Can I claim my nephew as a dependent child on my taxes in this situation?
My sister and her husband have been going through some really tough times lately, and because of that my nephew (who's 16) moved in with me back in April. It looks like this arrangement is going to continue for the foreseeable future. His parents do send me some money each month to help with his expenses, but honestly it doesn't even come close to covering half of what I'm actually spending when you factor in my mortgage, utilities, food, etc. I've been looking at the IRS dependency requirements and I think I might be able to claim him, but I'm confused about the residency test. Since he's only been living with me since April, does that count as living with me for "more than half the year" for this tax year? Also, does the money his parents give me count as their support or mine since I'm the one actually using it to take care of him? I want to make sure I do this right since I've never claimed a dependent before. Any advice would be super appreciated!
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Brianna Schmidt
You've got a couple of important questions here about claiming your nephew. For the residency test, the IRS looks at the number of nights spent in your home. Since he moved in during April, you need to count the actual nights he's stayed with you. If he's been with you continuously since April, you should easily meet the "more than half the year" requirement (that would be over 8 months of residence by the end of December). As for the support test, any money his parents give you that you use for his care is considered THEIR support, not yours. However, when calculating total support, you include the fair rental value of lodging, utilities, food, clothing, medical expenses, education, etc. So if their contribution plus any other support they directly provided is less than 50% of his total support for the year, and your contribution is more than 50%, you're likely to meet this test too. One other thing to watch for: make sure his parents aren't planning to claim him. Only one person can claim a dependent, and you'll want to coordinate with them before filing.
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Andrew Pinnock
•Thank you so much for explaining this! I've been keeping track and he's definitely been with me continuously since April, so that's about 9 months for this year. That should satisfy the residency test. One more question - when you say "fair rental value of lodging," how do I calculate that? Do I need to figure out what it would cost to rent out his bedroom, or is there some standard calculation I should use?
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Brianna Schmidt
•For fair rental value of lodging, you'd estimate what it would cost to rent a similar space in your area. You don't need to get super precise - a reasonable estimate works. For a shared bedroom, calculate what portion of your home that room represents (square footage) and what percentage of your mortgage/rent that would be. Then add a fair amount for utilities. You can also consider what a room rental goes for in your neighborhood as a reference point. As for your second question, you'd definitely want to include a proportional share of mortgage/utilities as part of your support calculation. Food, clothing, medical costs, school expenses, transportation, and even entertainment count too. The IRS looks at the total picture of support, not just direct cash expenses.
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Alexis Renard
I went through something really similar with my cousin's kid last year and was totally confused about how to handle it on my taxes. I tried reading through the IRS website but got lost in all the technical language. Then I found this AI tax helper at https://taxr.ai that basically translated all that tax jargon into normal English for me. It reviewed my specific situation and explained exactly which tests I needed to meet to claim my cousin's kid as a dependent. The best part was it walked me through calculating the support test with my actual numbers and helped me document everything properly in case of questions later. Saved me so much stress trying to figure out if I was doing it right!
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Camila Jordan
•Did you have to provide actual financial documents to this AI thing? I'm always paranoid about sharing that kind of personal info online, especially with tax stuff. How does it actually work?
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Tyler Lefleur
•Sounds interesting but did it actually help you qualify for claiming the dependent? I'm wondering because I have a similar situation with my granddaughter staying with me and my daughter (her mom) still gives me money for her care.
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Alexis Renard
•You don't have to upload any financial documents if you don't want to - you can just input the numbers yourself and it'll work with whatever information you provide. It's more about helping you understand the rules and do the calculations correctly. I felt comfortable using it because they explain how they handle data security. For the second question, it definitely helped me qualify. It showed me exactly what counts as support (which was way more than I realized) and confirmed I was providing over 50% when all factors were considered. It sounds like your situation with your granddaughter is similar to what I went through, so it might be worth checking out.
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Aisha Mahmood
Yes, you can likely claim your nephew as a qualifying child dependent on your taxes. The IRS doesn't limit "qualifying child" to just your biological children. It can include siblings, nieces, nephews, and even grandchildren. For your nephew to be your qualifying child dependent, you need to meet these requirements: 1) Relationship - nephew definitely qualifies, 2) Age - at 16 he's under 19, so that's covered, 3) Residency - he must live with you for more than half the year (which will be true if he's been there since August and stays), 4) Support - the child cannot provide more than half of their own support (not an issue here since you and his parents are supporting him). The key thing to sort out will be who can rightfully claim him between you and his parents. Since he lives with you and you provide more than 50% of his total support (counting housing, food, etc.), you have a strong claim. But the parents might think they can still claim him. You'll need to communicate with them about this, as only one party can claim a dependent on their taxes.
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Ethan Clark
•But wait, don't the parents still have legal custody? Doesn't that automatically mean they get to claim him regardless of who provides more support?
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Aisha Mahmood
•Legal custody is actually separate from the tax dependency rules. The IRS primarily cares about where the child lives for more than half the year and the support test. For the tiebreaker rules, a parent would generally have priority over a non-parent. However, if the nephew lives with you for more than half the year and you provide more than half of his total support, and his parents agree not to claim him (which they can document with Form 8332), you should be able to claim him. It's best to discuss this with the parents to avoid both parties claiming the same dependent, which would trigger IRS notices.
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AstroAce
I went through something similar with my brother's kid last year and was confused by all the residency and support rules. I ended up using this AI tax tool called taxr.ai that sorted everything out for me. You just upload your documents or describe your situation, and it tells you exactly what you qualify for. I was super confused about the whole "qualifying child" vs "qualifying relative" thing too, but the tool explained that for nephews/nieces, they can actually count as qualifying children (not just relatives) as long as they meet the other tests. https://taxr.ai was seriously helpful with laying out all the requirements and helping me figure out if I was meeting them. It even helped me document everything in case of an audit.
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Yuki Kobayashi
•Does it actually help with the whole "who gets to claim" issue though? Like if both you and the parents try to claim, wouldn't that cause problems?
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Carmen Vega
•I'm curious - how accurate is this tool? I'm always a bit skeptical of AI stuff with complicated tax situations. Did you end up getting audited or have any issues?
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AstroAce
•It actually does address the "who gets to claim" issue! It walks you through the tiebreaker rules and helps you determine who has the stronger claim based on IRS rules. It even creates a documentation packet you can use if there's ever a dispute. As for accuracy, I was skeptical too, but it refers directly to specific IRS publications and rules. I didn't get audited, but the tool helped me prepare all the documentation I would need if that happened. It basically created a "proof package" showing why I qualified to claim my nephew, with references to the exact IRS rules that applied to my situation.
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Camila Jordan
Just wanted to update after trying that taxr.ai site that was mentioned. I was skeptical at first (I'm always wary of online tools), but it actually was really helpful for my situation. I'm taking care of my brother's kids part-time, and I wasn't sure if I could claim them as dependents. The tool walked me through all the tests - residence, relationship, support, etc. - and showed me exactly where I did and didn't qualify. Turns out I can't claim them as dependents because they don't live with me for more than half the year, but at least now I know for sure instead of guessing. It saved me from potentially making a mistake on my taxes.
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Madeline Blaze
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Max Knight
•Wait, how does this even work? The IRS phone lines are notorious for long wait times. Is this just paying someone to wait on hold for you or something? Seems too good to be true.
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Emma Swift
•I've tried calling the IRS multiple times with no luck. Why would this service work when direct calls don't? Sounds like a scam to me. Has anyone else actually used this successfully?
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Yuki Kobayashi
Just wanted to update - I tried out taxr.ai after seeing the recommendation here, and wow, it cleared up my confusion completely! My situation was slightly different (claiming my niece), but the tool helped me understand I could claim her as a qualifying child, not a qualifying relative like I initially thought. The best part was it helped me create a simple agreement with her mom (my sister) where she acknowledged she wouldn't claim her. Apparently that's super important to avoid both of us trying to claim the same dependent. The tool even cited the exact IRS publications and rules that applied to my situation, which made me feel confident I was doing everything right. Definitely worth checking out if you're in a complicated dependency situation!
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Emma Swift
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Isabella Tucker
Just wanted to add one important thing that nobody mentioned yet - make sure you have a written agreement with the parents! I went through a similar situation with my niece, and even though I met all the tests, I got audited because her mom also tried to claim her. Having something in writing from the parents stating that they understand you'll be claiming the child as a dependent can save you a huge headache. Doesn't have to be fancy, just dated and signed by both parents acknowledging the arrangement. The IRS loves documentation!
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Andrew Pinnock
•That's really good advice, thank you! Do you think an email from both parents would be sufficient, or should I get something more formal with signatures?
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Isabella Tucker
•An email is better than nothing, but I'd recommend getting actual signatures if possible. When I got audited, having that signed document made the difference. A simple one-page letter stating they understand you're providing more than 50% support and will be claiming him as a dependent is perfect. Have them both sign and date it, and keep it with your tax records. If getting physical signatures is difficult due to distance, there are free electronic signature services online that can help make it more official than just an email. The key is having clear documentation that they're aware of and agree to the arrangement.
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Jayden Hill
Has anyone used TurboTax for this kind of situation? I'm wondering if the software walks you through this dependent stuff clearly or if I should go to a tax professional this year. I've got my brother-in-law's kids living with me and don't want to mess this up.
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LordCommander
•I used TurboTax last year for a similar situation with my grandson. It does ask all the right questions about residency, relationship, and support to determine if you can claim them. But honestly, I found some of the support calculation questions confusing. I ended up calling their support line to get clarity, which was helpful. If your situation is complicated, you might want to consider a professional, but for a straightforward case, TurboTax should be fine.
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Jayden Hill
•Thanks for the info! I think I'll start with TurboTax and see how it goes. If I get stuck or confused on the support calculations, I'll reach out to their help line like you suggested. My situation isn't super complicated, so hopefully it'll work out.
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Andre Rousseau
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Zoe Stavros
•Wait this actually works? I've literally spent HOURS trying to get through to the IRS about dependent issues. How does it actually work? Do you have to give them personal info or anything?
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Jamal Harris
•Sounds like a scam tbh. Why would you pay for something you can do yourself for free? Just keep calling the IRS and eventually you'll get through.
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Jamal Harris
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GalaxyGlider
One thing nobody's mentioned - make sure you're coordinating with your nephew's parents about this. When my niece came to live with me, her mom and I had a big misunderstanding because we BOTH claimed her that year. It was a huge mess to fix. The IRS ended up contacting both of us, and we had to provide proof of where she lived and who provided support. I won in the end because she lived with me most of the year and I paid for most things, but it delayed both our refunds by months and was super stressful.
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Mateo Sanchez
•That's a really good point and something I'm worried about. Did you have any kind of written agreement with your sister about who would claim your niece? Or did you just both assume you could claim her?
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GalaxyGlider
•We had a verbal agreement that I would claim her since she was living with me, but when tax time came, my sister filed early and claimed her anyway. She said she "forgot" our agreement, but I think she just needed the tax break. My advice is to get something in writing - even a simple signed statement or an email confirmation. The IRS has Form 8332 which is normally for divorced parents, but you could use something similar to document your agreement. Also, whoever has the strongest claim based on the residency and support tests should be the one to claim him. And file as early as possible! That can prevent the "oops I already claimed him" situation.
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Mei Wong
Has anyone thought about the stimulus payments? If you claim your nephew as a dependent for 2022, would you get the additional dependent stimulus money or does that only apply to kids you had in 2022? Or am I thinking of the wrong tax year entirely lol
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Liam Sullivan
•There aren't any more stimulus payments for 2022 or 2023 tax years. You're thinking of the ones from 2020-2021 during covid. But claiming a dependent does qualify you for other possible tax benefits like the Child Tax Credit which is worth up to $2,000 per qualifying child.
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Mei Wong
•Oh right, thanks for clarifying! I get all these tax years mixed up. So the Child Tax Credit would apply in this case though? That would make a big difference in whether it's worth potentially having conflicts with the parents over who claims him.
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Carmen Diaz
The Child Tax Credit can definitely be a significant benefit - up to $2,000 per qualifying child under 17. Since your nephew is 16, he would qualify if you can claim him as a dependent. There's also potentially the Child and Dependent Care Credit if you're paying for childcare while you work. One thing to consider is that these tax benefits can be substantial enough that it's worth having a clear conversation with his parents about who should claim him. If you're providing the majority of his support and he's living with you for more than half the year, you have a strong case. But getting that written agreement beforehand (like others have mentioned) will save everyone headaches later. You might also want to track your expenses carefully - not just obvious things like food and clothing, but also your increased utility bills, transportation costs for getting him to school/activities, and even entertainment expenses. All of that counts toward the support calculation and helps strengthen your position if there are any questions later.
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