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Mateo Martinez

How to get a parent to file taxes for FAFSA processing

So I'm at my wit's end here. My stepfather is refusing to file his taxes, and it's completely messing up my college financial situation. Last year, he didn't file and my FAFSA couldn't be processed, forcing my parents to pay for my tuition out-of-pocket. This year, I have an amazing opportunity - a scholarship donor who will cover my ENTIRE tuition plus give me $650 monthly for rent and additional money for textbooks and supplies. But here's the catch: they require my FAFSA to be processed completely. My stepfather is now saying I'm "ungrateful" and that he's "obligated" to pay for my expenses anyway. I've tried explaining that if he'd just file his taxes, he wouldn't have to pay anything, but he seems to prefer complaining to the family about how expensive I am instead of taking this simple step. This isn't new behavior - he's chronically late filing taxes or skips years entirely. He's done this to his biological kids too, and they ended up with massive student loans as a result. Is there any legal leverage I can use to make him file? I desperately want financial independence from him. He already took back the car he gave me during a family disagreement, and I can't support myself and my partner in our car-dependent city without transportation. Could I involve a lawyer? What options do I have to escape this financial manipulation?

Oh man, this is a tough situation that unfortunately affects many students. The FAFSA system assumes parents will cooperate, but reality isn't always so simple. First, let's clarify something important - you actually have some options that don't require forcing your stepfather to file taxes. For FAFSA purposes, you might qualify for a "dependency override" based on what sounds like a difficult family situation. This would allow you to file FAFSA without your parents' tax information. To pursue this, you need to contact your school's financial aid office and explain your circumstances. They have the authority to grant these overrides in cases of parental refusal to provide information, especially when there's evidence of a problematic relationship. Document everything - texts, emails, anything showing his refusal to file taxes despite knowing the consequences for your education. Also, the financial aid office can help you complete a "Special Circumstances" form, which allows them to make adjustments to your financial aid package based on your unique situation. As for legal options - unfortunately, there's no legal mechanism to force someone to file their taxes for FAFSA purposes. The IRS might eventually come after him for not filing, but that's between him and the IRS, not something you can initiate to help your immediate situation.

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Thank you for this information! I had no idea about dependency overrides. Do you know what kind of documentation the financial aid office typically requires for something like this? Also, would getting a dependency override affect the scholarship I mentioned?

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For dependency overrides, financial aid offices typically want documentation that clearly shows your situation. This can include written statements from you explaining the circumstances, plus supporting letters from third parties who know your situation - like counselors, teachers, clergy, or social workers. Texts or emails showing your stepfather refusing to provide information are also helpful. Regarding your scholarship, a dependency override shouldn't negatively affect it. If anything, it might help since your financial need may appear greater without parent contributions. I'd recommend discussing this specific concern with both your financial aid office and the scholarship provider to ensure everything aligns properly.

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Does this actually work for people who are deliberately refusing to file though? My mom pulls the same crap and I think it's more about control than confusion for her.

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I'm curious how it handles multiple years of unfiled taxes? My stepmom is like 3 years behind and claims it's "too overwhelming" to catch up now.

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For someone deliberately refusing to file, you're right that the issue is more complicated than just simplifying the process. However, I've found that sometimes what looks like stubborn refusal is actually embarrassment or fear about how complex catching up might be. The service can at least remove that excuse from the equation. For multiple years of unfiled taxes, that's actually one of the things taxr.ai handles really well. It organizes everything by year and breaks down exactly which forms are needed for each period. It creates a step-by-step catch-up plan that makes the whole process way less overwhelming. My dad was about 2 years behind, and the roadmap it created made catching up much more manageable than he expected.

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I was really skeptical about using any kind of tax service after reading this thread, but I decided to try taxr.ai after my situation with my stepmom's unfiled taxes reached a breaking point with my financial aid. Just wanted to update that it actually worked in our case! The document breakdown and explanations were clear enough that even my tech-phobic stepmom could follow them. What really made the difference was the "consequences explanation" feature that spelled out exactly what would happen if she didn't file (including potential penalties) vs. how filing would benefit both her and me. The scholarship documentation section was particularly helpful because it created a clear connection between her tax filing and my ability to receive funds. Once she saw everything laid out logically, the emotional manipulation tactics she'd been using kind of fell apart. We're still not on great terms, but at least my FAFSA is finally processing! Sometimes just having a neutral third party spell things out can remove some of the family drama element.

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Sorry but I'm really doubtful this works. I've tried literally everything to get through to the IRS about my parents' situation and nothing works. How could some random service succeed where everything else fails?

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It's not a scam - they use a technology that essentially waits on hold for you and calls you back when they reach a real person. No magic, just automated hold technology. When I used it, I got the call back in about 12 minutes and was connected right away to an IRS agent. The service basically navigates the IRS phone tree for you, stays on hold so you don't have to, and then connects you when they reach a human. I was skeptical too until I tried it. The information I got directly from the IRS agent was exactly what I needed to move forward with my financial aid office - they explained exactly what forms I needed to submit for my situation.

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Wanted to update on my situation after trying Claimyr. I honestly can't believe it worked. After months of failing to get through to the IRS about my dependency status issues, I got connected to an actual IRS representative in about 20 minutes. The agent walked me through exactly what documentation I needed for a dependency override with my school's financial aid office, and even emailed me the specific forms I needed. They also explained that my parents refusing to file taxes for FAFSA purposes doesn't exempt them from their IRS filing obligations, which was useful information to share with my parents. I finally got my financial aid sorted out for the semester! Having official documentation and guidance from the actual IRS made my financial aid office take my situation much more seriously. Sometimes having that official guidance makes all the difference.

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I went through this exact situation with my mom. If you're under 24, not married, and don't have children, it's really hard to be considered independent for FAFSA unless you can prove something extreme like abandonment. But here's what worked for me: 1) I scheduled a personal meeting with my financial aid counselor and brought ALL my documentation showing the situation 2) Had my older sister (who experienced the same thing) write a letter confirming this was a pattern 3) Got my therapist to write a letter about the financial manipulation 4) Brought communications showing my stepdad refusing to file taxes They ended up approving a Professional Judgment adjustment which helped me qualify for more financial aid even though I couldn't get fully independent status. It's worth fighting for! The financial aid office has more flexibility than they initially let on.

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Did you have to pay for the therapist letter? I'm in a similar situation but can't afford therapy right now.

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I didn't have to pay specifically for the letter. My therapist wrote it as part of my ongoing treatment. If you can't afford therapy, see if your school has counseling services - they're usually free or very low cost for students. School counselors can often provide similar documentation. Many schools also have legal aid services for students that can help you draft affidavits or formal statements about your situation. Church leaders, high school teachers who know your situation, or even employers who are familiar with your family circumstances can sometimes provide supporting letters too.

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Has anyone tried just filing FAFSA without parent info and checking the "unable to provide parent information" box? I did that and it let me submit, but I got an email from my school saying I need to follow up with the financial aid office. Wondering if this actually works?

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I tried that route last year. You can submit the FAFSA that way, but you'll only be eligible for unsubsidized loans unless you get the dependency override approved. Your school's financial aid office will require additional documentation to consider you for grants or subsidized loans.

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