Sister supports Mom and Nephew but Absent Ex-Wife claimed Nephew on taxes - What now?
Need advice on a frustrating dependent claim situation: • My sister is the sole provider for our household, which includes our elderly mother and my nephew (who is my brother's son) • She works remotely and covers all housing/living expenses for both dependents • When filing her 2023 taxes, she attempted to claim my nephew as a dependent • System rejected her claim because apparently my deceased brother's ex-wife already claimed him • Important context: This ex-wife has been completely absent from my nephew's life for YEARS • My sister meets all the support tests for claiming him (provides >50% support, he lives with her full-time) What's the correct process to resolve this? Should she paper file with documentation? Request an audit? I'm trying to help her navigate this from my home office but getting nowhere with the IRS website.
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Zara Mirza
This is probably a case where your sister needs to paper file her return... I believe the IRS will then review both returns claiming the same dependent and make a determination. She should be prepared to provide evidence that she's the qualifying person to claim the child, such as school records showing the child lives with her, medical records, etc. It might take some time to resolve, but if she truly provides more than half the support and the child lives with her, she should prevail in this situation.
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Luca Russo
Under IRC Section 152(c) and (e), the qualifying child rules give preference to the parent who has custody. Since the absent mother doesn't have custody and the child lives with your sister, your sister would need to file Form 8332 (Release of Claim) only if there was a divorce decree giving the ex-wife the right to claim the child. Without that, your sister should paper file with a complete explanation and documentation of the living situation.
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Nia Harris
Has your sister considered what documentation she has available? School records showing her address for the child? Medical appointments she's taken him to? Daycare receipts? These will be critical in establishing her case with the IRS, wouldn't they? And what about the possibility that the ex-wife might have some custody agreement we don't know about from before your brother passed?
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GalaxyGazer
Went through almost this EXACT situation last year with my niece. My sister (not the bio mom) was raising her, and the absent bio mom swooped in and claimed her on taxes. What a headache! 😤 We had to paper file with tons of documentation - school records, doctor's appointment records, utility bills showing the address, even affidavits from neighbors. Took about 4 months to resolve but my sister eventually got her refund with the dependent credit. The IRS actually went after the bio mom for fraudulent claims. Turns out claiming a kid you don't actually support is *gasp* tax fraud! Who knew?
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Mateo Sanchez
I found so much helpful information on this at irs.gov/dependents when I went through something similar. The tiebreaker rules are actually pretty clear - physical custody and financial support are the main factors. If you search "Publication 501 qualifying child" you'll find the exact rules that apply in these situations. Saved me so much confusion!
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Aisha Mahmood
It's perhaps worth mentioning that the IRS might, in some cases, issue the refund to both parties initially and then conduct an audit later. They sometimes do this when they can't immediately determine which claim is valid. Your sister should be prepared to possibly receive the refund but then need to defend her claim if the IRS follows up with questions.
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Ethan Moore
I had this EXACT problem with my stepson last year. His mom hadn't seen him in 2 years but claimed him anyway. I spent literally 3 weeks trying to get through to the IRS on their regular number - constant busy signals or disconnects after waiting for hours. Finally used Claimyr.com and got through to an agent in like 15 minutes. The agent walked me through exactly what documentation to submit with my paper return and how to write the explanation letter. Saved me so much stress during an already stressful situation. Here's their link if you want to check it out: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c
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Yuki Kobayashi
Did they charge you for this service? I've been trying to reach the IRS for days about a similar issue and keep getting disconnected.
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Carmen Vega
How long did it take after you submitted the paper return? I'm facing a 76-day wait according to the IRS representative I finally reached, and I'm wondering if that's typical or if I should expect even longer.
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QuantumQuester
OMG I literally just went thru this last yr! My bf's kid was claimed by his ex who hadn't seen the kid in like 18 mos. We paper filed w/ Form 8862 and included: school records showing our address, medical bills we paid, and a letter explaining the situation. Got approved after about 8 wks. The key is having proof the kid actually lives w/ ur sister. The IRS actually takes these cases pretty seriously bc a lot of ppl try to claim kids they don't actually support. Good luck!
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Zara Mirza
Did you have to file an amended return, or did you simply paper file your original return with the documentation? I'm wondering about the process timing since e-filing is usually faster, but not an option in these cases.
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GalaxyGazer
Did the IRS contact the ex at all during this process? I'm worried about stirring up drama with my ex if I have to go through this. She might suddenly decide she wants to be involved again just to be difficult. 🙄
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Andre Moreau
Be prepared for a long wait. My cousin had this happen with her stepson two years ago, and it took almost 9 months to resolve. The ex-wife had claimed him despite not having seen him in over a year. The worst part was that my cousin's refund was held up the entire time - over $5,000 with the Child Tax Credit. She ended up having to take out a loan to cover expenses she had been counting on that refund for. Make sure your sister has a financial backup plan while this gets sorted.
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Zoe Stavros
This is a classic IRC Section 152(e) conflict scenario. The resolution pathway depends on several factors: 1. If there's a Form 8332 signed by the custodial parent (which seems unlikely given your description) 2. If there's a pre-2009 divorce instrument specifically allocating the exemption 3. The application of the tiebreaker rules in absence of the above In your case, the tiebreaker rules would likely apply, with residency being the primary factor (where the child lived for the majority of nights during the tax year). Your sister should complete Form 8862 (Information To Claim Certain Credits After Disallowance) along with her paper return and include substantial documentation proving residence and support.
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Ethan Moore
Would this situation qualify for the Earned Income Credit too, or just the Child Tax Credit? I'm dealing with something similar and trying to figure out which credits are affected by these dependent disputes.
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