Divorce in progress - Should I file 'Married filing separately' or can I file 'Single' for my taxes?
I'm going through an amicable divorce right now and expecting the final papers to be done by the end of March. I was planning to file my taxes as 'Married Filing Separately' since we're not officially divorced yet. Then my tax guy mentioned I might actually be able to file as 'Single' instead, and now I'm totally confused about which would be better for me. My husband is really pushing for us to file jointly so he can get the tax benefits (of course). If I decide to go with 'Married Filing Separately,' does that mean he has to use that filing status too? Or can he still file differently? Any advice would be super helpful because I'm getting pretty stressed about this whole tax situation on top of the divorce stuff.
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Evan Kalinowski
If you're still legally married on December 31st of the tax year, your filing status options are generally limited to either "Married Filing Jointly" or "Married Filing Separately." Since your divorce won't be finalized until March of this year, you would have been legally married on December 31st of last year, which means you cannot file as "Single" for that tax year. If your spouse files as "Married Filing Separately," you must also use that status. The IRS requires consistency - either both of you file jointly, or both file separately. You can't mix and match filing statuses when you're married. Generally, "Married Filing Jointly" provides more tax benefits than "Married Filing Separately" - the latter often results in higher tax rates and disqualifies you from certain deductions and credits. However, I understand there can be situations during divorce where filing separately makes more sense to keep finances separate.
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The Boss
•Thanks for the clear explanation. So even though we've been living separately for most of last year, I still can't file as "Single" because the divorce wasn't final by Dec 31st? That makes sense. Does this mean if he chooses to file "Married Filing Jointly" and I don't agree to it, he's forced to file "Married Filing Separately" too? He keeps saying I'm costing him money by not filing jointly.
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Evan Kalinowski
•You're correct that your physical living arrangement doesn't determine your filing status - it's your legal marital status as of December 31st that matters. Your spouse cannot file jointly without your consent and signature. If you choose to file separately, he must also file separately. For a joint return, both spouses must agree and sign the return. So if you decide to file separately, he has no choice but to do the same. While he may save money with a joint return, remember that with joint filing, you're both legally responsible for the entire tax return, including any potential issues or liabilities that might arise later.
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Daniel Washington
Just a heads up - if your divorce won't be final until March, you're still legally married for last year's taxes (Dec 31 status is what matters). BUT you might qualify for "Head of Household" status which is MUCH better than Married Filing Separately if: 1) You paid more than half the cost of keeping up your home for the year 2) Your spouse didn't live in the home for the last 6 months of the year 3) You have a qualifying dependent (like your child) Head of Household gives you better tax rates and keeps you separate from your soon-to-be-ex. Worth looking into if your situation matches these requirements!
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The Boss
•I actually do have our kid living with me full-time and my husband moved out last June. So that's more than 6 months apart. Does this mean I could potentially use Head of Household filing status? That would be amazing! What documentation would I need to prove we've been living separately?
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Daniel Washington
•Yes! Based on what you've shared, you likely qualify for Head of Household status, which would be significantly better than Married Filing Separately. For documentation, keep records showing separate addresses - things like your lease/mortgage documents, utility bills, insurance statements, and any legal separation papers. Also maintain records showing you paid more than half the costs of the home where you and your child live. If the IRS questions your filing status, having these documents will support your claim. Make sure you can also document that your child lived with you for more than half the year through school records, medical documents, etc.
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Aurora Lacasse
Im curious what your CPA meant by saying you could file as "Single" when youre not officially divorced. Maybe they meant Head of Household?? Thats the only other option I can think of if your still technically married but living apart.
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Anthony Young
•Sometimes tax preparers use incorrect terminology with clients. A good CPA would never tell someone who's still legally married that they can file as "Single" - that's just wrong. But they might have been referring to Head of Household status, which is technically a separate filing status from both "Single" and "Married Filing Separately.
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Charlotte White
Just went through this exact situation last year. Whatever you do, make sure you understand what your divorce decree will say about future tax filings for any children involved. My ex and I had to go back to court because our decree didn't clearly specify who could claim our daughter in which years, and it was a huge headache. Get that spelled out clearly now to save yourself future problems!
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