Does Social Security automatically check ex-spouse benefits at FRA or do I have to request it?

You MUST tell them about your ex-spouse!!! SSA doesn't automatically check this - they have NO WAY of knowing who you were married to or for how long unless you tell them! I learned this the hard way and lost almost 2 years of higher payments because nobody at my local office even asked about previous marriages. Make sure to bring your marriage certificate and divorce decree to PROVE the marriage lasted 10+ years. The system is designed to make you miss out on money you deserve!

The previous comment isn't entirely accurate. When you apply for retirement benefits, the SSA representative should ask about your marital history during your application interview. There's a section specifically for this information. However, it's still your responsibility to make sure this information is provided accurately. If you apply online, make sure to complete the marital history section thoroughly. Bring your marriage certificate and divorce decree to verify the 10+ year duration. The SSA won't automatically know to check your ex-spouse's record unless you provide this information, but they should prompt you for it during a properly conducted application process.

when i filed last yr they did ask bout my marriage history on the form but my friend said they didn't give her exs benefit automatically she had to go back and request it later and show proof

Here's how it actually works: You need to provide your marital history when you apply for benefits, but the SSA won't automatically calculate benefits on an ex-spouse's record unless you specifically request it or the representative handling your case decides to check. This is why some people miss out. When you apply (whether online or in person): 1. Complete the marital history section in full 2. Explicitly state you want them to check for potential benefits on your ex-spouse's record 3. Provide your ex's Social Security number if you have it (not required but speeds things up) 4. Bring proof of marriage and divorce showing the marriage lasted at least 10 years Remember: You'll receive either your own benefit or 50% of your ex's benefit amount (whichever is higher), not both combined. Also, claiming on an ex's record doesn't reduce their benefits in any way, and they won't be notified you're doing this. Best approach: Be explicit and follow up. Don't assume anyone will automatically check all possible benefit calculations for you.

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my mom just went thru this. she was married 22 years to my dad before they divorced and she had no idea she could get more from his record until her friend told her. she had to request it specifically and provide the marriage license and divorce papers. she got an extra $570/month after that! definitely worth asking about

To directly answer your original question: No, they don't automatically check ex-spouse benefits without you mentioning the marriage. However, they should ask about your marital history during the application process. Important points to remember: 1. You must be unmarried or your later marriage ended 2. You must be at least 62 3. Your ex must be at least 62 (even if not yet claiming) 4. The marriage must have lasted at least 10 years 5. You're generally eligible for up to 50% of your ex's FRA benefit amount If your own benefit is higher than 50% of your ex's, you'll receive your own benefit amount. If the ex-spouse amount is higher, you'll receive your benefit plus the difference to equal the higher amount. Be proactive and explicit when applying. The responsibility ultimately falls on you to ensure all potential benefits are explored.

isnt there a thing where if you claim on your ex they get notified? my ex would be furious if he knew i was getting benefits from his record lol