Can my ex-wife and I alternate claiming our college student son as dependent for tax benefits?
My son just turned 18 and is heading off to college next month. His mom (my ex) has had primary custody since our divorce was finalized about 12 years ago, and she's claimed him as a dependent on her taxes every single year since then. We've both been putting money aside - I've got some US savings bonds and she's been building up a 529 plan. As you probably know, both of these options give some decent tax advantages when you use them for a dependent child's college expenses. Here's what we're wondering... if we both agree to it, would it be possible for us to basically take turns claiming him as a dependent? Like maybe she claims him for 2024 (this year), then I claim him for 2025, and we just alternate years? That way we could both get the education tax breaks in the years when we're claiming him. We're on pretty decent terms and just want to maximize the financial benefits for our son's education. Is this even allowed by the IRS? Would there be any complications we should know about? Thanks for any advice!
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AstroAce
Yes, you and your ex-wife can agree to alternate claiming your son as a dependent, but there are some important things to understand first. For a child of divorced parents, the IRS typically gives the dependency claim to the custodial parent (the one the child lives with most of the time). However, the custodial parent can release their claim to the non-custodial parent by filling out Form 8332 (Release of Claim to Exemption for Child by Custodial Parent). What you're suggesting - alternating years - is perfectly legal if your ex-wife signs Form 8332 for the years you'll claim your son. Be aware that in years when you claim him, you'll get tax benefits like the education credits (American Opportunity Credit or Lifetime Learning Credit), while in years your ex claims him, she'll get those benefits. For the US savings bonds, the education exclusion is tied to who claims the student as a dependent that year. Same with certain benefits of the 529 plans. So your strategy makes sense to maximize tax benefits between both parents.
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Yuki Kobayashi
•Does this Form 8332 need to be filed every year they switch, or can they file it once stating they'll alternate years?
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AstroAce
•The Form 8332 can be completed to cover multiple future years, so you don't need to file a new form each year. You can specify exactly which tax years you're releasing the claim for - in your case, you could list all the odd or even years through your son's college education. If circumstances change and you need to revoke the release for future years, the custodial parent can do that too using Part III of Form 8332.
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Liam Sullivan
One thing nobody mentioned yet - if your son gets financial aid, be careful about how you handle 529 distributions. If the non-custodial parent (you) takes a distribution from YOUR 529 when your ex claims him as a dependent, it can be counted as untaxed income to the student on next year's FAFSA, which could reduce aid eligibility. Sometimes it's better to coordinate which parent pays which expenses rather than just alternating years. Maybe your ex uses her 529 for freshman and junior year, while you use your savings bonds for sophomore and senior year.
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Ethan Clark
•That's a really good point I hadn't considered. Do you know if there's any specific documentation we should keep if we do it that way? And would it matter which accounts we use first?
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Liam Sullivan
•Keep all distribution statements from both the 529 plan and when you cash savings bonds, along with documentation showing exactly which qualified education expenses were paid from each source. Match these up with the tuition statements from the college. Generally it's better to use 529 funds first, since savings bonds have more flexibility for future use if your son gets scholarships or doesn't need all the funds. Plus the savings bonds continue to earn interest if held longer, while 529 plans are subject to market performance. Also remember savings bonds have income limits for the education exclusion that 529 plans don't have.
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Amara Okafor
Make sure you understand the rules for "support" with college students! My ex and I got audited because we misunderstood this. For kids in college, their scholarships, grants and student loans in THEIR name count toward THEIR contribution to their own support. If your son gets enough scholarships/loans, he might actually be providing more than half of his own support (room, board, etc), which means NEITHER of you could claim him!
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Giovanni Colombo
•That's not entirely accurate. Scholarships used for tuition and required fees don't count as support provided by either parent or the student. Only scholarships for room and board count toward support calculations.
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