Can I claim my ex as a dependent next tax season if they move in with me full-time and don't work?
I'm trying to prepare for next tax season already and figure out what paperwork I'll need. My ex is planning to move in with me full-time soon (right now they're here part-time but their name is on the lease all the time). They don't work because of a health condition, but haven't qualified for disability. They're 32 years old. I'm wondering if I can claim them as a dependent when I file next year? What kind of documentation should I start keeping now to prove they're my dependent? And do they need to provide me with any specific paperwork? One thing I'm worried about - they haven't filed taxes in several years. Will that cause problems for me if I try to claim them? We definitely aren't planning to get married again. That ship has sailed and didn't work out the first time around. But honestly, I enjoy having them around and they help with household stuff as much as they're able. My place is just a better living situation for them right now. I'm asking because I ended up owing taxes this year and have zero leftover money each month. I'm already adjusting my withholdings so I don't owe anything next year, but claiming a dependent would help too. I spend around $475 monthly on their medications and healthcare stuff.
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Sofía Rodríguez
Yes, you can potentially claim your ex as a dependent under the "Qualifying Relative" rules, even at age 32/33. Here's what you need to know: 1) Their gross income must be less than $4,950 for the tax year (this changes slightly each year) 2) You must provide more than half of their total support for the year 3) They must live with you all year (which it sounds like they will be) 4) They can't be claimed as a dependent by anyone else For documentation, keep records of all expenses you pay for them - rent, utilities, food, medical costs, etc. Also keep records of any income they do receive (even if small). Their previous unfiled taxes shouldn't directly affect your ability to claim them, but they should consider getting caught up on filing if required. The documentation is mostly for your protection in case of an audit. There's no specific form they need to give you, but having a written agreement about the support arrangement wouldn't hurt.
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Mei-Ling Chen
•Thanks for this info! Does "all year" literally mean January 1 to December 31? Because they won't be moving in full-time until around March probably. Would that disqualify me from claiming them for the whole year? Also, if they receive no income at all, do they still need to file taxes for previous years?
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Sofía Rodríguez
•For the residency test under qualifying relative rules, they don't necessarily need to live with you January 1st through December 31st, but they should live with you for the majority of the year. So if they move in during March, that would generally be sufficient since they'd be living with you for approximately 9-10 months of the year. If they have no income at all, they likely weren't required to file tax returns for previous years. The requirement to file is typically based on having income above certain thresholds. However, they might still want to file if they were eligible for refundable credits in those years, as they could potentially get money back. But if they truly had zero income, there's typically no filing requirement that would have been missed.
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Aaliyah Jackson
Something else to consider - even if you can't claim them as a dependent, you might be able to deduct their medical expenses that you pay if they qualify as your dependent for medical expense purposes, which has slightly different rules than claiming them as a dependent for the exemption. Keep receipts for EVERYTHING. Medical bills, prescription receipts, insurance premiums, transportation to medical appointments. I learned this lesson the hard way.
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Mei-Ling Chen
•Wait really? I didn't know you could potentially deduct medical expenses even if they don't qualify as a full dependent. So if I'm paying for all their prescriptions and doctor visits, that could be deductible regardless? How does that work?
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Aaliyah Jackson
•Yes, it's called a "medical dependent" and the rules are a bit different. For medical expense purposes, a person can be your dependent even if they don't meet all the tests for a regular dependent. The key requirements are that they must be related to you (ex-spouse qualifies) or have lived with you the entire year, and you must have provided over half their support. Medical expenses are only deductible if you itemize deductions and only the portion that exceeds 7.5% of your adjusted gross income. So if your AGI is $60,000, you can only deduct medical expenses that exceed $4,500. Keep track of all medical costs - prescriptions, doctor visits, medical equipment, mileage to appointments, health insurance premiums you pay for them. It all adds up, especially with chronic conditions.
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KylieRose
Have you considered setting up a simple spreadsheet to track all your expenses for them? That's what I did when my partner's mom lived with us. I tracked rent (portion of our total), utilities, food, medical expenses, clothing, etc. Makes it SO much easier at tax time to prove you provided more than half their support!
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Miguel Hernández
•This! I did the same thing. Also recommend taking photos of receipts and storing them in a dedicated folder. The IRS loves documentation.
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Sasha Ivanov
Just to be clear, since they're your ex-spouse, they don't have to meet the "member of household" test that normally applies for qualifying relatives. That's a special exception in the tax code for ex-spouses. But you still need to provide more than half their support for the year. Make sure they don't have other income sources you're not aware of. My ex had a small online business selling crafts that I didn't know about, and it pushed them over the income limit. Created a huge headache during tax filing.
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Diego Vargas
One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is that you should also keep track of any income your ex might receive throughout the year, even if it seems minimal. This includes things like unemployment benefits, cash gifts from family members, or any occasional odd jobs they might do. The $4,950 gross income limit is pretty strict, and even small amounts can add up. Also, since you mentioned they haven't filed taxes in several years, you might want to encourage them to get caught up on any required filings before you claim them as a dependent. While it shouldn't directly affect your ability to claim them, having clean tax records for both of you will make things smoother if the IRS has any questions. For the support test calculation, don't forget to include the fair rental value of them living in your home. If your rent/mortgage is $1,500/month and they're living there for 10 months, that's $15,000 in housing support you're providing. This often makes up a large portion of the "more than half support" requirement.
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