FAFSA dependency override when parent refuses due to income - any options?
My nephew is in a really tough spot with his FAFSA application for 2025-26. His mom absolutely refuses to provide her information because she's convinced that she "makes too much money" (around $135k) for him to qualify for any aid. She's told him straight up that she won't help with college costs either, so he's basically on his own. I suggested he look into a dependency override, but I'm not sure if "parent refuses due to high income" qualifies as a valid reason. He lives with his mom full-time, and his dad isn't in contact with them anymore (divorced when he was 5). Does anyone know if dependency overrides work in situations like this? His college financial aid office mentioned something about a "professional judgment" but wasn't very clear. Are there any other options he should explore? He's a really bright kid with good grades, and I hate seeing him potentially miss college just because of this FAFSA roadblock.
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StarStrider
Unfortunately, a parent refusing to complete the FAFSA because they believe they make too much money is not considered grounds for a dependency override. Dependency overrides are typically granted only in extreme circumstances like abandonment, abuse, incarceration of parents, or similar situations. Here are some options your nephew might consider: 1. His college financial aid office can provide a "special circumstances" form, but this still typically requires at least basic parental information. 2. He should check if his father would be willing to complete the FAFSA instead. If his father has lower income, this could actually result in a better financial aid package. 3. Look into schools that offer merit-based scholarships that don't require FAFSA completion. 4. Some private student loans don't require FAFSA, though these should be a last resort due to higher interest rates. I'd also suggest trying to help his mother understand that completing the FAFSA doesn't obligate her to pay anything, and even higher-income families can sometimes qualify for unsubsidized loans or work-study programs.
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Ethan Clark
•Thank you for such a detailed response. I was afraid that might be the case with dependency overrides. His father is completely out of the picture (hasn't seen him in over 10 years and we have no contact info), so that option is unfortunately not viable. Do you know if there's any way to show his mother that filling out the FAFSA doesn't mean she has to pay anything? She seems to think that by providing her information, she's somehow legally committing to funding his education.
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Yuki Sato
been there done that lol. my mom made like 90k and refused to fill out fafsa too. said i needed "skin in the game" whatever tf that means. ended up taking a gap year and working at walmart until i turned 24. now im considered independent for fafsa purposes and got decent aid. not ideal but sometimes u gotta wait it out
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Ethan Clark
•That's rough, sorry you had to go through that. My nephew is really eager to start college right away, but I'll definitely mention this as a potential long-term option if other avenues don't work out. Did you find the gap years valuable in any way, or was it just marking time until you could apply independently?
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Carmen Ruiz
I work in financial aid at a community college and see this situation ALL THE TIME. Here's what I tell students: 1. Try explaining to mom that filling out FAFSA doesn't mean she has to pay a cent. It just determines eligibility. Many parents don't understand this! 2. Try the non-custodial parent route if possible (but sounds like dad isn't available) 3. Community college for 2 years while working - MUCH cheaper and you can often qualify for institutional aid without FAFSA 4. Apply for every external scholarship possible - many don't require FAFSA 5. Consider schools with generous merit scholarships based on GPA/test scores Unfortunately, "parent refuses due to income" is explicitly listed by the Dept of Education as NOT qualifying for dependency override. I've never seen it approved in my 8 years working in financial aid.
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Andre Lefebvre
•Wait, so the Department of Education KNOWS this is a problem but doesn't do anything about it??? That's so frustrating! Why should students be punished because their parents don't want to share their financial information? The whole system is broken!!
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Zoe Alexopoulos
my cousin had this exact problem!!! his dad made like $200k but refused to help with college at all. he ended up getting some private loans and working part time. graduated with like $80k debt but got a good engineering job so it worked out ok i guess
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Jamal Anderson
Has your nephew tried contacting Federal Student Aid directly? I was in a similar situation last year and spent WEEKS trying to reach someone at FSA to explain my situation. Always got disconnected or waited for hours. Finally found this service called Claimyr that got me through to an actual FSA agent in about 10 minutes. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ The agent I spoke with explained my options much better than my school's financial aid office did. They couldn't override my parent's refusal, but they did provide documentation I could take to my school to potentially qualify for unsubsidized loans without parent information. Might be worth checking out claimyr.com if your nephew wants to speak directly with FSA about his specific situation rather than getting generic advice.
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Ethan Clark
•That's really helpful, thank you! He's been getting frustrated with generic answers from the financial aid office, so speaking directly with FSA might give him clearer guidance. I'll share this with him right away. Did they end up being able to help with your situation?
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Mei Wong
I'm a financial aid counselor and just wanted to clarify something important: there's a difference between "not qualifying for aid" and "not qualifying to complete the FAFSA." Everyone should complete the FAFSA regardless of income! Many schools require it for merit scholarships, and the formulas consider many factors beyond just income (family size, number in college, assets, etc.). Also, the new FAFSA for 2025-26 uses the Student Aid Index (SAI) instead of the old EFC, which might result in different calculations than previous years. Some higher-income families are seeing better results with the new formula. One more thing: if his mother is truly providing zero financial support and he's self-supporting, he should absolutely document this situation with the financial aid office. While it likely won't qualify for a dependency override, it might help with professional judgment adjustments for institutional aid.
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Zoe Alexopoulos
•wait the formulas changed?? my sister is applying next year is it easier or harder to get aid now??
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Andre Lefebvre
This makes me SO ANGRY!!! How can they expect 18-year-olds to pay for college when they can't even qualify for aid because their parents won't help?? The whole system is designed to keep people from advancing! I had the same issue but with both parents refusing. Ended up joining the military just to get education benefits. Your nephew shouldn't have to do that just because his mom won't fill out a stupid form!!
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Yuki Sato
•preach!! the whole system is messed up. they expect parents to pay but cant force them to, and then punish the kids. makes zero sense
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StarStrider
One other angle to consider - some colleges have special funds set aside specifically for students in this situation. These are sometimes called "parent refusal" scholarships or grants. Have your nephew reach out to the financial aid offices at his top choice schools and specifically ask if they have any options for students whose parents refuse to complete the FAFSA. Some private colleges in particular have institutional policies to address this gap. Also, the CSS Profile (used by many private colleges) sometimes has more flexibility than FAFSA in these situations. Lastly, make sure he applies to some safety schools with generous automatic merit scholarships based solely on GPA/test scores. Many state universities offer significant tuition reductions for high-achieving students regardless of financial need.
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Ethan Clark
•I hadn't even thought about asking schools directly about parent refusal scholarships. That's an excellent suggestion. He's planning to apply to about 8 schools, so I'll encourage him to have these conversations with the financial aid offices early in the process. Thank you!
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QuantumQuasar
have u tried explaning to his mom that fafsa dosnt mean she has to pay?? my parents thought that 2 but the fin aid office gave me a letter that explained it and they finaly agreed to fill it out. maybe get something in writing from the collage?
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Ethan Clark
•That's a great idea. I think having something official in writing might help convince her. I'll ask him to request something like this from his top choice schools. Thanks for the suggestion!
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Myles Regis
I'm really sorry your nephew is going through this - it's such a frustrating situation that unfortunately affects thousands of students every year. As someone who works with college-bound students, I see this "parent refusal" issue constantly. A few additional thoughts beyond what others have mentioned: 1. Consider having your nephew schedule a face-to-face meeting with financial aid officers at his target schools BEFORE applying. Sometimes they can provide specific guidance about their institution's policies for students in his situation. 2. Look into AmeriCorps programs - they provide education awards that can be used for college after completing a year of service, and don't require parental information. 3. Some states have their own grant programs with different requirements than federal aid. Check your state's higher education website. 4. If his mom is really concerned about privacy, remind her that FAFSA information is protected by federal privacy laws and isn't shared with colleges beyond determining aid eligibility. The system definitely has gaps, but don't give up - there are usually ways to make college work even in difficult situations like this. Your support as his uncle clearly means a lot to him during this stressful process.
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Anita George
•Thank you for such thoughtful suggestions! I hadn't heard of AmeriCorps as an option - that could be a really good path for him since he's already interested in community service. The idea about meeting with financial aid officers before applying is brilliant too. I think getting that personal connection and understanding each school's specific policies could make a huge difference. I'll definitely help him research our state's grant programs as well. It's reassuring to hear from someone who works with students in similar situations that there are usually solutions, even if they're not obvious at first. Really appreciate you taking the time to share all these options!
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