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Sofia Hernandez

Can I deduct medical expenses for girlfriend's childbirth from my HSA?

My girlfriend delivered our baby in February 2023, and I paid for all the hospital and delivery costs through my HSA (about $2,850). We're not married, and she isn't on my health insurance plan. I'm trying to figure out the tax situation here. Does using my HSA to pay for her medical expenses create any tax issues since she's not my spouse or dependent? Also, can I still deduct these medical expenses when I file my taxes? I will be claiming our child as a dependent and filing as head of household in North Carolina if that makes any difference to this situation. This is my first time dealing with medical deductions and HSA payments for someone who isn't technically covered under my plan, so I'm pretty confused about how this works with the IRS.

Using your HSA to pay for your girlfriend's childbirth expenses could create some tax complications. Since HSA funds are meant for qualified medical expenses for yourself, your spouse, and your dependents, using it for someone outside that category (like your girlfriend) could make that withdrawal taxable. The IRS may consider that $2,850 as a non-qualified distribution, which means you'd need to report it as income and potentially pay a 20% penalty on top of regular income tax. Your newborn child would qualify as your dependent, but your girlfriend doesn't automatically qualify. For your second question, you can only deduct medical expenses that exceed 7.5% of your adjusted gross income, and only if you itemize deductions rather than taking the standard deduction. Filing as head of household with your child as a dependent is correct, but it doesn't change the HSA rules regarding your girlfriend's expenses.

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Ava Thompson

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Wait, so does this mean he has to pay back the money he took from his HSA plus a penalty? That seems harsh considering it was for the birth of his child. Is there any exception for childbirth situations?

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The HSA withdrawal would be considered taxable income plus a 20% penalty because it was used for someone who doesn't qualify as a dependent or spouse under IRS rules. While the child is your dependent, your girlfriend isn't, so her medical expenses don't qualify for HSA use. There isn't a specific exception for childbirth in this situation. However, any portion of the medical expenses that were specifically for the baby (rather than the mother) after birth might be considered qualified expenses since the child is your dependent. You would need to ask the hospital to itemize which charges were for your girlfriend versus your child.

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How does taxr.ai handle situations where the medical provider doesn't clearly separate charges between mother and baby? My hospital lumped everything into one bill and I'm worried about how to properly document this for tax purposes.

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Does it work for other complicated tax situations too? I have some weird 1099 income alongside W-2s and my accountant charges me a fortune to figure it all out.

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Paolo Rizzo

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Everyone's focusing on the HSA part, but don't forget to look into the Child Tax Credit too since you're claiming the child as a dependent. That can be worth up to $2,000 per qualifying child for 2023, which helps offset some of these costs. Also, check if your state has additional tax benefits for new parents.

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Thanks for bringing up the Child Tax Credit - I hadn't even thought about that! Do you know if there are income limits for claiming it? And are there any other tax benefits I should look into as a new parent?

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Paolo Rizzo

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Yes, there are income limits for the full Child Tax Credit. For 2023, the credit begins to phase out at $200,000 for single filers and heads of household. If you earn more than that, the credit amount reduces by $50 for each $1,000 above the threshold. As for other benefits, definitely look into the Dependent Care Credit if you're paying for childcare so you can work. Also, check if your employer offers a Dependent Care FSA, which lets you set aside pre-tax money for childcare expenses. North Carolina may have additional state-level credits or deductions for dependents, so check your state tax forms too.

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QuantumQuest

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Make sure to keep every medical receipt related to the birth, not just the main hospital bill! My accountant told me things like prenatal vitamins, pregnancy classes, lactation consultants, and post-birth check-ups all count as medical expenses. Might help you reach that 7.5% AGI threshold for medical deductions.

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Amina Sy

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Do formula and diapers count as medical expenses too? I've been spending a fortune on those.

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