the IRS may flag this when you file, and she may need to file an amended return.

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QuantumQuest

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If there are conflicting tax returns where two people are essentially claiming the same exemption, the IRS will likely send notices to both parties asking for clarification. This doesn't automatically trigger a full audit, but both parties will need to substantiate their claims. Regarding whether this is tax fraud - it depends on intent. If the mother genuinely believed she was entitled to claim her child as a dependent (perhaps misunderstanding the rules or receiving incorrect advice), it would generally be considered an error rather than fraud. However, if she knowingly claimed the exemption when she wasn't entitled to it, especially after being informed otherwise, that could potentially be considered fraudulent.

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Fatima Al-Hashemi

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Based on what you're describing, your mom is 100% filing incorrectly. I'm an accounting student, and we just covered this exact topic last semester. For her to claim you as a dependent: 1. You'd need to be under 19, OR under 24 and a full-time student 2. You'd need to live with her for more than half the year 3. You can't provide more than half of your own support You're failing at least two of these tests (maybe all three). Living with your dad and supporting yourself means she can't claim you. Period. You should file your own taxes claiming yourself. When the IRS gets conflicting returns, they'll send her a letter asking for proof that she can claim you (which she can't provide). Don't let her push you into filing incorrectly - that's asking for trouble down the road.

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Fatima Al-Hashemi

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Health insurance alone doesn't qualify someone as a dependent. Your aunt may have been filing incorrectly, or there might be other factors at play that made your cousin qualify as her dependent. For a qualifying child, the relationship, age, residency, and support tests must all be met. For a qualifying relative, the person cannot be your qualifying child or anyone else's qualifying child, you must provide more than half their support, and they must have very low income. Being on someone's health insurance policy is just one factor in the support test, but it doesn't override the other requirements.

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Madison King

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This is a really common situation that many young adults face when transitioning to financial independence. Based on your description, your mom should not be claiming you as a dependent this year. The key tests for dependency are pretty clear-cut: - Age test: You're 23 (almost 24), so you'd need to be a full-time student to qualify under the age requirement - Residency test: You live with your dad, not your mom - Support test: You support yourself financially through your full-time job The fact that you were previously on her health insurance doesn't matter now that you have your own coverage through work. Even when you were on her plan, that alone wouldn't have qualified you as her dependent if you failed the other tests. You should absolutely file your own taxes and claim yourself. Don't let her pressure you into filing incorrectly again. If she's already filed claiming you, the IRS will flag the discrepancy when you file your return. They'll send both of you letters asking for documentation to prove who can legitimately claim the exemption. Keep records of your employment, where you live, and how you support yourself - you'll need this if the IRS asks for proof. This situation might be uncomfortable with your mom, but filing correctly is important for your financial future.

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Ravi Sharma

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This is really helpful advice! I'm actually in a somewhat similar situation where my parents are divorced and there's confusion about who should claim me. One thing I'm wondering about - if the IRS sends those letters asking for documentation, what exactly do they want to see? Like would pay stubs and a lease agreement be enough, or do they need more detailed financial records showing exactly how much support you provided for yourself versus what your parent provided?

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