Can both divorced parents apply for separate Parent PLUS loans for same student? FAFSA confusion
I'm trying to figure out a way to split college costs with my ex. Our daughter got into her dream school but the price tag is way higher than we expected ($38,500/year). Neither of us can afford to take on that much debt alone. Is it possible for both of us to apply for separate Parent PLUS loans to cover different portions of her expenses? The financial aid office wasn't clear when I called, and I'm getting conflicting information online. Has anyone successfully done this with divorced parents? Do we need to coordinate the loan amounts somehow, or can we each just apply independently?
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Isaiah Thompson
ya both parents can apply for parent plus loans even if divorced. my ex and i did this last year for our son. you each apply separately based on your own credit, has nothing to do with FAFSA really except the school needs the FAFSA on file to process. just make sure you dont accidentally apply for more than the cost of attendance combined or theyll reject one of them.
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Jessica Nguyen
•That's such a relief to hear! Did you have to coordinate with your ex at all about who was covering what amount? Or did you just each decide independently?
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Ruby Garcia
Yes, this is absolutely possible. Divorced parents can each apply for separate Parent PLUS loans for the same student. Here's how it works: 1. Both biological/adoptive parents are eligible to apply regardless of which parent the student lives with or claimed the student on taxes 2. Each parent will need their own FSA ID 3. Each parent submits their own separate Parent PLUS loan application 4. Each application is evaluated based on that parent's individual credit history 5. The combined total cannot exceed the cost of attendance minus other financial aid The school's financial aid office will need to certify both loans, so I recommend working with them directly to coordinate the amounts.
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Jessica Nguyen
•Thank you so much for the detailed breakdown! This clarifies a lot. Do you know if there's any benefit to having the parent with better credit apply for a larger portion?
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Alexander Evans
We tried this and it was a disaster!!! My ex applied without telling me and took the full amount even though we had AGREED to split it. Then the school rejected my application saying the full cost was covered. Make sure you communicate clearly with your ex and the financial aid office!!!
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Jessica Nguyen
•Oh no, that sounds like a nightmare scenario! I'll definitely make sure we have a written agreement and both talk to the financial aid office beforehand.
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Evelyn Martinez
I work in a college financial aid office, and this is a common situation. Yes, divorced parents can each take out Parent PLUS loans, but there are some important technical details to understand: - The total of all Parent PLUS loans cannot exceed Cost of Attendance (COA) minus other aid received - Each parent will have different loan origination fees and possibly different interest rates based on when they apply - The parent taking out the loan is solely responsible for repayment - the debt belongs only to that parent - Some schools have specific processes for handling multiple Parent PLUS applications, so check with your daughter's school I recommend getting the financial aid breakdown in writing, deciding exactly how much each of you will borrow, and submitting applications within a few days of each other.
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Jessica Nguyen
•This is incredibly helpful - thank you! I didn't even think about the different fees and interest rates. Is there typically a deadline for when Parent PLUS applications need to be submitted for fall semester?
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Benjamin Carter
Have u considered having your daughter take out some loans herself? My parents were divorced and neither wanted to take PLUS loans so I did the max federal student loans myself ($5,500 freshman yr, $6,500 sophomore, etc) and then they split the remaining costs without loans. Just throwing out another option since PLUS loans have higher interest rates than student direct loans.
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Jessica Nguyen
•That's a good point. She's already taking out the max federal student loans she can get ($5,500 this year), but there's still a big gap. I'm hoping to minimize her debt since she's planning on grad school too.
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Maya Lewis
I've been calling the Federal Student Aid line for days trying to get clarification on this exact situation with my ex and our twins. Always on hold forever and then disconnected! Finally used Claimyr (claimyr.com) and got through to a real person in under 10 minutes who confirmed both divorced parents can apply for separate PLUS loans. They have a quick video demo at https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ that shows how it works. Saved me hours of frustration!
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Isaac Wright
•does that service actually work? i've been trying to get ahold of someone about my daughter's verification issues for 2 weeks!!
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Maya Lewis
•Yes, it worked great for me! Instead of waiting on hold for hours, I got connected to an actual FSA agent who answered all my questions about the Parent PLUS loan process for divorced parents. Definitely worth it for complicated situations like this.
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Evelyn Martinez
To follow up on your question about deadlines - Parent PLUS loan applications can technically be submitted any time during the academic year, but I strongly recommend applying at least 30 days before tuition is due. This gives enough time to process the application, complete the master promissory note, and disburse funds to the school. Also, remember that Parent PLUS loans are subject to origination fees (currently about 4.2%), so the amount disbursed will be less than the amount borrowed.
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Jessica Nguyen
•Thank you for following up! The 30-day guideline is really helpful. And I had no idea about the origination fees - we'll need to factor that in when calculating how much to request.
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Lucy Taylor
MY DAUGHTER'S SCHOOL FINANCIAL AID OFFICE TOLD ME THIS WAS NOT POSSIBLE!!!! I'm so angry right now. They made me take the full parent plus loan ($27,000) when my ex said he would take half. They straight up lied to me and said only one parent could do it. I'm calling them first thing tomorrow.
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Ruby Garcia
•Unfortunately, some individual financial aid officers aren't familiar with all the regulations. While it's definitely allowed federally, sometimes schools implement their own processes that can complicate things. I suggest asking to speak with the director of financial aid and specifically referencing the Federal Student Aid guidance on this topic.
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Jessica Nguyen
Update: I spoke with the financial aid office again today and got some clarity. They confirmed both my ex and I can apply for separate Parent PLUS loans. We need to each complete our own application and Master Promissory Note with our FSA IDs. They recommended we submit a written plan specifying exactly how much each of us will borrow so there's no confusion. Thanks everyone for your help with this!
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Isaiah Thompson
•awesome! glad it worked out. just remember if either of you has bad credit history you might get denied and would need to get an endorser (like a cosigner). happened to my ex and it delayed everything by like 3 weeks
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Benjamin Carter
•Don't forget to look into payment plans too! My parents found out they could do a 10-month payment plan with no interest instead of taking the full loan amount. Saved them thousands in interest.
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Noah Irving
As someone who went through this exact situation last year, I can confirm it's definitely possible! Just wanted to add a few practical tips that helped my ex and I navigate this smoothly: 1. Get everything in writing BEFORE applying - we created a simple document outlining who would borrow what amount and signed it 2. Apply within the same week if possible - this helps the financial aid office process both applications together 3. Consider who has the better credit score for the larger portion, as Parent PLUS loans don't have a borrowing limit beyond cost of attendance 4. Keep copies of all your communications with the school's financial aid office The key is coordination and communication. Once we got organized, the whole process was actually pretty straightforward. Good luck with everything!
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Amun-Ra Azra
•This is so helpful! I'm new to all this financial aid stuff and feeling pretty overwhelmed. The written agreement idea is brilliant - I can see how that would prevent the kinds of miscommunications others mentioned. Quick question: when you say "apply within the same week," does that mean we should coordinate the exact timing, or just make sure we're both submitting around the same time? I want to make sure we don't accidentally mess each other up!
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AstroAlpha
•@Noah Irving Thanks for sharing your experience! When you mention applying within the same week, I m'curious about the timing too. Also, did you find that having the parent with better credit take the larger portion actually made a difference in terms of approval or interest rates? I m'trying to figure out if it s'worth strategizing that way or if we should just split it evenly for simplicity.
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Everett Tutum
•@Noah Irving Great advice! I m'actually in a similar situation right now and wondering about the timing coordination too. Did you and your ex literally submit on the same day, or just make sure you were both done within that week timeframe? Also, I m'curious if the school s'financial aid office gave you any specific guidance on how to handle the coordination, or if you mostly figured it out on your own? The written agreement idea is definitely something I m'going to suggest to my ex - seems like it could save a lot of headaches down the road!
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Justin Trejo
•@Noah Irving This is exactly the kind of real-world advice I was hoping to find! I m'curious about the credit score strategy you mentioned - did you and your ex actually compare scores beforehand, or did you just make an educated guess about who had better credit? Also, when you created that written agreement, did you include any contingency plans in case one parent got denied? I m'trying to think through all the potential scenarios since this is such a big financial commitment. Really appreciate you sharing your experience!
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Isabella Santos
•@Noah Irving This is really reassuring to hear from someone who s'been through it! I m'wondering about the practical side of coordinating with an ex - did you guys use email, text, or did you actually meet up to hash out the details? Also, I m'curious if there were any surprise costs or fees that you didn t'anticipate when planning out who would cover what amounts. The coordination aspect seems like it could get tricky, especially if communication isn t'great between divorced parents.
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Omar Mahmoud
•@Noah Irving This is such valuable advice! I m'actually going through something similar right now and your timing suggestion makes a lot of sense. Just to clarify - when you say apply within the same week, do you mean you should literally coordinate the exact days with your ex, or is it more about just making sure you re'both in the same general timeframe? I m'worried about accidentally creating complications if we submit too close together or too far apart. Also, did your school s'financial aid office give you any heads up about potential processing delays when dealing with multiple Parent PLUS applications for the same student?
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Jacob Smithson
Just went through this exact situation with my ex-husband for our son's college expenses! We successfully split a $42,000 Parent PLUS loan between us - I took $25K and he took $17K based on our income differences. A few things that really helped us: 1. We used a simple Google Doc to track all the details - loan amounts, deadlines, who was handling what paperwork 2. Both applied on the same day (literally sat in separate Starbucks and texted each other when we hit submit) 3. The school actually preferred having our split amounts ahead of time - they said it made their processing much smoother One thing to watch out for: make sure you both understand that whoever's name is on each loan is 100% responsible for repayment. My ex thought we'd somehow be "jointly responsible" but that's not how it works. Each parent owns their piece completely. Also heads up that the credit check happens pretty quickly, but the actual loan processing can take 2-3 weeks, so don't wait until the last minute! Feel free to message me if you want to see our simple coordination document - happy to share what worked for us.
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Samuel Robinson
•@Jacob Smithson This is incredibly helpful, thank you! The Google Doc idea is brilliant - I can definitely see how that would help keep everything organized and transparent. I m'particularly interested in your comment about applying on the same day. Did you coordinate the exact timing because you were worried about one application affecting the other, or was it more about making sure the school could process them together? Also, I d'love to take you up on that offer to see your coordination document if you don t'mind sharing - having a template would be amazing since I m'feeling pretty overwhelmed by all the logistics right now!
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Mei Liu
•@Jacob Smithson This is exactly what I needed to hear! The same-day application strategy is really smart - I hadn t'thought about how the timing could affect processing. Quick question about the income-based split you mentioned $25K (vs $17K -) did you base that on current income, or did you factor in each parent s'ability to handle the monthly payments long-term? I m'trying to figure out the fairest way to divide things with my ex since we have pretty different financial situations. Also, the point about individual responsibility is crucial - I definitely need to make sure we re'both crystal clear on that before moving forward. Would love to see that coordination document if you re'willing to share!
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Mei Zhang
•@Jacob Smithson This is such a relief to read! The coordination document idea sounds perfect - I ve'been stressing about how to keep track of everything and make sure my ex and I are on the same page. I m'curious about the same-day application approach - did you find that helped avoid any confusion at the financial aid office, or was it more about your own peace of mind knowing it was all submitted together? Also, the point about individual responsibility is so important - I think my ex might have some misconceptions about that too. If you re'comfortable sharing that template, I d'be incredibly grateful! It sounds like you guys really had your act together with this whole process.
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CosmicCruiser
This thread has been so incredibly helpful! I'm in a similar situation with my ex and our daughter's college costs. Reading through everyone's experiences has given me so much more confidence about moving forward. A few questions for those who've been through this: 1. Did anyone run into issues with their ex changing their mind about the agreed-upon amounts after seeing the loan terms? 2. For those who coordinated timing, did you find it helpful to have a backup plan in case one parent's application got delayed or denied? 3. Has anyone dealt with this when one parent lives out of state? I'm wondering if that creates any additional complications. @Jacob Smithson and @Noah Irving - your detailed experiences are exactly what I needed to read. The coordination document idea seems like a game-changer for keeping everyone accountable and organized throughout the process. I'm feeling much more prepared to have this conversation with my ex now. Thank you all for sharing your real-world experiences - this community is amazing!
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Sophia Carter
•@CosmicCruiser I'm so glad this thread has been helpful for you too! I was feeling completely lost when I first posted, but everyone's real experiences have made this seem so much more manageable. Your questions are really smart - especially about having backup plans if one parent gets denied. That's something I hadn't fully considered but definitely should plan for. The out-of-state question is interesting too - I wonder if that affects the timing of document processing at all. It's amazing how much practical knowledge everyone has shared here. Good luck with your conversation with your ex - sounds like you're going into it well-prepared!
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Charlotte White
•@CosmicCruiser Great questions! I haven't been through this personally yet, but based on everything I've read here, I'd definitely recommend having that backup plan you mentioned. From what @Alexander Evans shared earlier, it sounds like communication breakdowns can really mess things up if one parent goes rogue. Maybe include in your coordination document what happens if one person gets denied - like does the other parent automatically pick up that portion, or do you explore other options first? The out-of-state thing is interesting too - I wonder if different states have any variations in how they handle the paperwork processing. This whole thread has been such an education!
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Miguel Diaz
I'm new to navigating college financial aid and this thread has been incredibly eye-opening! As someone who's just starting to research options for my own situation, I'm amazed by how much practical knowledge everyone has shared here. A couple of questions for the group: Does the order in which divorced parents apply matter at all, or is it truly just about coordination? And for those who successfully coordinated with their ex, how did you initially bring up the topic - was it awkward to discuss splitting such a large financial commitment? @Jessica Nguyen - thank you for starting this discussion! It's clear from all the responses that this is a common situation that many families face. @Jacob Smithson and @Noah Irving - your step-by-step experiences are incredibly valuable. The coordination document idea seems like it could prevent so many potential issues down the road. This community has really shown me that while the financial aid process can seem overwhelming, there are people who've successfully navigated these exact challenges before. Really grateful for everyone's willingness to share their experiences!
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Theodore Nelson
•@Miguel Diaz Welcome to the community! Your questions are really thoughtful, especially about the order of applications. From what I ve'gathered reading through this thread, it seems like coordination is definitely more important than the specific order - several people mentioned applying on the same day or within the same week to help the financial aid office process everything smoothly. As for bringing up the topic with an ex, I imagine it could be awkward at first, but framing it as working "together for our child s'future might" help. The financial reality is that many families need both parents to contribute to make college affordable, so it s'really about being practical rather than personal. Thanks for acknowledging how helpful this discussion has been - I m'learning so much from everyone s'real-world experiences too!
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Sean Matthews
•@Miguel Diaz Great question about application order! From my understanding based on everyone s'experiences here, the order doesn t'really matter to the federal system - each Parent PLUS application is evaluated independently based on that parent s'credit. But coordinating timing definitely seems to help the school s'financial aid office process everything more efficiently. As for bringing it up with an ex, I d'probably start with something like I "ve'been researching our options for [daughter s'name] s'college costs and found out we can both apply for separate loans to split the burden - would you be open to discussing how we might coordinate this? Leading" with the practical benefit for your child might make it feel less awkward. This whole thread has been such a goldmine of real-world advice!
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Quinn Herbert
I'm just starting to research college funding options for my own family and this entire discussion has been incredibly enlightening! The level of practical, real-world advice here is exactly what I needed to see. One thing that really stands out to me is how important the coordination and communication aspect seems to be. It sounds like the actual loan application process is fairly straightforward once you understand the rules, but managing the relationship dynamics and logistics with an ex-spouse adds a whole other layer of complexity. @Jessica Nguyen - I'm so glad you got clarity from your financial aid office! Your follow-up posts really helped show how this can work in practice. @Jacob Smithson and @Noah Irving - the coordination document and same-day application strategies you both mentioned seem brilliant for avoiding the kind of disasters that @Alexander Evans experienced. For anyone else reading this who might be in a similar situation, it seems like the key takeaways are: 1. Both divorced parents CAN apply for separate Parent PLUS loans 2. Coordinate timing and amounts beforehand 3. Get everything in writing 4. Work directly with your school's financial aid office 5. Remember each parent is individually responsible for their loan This thread is a perfect example of how valuable shared experiences can be for navigating these complex financial aid situations. Thank you all for being so generous with your knowledge!
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Emily Thompson
•@Quinn Herbert Thank you for such a thoughtful summary! As someone who s'new to this whole process, I really appreciate how you ve'pulled together all the key insights from everyone s'experiences. Those takeaways you listed are spot-on and will definitely be my roadmap if I end up in a similar situation. It s'amazing how this thread evolved from @Jessica Nguyen s initial'confusion to a comprehensive guide with real examples of what works and what (can go wrong! . The)coordination document idea that @Jacob Smithson and @Noah Irving mentioned keeps coming up as a game-changer - it seems like that one step could prevent so many of the communication breakdowns that make this process stressful. This community really shows how powerful it is when people share their actual experiences rather than just theoretical advice. Thanks for highlighting the most important points!
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Sofia Rodriguez
This has been such an incredibly valuable thread to read through! I'm currently facing a similar situation with my ex-spouse and our son's college expenses, and honestly, I was feeling pretty overwhelmed before finding this discussion. What really strikes me is how the practical coordination seems to be just as important as understanding the loan mechanics themselves. The stories shared here - both the successes like @Jacob Smithson and @Noah Irving described, and the cautionary tale from @Alexander Evans - really highlight why communication and documentation are so critical. I'm particularly interested in the coordination document approach that several people have mentioned. It seems like having everything spelled out in writing beforehand could save so much stress and potential conflict down the road. @Jacob Smithson, if you're still willing to share that template, I'd be incredibly grateful! One question I haven't seen addressed yet: has anyone dealt with this when there are significant income differences between the divorced parents? I'm wondering if there are any strategies for fairly dividing the loan amounts when one parent earns considerably more than the other, beyond just splitting based on raw ability to qualify for credit. Thank you all for sharing your real experiences - it's made what seemed like an impossible situation feel much more manageable!
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Santiago Martinez
•@Sofia Rodriguez Your question about income differences is really important! I ve'been reading through all these experiences and wondering about the same thing. From what @Jacob Smithson shared, it sounds like they did base their split on income differences $25K vs ($17K , which)seems like a fair approach. I imagine you could factor in both current income and long-term ability to handle monthly payments - maybe the parent with higher income takes on a larger portion, but not necessarily proportional to the income difference since there might be other factors like existing debt or expenses. The coordination document that everyone keeps mentioning would probably be perfect for documenting whatever formula you decide on together. It s great'that you re thinking'about fairness upfront - that kind of planning seems to be what separates the success stories from the disaster scenarios people have shared here!
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