How are large monetary gifts taxed? Questions about receiving $200k gift from family
So I'm in a bit of a unique situation and could use some tax advice. My brother recently received a substantial settlement from a lawsuit against a major corporation (well into the six figures). He wants to gift my husband and me $200,000 as thanks for all the emotional and financial support we provided during his lengthy legal battle. We've been there for him over the years with everything from covering some bills to just being a shoulder to lean on during the tough times. What we're trying to figure out is: how can he gift us this money without either of us getting hit with massive taxes? Also, how do we properly deposit that much money without raising red flags with banks or the IRS? 😅 We live in different states (he's in Nevada, we're in Michigan), so physically transporting cash seems risky and impractical. I've read horror stories about people traveling with large amounts of cash and having it seized. Is there a legitimate, tax-efficient way to handle this kind of family gift? What's the smartest approach here? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Ravi Sharma
You're actually in luck here! The gift tax is paid by the GIVER, not the receiver. So you and your husband won't owe any taxes on this gift at all - gifts are not considered taxable income to the recipient. For your brother, the current lifetime gift tax exemption is extremely generous - individuals can give up to $13.6 million over their lifetime without paying gift tax (as of 2024-2025). However, he'll need to file a gift tax return (Form 709) if he gives more than the annual exclusion amount, which is $18,000 per person for 2025. Since he's giving $200,000, he can give $18,000 each to you and your husband ($36,000 total) without it counting against his lifetime exemption. The remaining $164,000 will count against his lifetime exemption, but he won't actually pay any tax unless he's already given away millions. For the deposit issue, there's nothing illegal about depositing a large gift check. The bank will file a Currency Transaction Report for deposits over $10,000, but this is routine and nothing to worry about if the money is legitimate (which it is). Just be transparent about where the money came from.
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Freya Larsen
•Wait, so if I understand correctly, OP and her husband won't owe any taxes on this gift? But what about when they deposit it? Won't the IRS come looking for their share? I received $30k from my grandma last year and was terrified about depositing it! Also, could the brother split this up over a few years to avoid hitting those exemption limits?
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Ravi Sharma
•You don't owe any income tax on gifts you receive - that's correct. When you deposit a gift, the bank may file reports for large transactions, but that's just standard procedure and doesn't trigger taxes. The IRS doesn't take "their share" of gifts - the tax system is designed so the giver handles any potential tax implications, not the receiver. Splitting gifts across multiple years can be a smart strategy. If OP's brother gave $36,000 per year (using the annual exclusion for both OP and spouse), he could transfer the full amount over about 6 years without using any of his lifetime exemption. This "spreading" approach works well for planned giving, but isn't necessary to avoid immediate taxes in this situation.
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Omar Hassan
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Chloe Taylor
•How exactly does this taxr.ai thing work? Does it just explain tax law or does it actually help with filing the forms? I'm getting a smaller gift from my aunt ($50k) but still worried about handling it properly.
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ShadowHunter
•I'm a little skeptical about tax tools because they seem to give everyone the same generic advice. How personalized is the analysis? Did it help with state-specific rules? Some states have their own gift tax systems, right?
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Omar Hassan
•It works by analyzing your specific situation through an interview process - much more personalized than generic advice. You input your details, and it gives tailored recommendations for your exact circumstances. It can't file forms for you, but it provides detailed instructions and templates. The analysis is very personalized - it takes into account factors like your state of residence, relationship to the giver, purpose of the gift, and other financial details that might be relevant. Yes, it does address state-specific rules! It flagged that my parents live in Connecticut which has state-level gift tax considerations, while most states don't have their own gift taxes anymore. It would definitely catch any state-specific concerns for OP's situation.
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Chloe Taylor
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Diego Ramirez
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Sean O'Connor
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Diego Ramirez
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Sean O'Connor
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Zara Ahmed
Another option worth considering: your brother could pay certain expenses directly instead of giving cash. Payments made directly to educational institutions for tuition or to medical providers don't count against the annual gift exclusion at all. So if you have kids with college tuition, or upcoming medical expenses, or even if you wanted to refinance your house, he could potentially pay some of those directly and it wouldn't count toward any gift tax limits. Just a thought for reducing some of the gift tax filing requirements.
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Isabella Santos
•That's a really interesting approach I hadn't considered! We do have a 17-year-old who's starting college next fall. So theoretically, my brother could pay the tuition directly to the university and that wouldn't count against his annual gift limit at all? What about things like paying off our mortgage? Would that work the same way if he made a payment directly to the bank?
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Zara Ahmed
•Yes, direct tuition payments to the educational institution are completely exempt from gift tax - no matter the amount! This is an excellent strategy with your 17-year-old starting college. Your brother could pay the full tuition directly to the university with zero gift tax implications. Mortgage payments unfortunately don't qualify for the same direct payment exception. Only tuition and medical expenses get this special treatment. For mortgage assistance, he'd need to use his regular annual gift exclusion ($18,000 per recipient) or lifetime exemption. However, he could still make mortgage payments for you - they'd just count as normal gifts subject to the usual gift tax rules we've been discussing.
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Luca Conti
People are overthinking this. I've received multiple large gifts from family members over the years and the process is simple: 1. Have your brother write a check or do a wire transfer 2. Include a signed gift letter stating it's a no-strings-attached gift 3. Deposit it normally 4. Keep documentation in case of questions Banks file reports for large transactions but that's routine. As long as you're not trying to hide anything (like making multiple smaller deposits to avoid reporting), you're fine. Your brother will need to file the gift tax form, but again, no taxes owed until he exceeds lifetime limits.
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Nia Johnson
•Can confirm this is the right approach. I received a $175k gift from my parents in 2023 and this is exactly what we did. The bank asked a few questions but it was a quick conversation - just be honest about where the money came from. Make sure the gift letter is clear and kept with your records - it's important documentation if questions ever come up later. No need to overcomplicate this!
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Isaac Wright
This is such a generous gift from your brother! Just want to add one more practical tip that helped me when I received a large family gift - consider giving your bank a heads up before making the deposit. I called my bank manager ahead of time to let them know I'd be depositing a large gift check, and it made the whole process smoother. They were able to explain their internal procedures and even helped me understand what documentation they'd need. Some banks can place temporary holds on large deposits while they verify funds, so knowing what to expect can save you stress. Also, since you mentioned you're in Michigan and your brother is in Nevada, wire transfers might be more secure than mailing a large check. Most banks charge around $25-50 for outgoing wires, but it's worth it for that peace of mind with such a substantial amount. Congratulations on having such a thoughtful brother, and best of luck with everything!
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Chloe Delgado
•Great advice about contacting the bank ahead of time! I'm new to this community and dealing with a similar situation - my uncle wants to give me $75k to help with starting my business. The wire transfer suggestion is really smart, especially for interstate transfers. One question though - when you called your bank manager, did they ask for any specific documentation about the gift beforehand, or was it more just a courtesy heads-up? I want to make sure I have everything ready when the time comes. Thanks for sharing your experience!
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