FAFSA dependency override options when parent refuses to provide info at 18
My niece just turned 18 and is trying to apply for college, but my sister is refusing to provide any FAFSA information. She's taking the stance that "18 means you're an adult and adults figure things out themselves." My niece has been living with me for the past 6 months (not with either parent), but I know that doesn't automatically make her independent for FAFSA purposes. She doesn't have any of the usual hardships for a dependency override - no abuse, no abandonment before 18, no homelessness. It's literally just my sister deciding that parental financial responsibility ends exactly at 18, period. My niece now has zero access to her mom's financial info for the FAFSA. I'm willing to help her financially where I can, but I'm not sure what options she has for the FAFSA without her parent's information. Do dependency overrides ever get approved just for a parent flat-out refusing to participate? The college financial aid office mentioned something about a "special circumstances" form, but I'm not sure if this situation qualifies. Has anyone successfully navigated something similar?
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Miguel Herrera
Unfortunately, a parent simply refusing to provide information isn't automatically grounds for a dependency override. The Department of Education is very strict about what qualifies. Your niece should: 1. Document everything - get her mom's refusal in writing or text messages if possible 2. Meet with the financial aid office at her intended school and request a "Professional Judgment" review 3. Complete the FAFSA with as much information as she can, then follow up with the financial aid office 4. Be prepared to provide documentation about her living situation with you Most schools can at least offer unsubsidized federal loans without parental information. She won't be eligible for grants or subsidized loans though unless she gets that dependency override approved.
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Ava Thompson
•Thank you for this information. I didn't realize there's a difference between being able to get some loans versus getting the full financial aid package. I'll encourage her to document everything and we'll schedule that meeting with financial aid. Do you happen to know what documentation they typically want about her living with me? Would they need something formal or just a statement?
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Zainab Ali
my sister did the EXACT same thing to my niece!! said she was "teaching her independence" by refusing to give tax info for FAFSA. it was a NIGHTMARE. the school gave her some unsubsidized loans but she missed out on like $7000 in grants she would have qualified for if my sister had just filled out the stupid form. pisses me off to this day
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Ava Thompson
•That's exactly what I'm afraid of. It's so frustrating because my niece would likely qualify for significant aid if her mom would just provide the information. Did your niece ever find any solution or was she just stuck with the unsubsidized loans?
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Zainab Ali
•no real solution. she just took out more loans and worked 30hrs a week during school. barely made it through her first year and then dropped out because it was too much. don't let that happen to your niece!!
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Connor Murphy
Why don't you just ask her father instead? The FAFSA only requires one parent's information if they're separated or divorced.
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Ava Thompson
•Her father isn't in the picture either. They divorced when she was 4, and he moved across the country. He's not been involved in her life and we don't even know how to reach him at this point.
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Yara Nassar
Financial aid counselor here. Your niece is in what we call the "FAFSA gray area" - doesn't qualify as independent but can't get parent information. Here's what she can do: 1. File the FAFSA without parent information, which will be incomplete 2. Contact each college's financial aid office to request a "Parent Refusal" form (different schools call it different things) 3. With that documentation, schools can offer UNSUBSIDIZED Federal Direct loans only 4. For a full dependency override (to get grants/subsidized loans), she would need to document complete parent estrangement or dangerous situation The standard for dependency overrides is very high and "refusing to provide info" generally doesn't meet it. However, each school has some discretion in how they interpret special circumstances. Some schools may offer institutional aid to help bridge the gap for students in this situation. Have her ask about all available emergency aid programs.
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StarGazer101
•This is so messed up!!! The whole system basically punishes students for having uncooperative parents. Why should a kid lose thousands in aid because their parent is being difficult? The government should fix this stupid loophole.
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Keisha Jackson
Did you try calling the Federal Student Aid hotline? I spent TWO WEEKS trying to get through to someone about a similar issue with my son's FAFSA. Eventually I found this service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that actually got me connected to a live agent in about 20 minutes instead of waiting on hold forever. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ The FSA agent told me there's a special form called "Special Circumstance: Parental Refusal" that can at least get your niece some loans without the parent info. Worth asking them directly about your specific situation.
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Paolo Romano
•does that claimyr thing actually work? i've been trying to reach someone at FSA for days about verification issues
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Keisha Jackson
•Yes, it worked for me! I was skeptical too but was desperate after trying for days. Got through to an actual person who helped resolve our issue.
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Ava Thompson
•Thank you for this suggestion. I'll definitely look into both the special circumstance form and the contact service. We've been trying to reach someone at FSA directly but it's been nearly impossible.
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StarGazer101
OMG my mom did this to me!!! She flat out said "you're 18, it's not my problem anymore" and I almost lost my chance at college!! I had to take a gap year and work full-time until I turned 24 and could file as independent. TWENTY-FOUR!! The system is BROKEN!!! The only other ways to be considered independent before 24 are: - Be married - Have your own dependents - Be a veteran - Be in foster care/ward of court - Be emancipated minor - Be homeless or at risk of homelessness Literally NONE of these applied to me either. It was infuriating!!!
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Ava Thompson
•A gap year until 24 seems so extreme. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm hoping my niece can find another way since waiting 6 years isn't really an option. Did you ever try appealing directly to a college for institutional aid?
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StarGazer101
•I tried but the community college I wanted to attend didn't have much institutional aid. State schools might have more options. Tell her to apply to LOTS of private scholarships too - those don't require FAFSA!
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Paolo Romano
i think she could maybe get married to one of her friends??? that would make her independent for fafsa. my cousins friend did that i think
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Ava Thompson
•I'm not sure that getting married just for FAFSA purposes is the best route - that seems a bit extreme and potentially problematic legally. We're definitely looking for more straightforward solutions if possible.
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Yara Nassar
•Financial aid professional here again - please DO NOT encourage marriage for financial aid purposes. This can actually be considered fraud if the marriage is entered into solely for financial benefit. It could result in having to repay all aid and possibly legal consequences.
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Miguel Herrera
One thing no one has mentioned yet - have your niece talk to her mom about the CSS Profile as well as FAFSA. Many private colleges require both, and CSS Profile requirements can sometimes be even stricter. Just something to be aware of if she's applying to private colleges.
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Ava Thompson
•That's a really good point I hadn't considered. She is looking at a couple of private colleges too. I'll make sure she knows about this additional requirement.
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Amina Diop
I work at a community college and we see this ALL THE TIME. Parents don't realize that their refusal to provide info doesn't make their child independent - it just prevents them from getting full aid. Definitely have your niece start at the financial aid office at her school of choice. Each institution has some discretion in how they handle these cases. Also, suggest she look into the college's emergency aid programs or special foundation scholarships. Many schools have funds specifically set aside for students who fall through bureaucratic cracks like this.
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Ava Thompson
•Thank you for this advice. We'll definitely explore all options with the financial aid office and ask specifically about emergency aid programs. Do you think it would be better to meet with them in person rather than just calling?
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Amina Diop
•Absolutely meet in person if possible! Financial aid officers have more flexibility when they can put a face to the situation. Have your niece prepare a brief, factual explanation of her circumstances and bring any documentation (texts from mom refusing, proof she lives with you, etc).
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Aisha Abdullah
This is such a frustrating situation that unfortunately many students face. As someone who went through something similar, I wanted to add that your niece should also consider applying to schools with strong need-based aid policies, particularly those that meet 100% of demonstrated need. Some of these institutions have more flexible policies for students in unusual circumstances. Also, make sure she applies for every single scholarship she can find - local community organizations, her high school, religious institutions, civic groups, etc. These don't require FAFSA and can help bridge the gap. Many small scholarships ($500-$2000) go unclaimed because students think they're "too small" to bother with, but they add up quickly. One more suggestion - if your sister is being stubborn about "teaching independence," maybe approach it from that angle? Point out that helping with the FAFSA isn't giving money directly, it's just providing information so your niece can access the loans and aid she'll be responsible for repaying herself. Sometimes reframing it as "enabling independence through education" rather than "providing handouts" can change parents' perspectives.
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Juan Moreno
•These are excellent suggestions, especially the reframing approach with my sister. I hadn't thought about positioning it as "enabling independence through education" - that might actually resonate with her since she's so focused on the independence aspect. The scholarship advice is really helpful too. Do you have any recommendations for good scholarship search websites or databases that might have listings for smaller local scholarships?
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Emma Bianchi
I'm so sorry your niece is dealing with this - it's unfortunately more common than it should be. One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is that she should document the timeline of her living situation with you. Since she's been with you for 6 months, that could potentially help support a case for unusual circumstances, especially if there was a specific reason she left her mother's home. Also, encourage her to apply to multiple schools with varying financial aid policies. Some state schools have emergency aid funds or institutional grants specifically for students who can't access traditional financial aid due to family circumstances. Community colleges are often more flexible with these situations and can be a great starting point. Has she considered talking to a high school guidance counselor? They often have experience navigating these exact situations and may know about local resources or have connections with college financial aid offices that could help advocate for her case.
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Ethan Taylor
•That's a really good point about documenting the timeline of her living with me. I should gather information about when and why she moved in with me - there were some issues at home that led to that decision. The guidance counselor suggestion is excellent too - her counselor has been really supportive and might have insights I hadn't considered. I'll also look into community colleges as a potential starting point since you mentioned they tend to be more flexible with these situations. Thank you for the practical advice!
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