Can I keep my deceased father's Social Security payment that arrived same day he died?
My father passed away at 73 on April 15th, which happens to be the exact same day his March Social Security retirement benefits hit his checking account. I'm the executor of his estate and trying to figure out if I need to return these funds to SSA or if they can stay in the account to help with the $8,900 funeral costs we're facing. I've gotten completely contradictory answers from the funeral director (who says I must return it) and my dad's neighbor (who says the money is part of the estate). Does anyone know the official rule about benefits that arrive on the day of death? The payment was around $2,350. Any guidance would be really appreciated since every dollar helps right now.
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StarSurfer
I'm sorry for your loss. I went through this last year with my mother. The Social Security payment is for the PREVIOUS month (March payment covers February), so if your father passed on April 15th, he was alive for all of March, meaning he was entitled to that payment. You do NOT need to return it. However, you should report his death to SSA immediately because they will not send any payments for April since he didn't live the entire month.
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Yuki Nakamura
•Thank you so much for explaining. So to clarify - the March payment that arrived on April 15th was actually for February? That makes sense. I'll report his death this week. Does that automatically stop payments or do I need to take additional steps?
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Carmen Reyes
I dont think your dads neighbor knows what they're talking about!! When my uncle died we had to give back the money that came after he died. But im not sure about money that came ON the day he died. You should definitely call SSA directly and ASK them, thats the only way to be 100% SURE!!
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Andre Moreau
•totally agree, my sister got in trouble when she spent my grandmas SS money that came after she passed. the funeral director is probably right about giving it back but you should call and check
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Yuki Nakamura
•Thanks for the response. I'll definitely call SSA, though I've been trying for days and can't get through. I'm worried about using the money for funeral expenses and then finding out later I wasn't supposed to.
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Zoe Christodoulou
The rule is actually pretty straightforward. Social Security benefits are paid in arrears, meaning the payment you receive in April is for March. Since your father was alive for the entire month of March, that payment belongs to his estate and you do not need to return it. You would only need to return payments that arrive for April or later months. However, there's a different issue to be aware of: there is no death benefit paid for the month in which the person dies, regardless of what day of the month they died. So if he died on April 15th, no payment will be issued for April (which would normally arrive in May). You should contact SSA to report the death as soon as possible to avoid any overpayments. The funeral home usually reports the death, but it's good to follow up.
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Yuki Nakamura
•This is incredibly helpful, thank you. I'll make sure to follow up with SSA even though the funeral home said they reported it. One more question - is there a specific department I should ask for when I call?
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Jamal Thompson
When my dad died, I couldn't get through to Social Security for WEEKS. Kept calling and calling. The hold times were 2+ hours and sometimes I'd get disconnected after waiting all that time. Super frustrating when you're already dealing with grief.
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Mei Chen
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Jamal Thompson
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CosmicCadet
My condolences for your loss. There's actually a small lump-sum death benefit of $255 you can apply for if you're the surviving spouse or a child eligible for benefits. It's not much but might help a tiny bit with those funeral costs.
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Yuki Nakamura
•Thank you, I didn't know about that. My mom is still living - would she be the one who needs to apply for that?
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Carmen Reyes
Wait im confused about something - if benefits are for the PREVIOUS month, why do they take back the payment when someone dies early in a month? My friend's husband died on the 3rd and they made her give back his payment? This system makes no sense!
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Zoe Christodoulou
•They take back payments that arrive AFTER death that the person wasn't entitled to. For example, if someone dies on May 3rd, they aren't entitled to a payment for May (which would arrive in June). If that June payment arrives automatically before SSA processes the death, they'll request it back. But payments for April (arriving in May) would belong to the deceased because they were alive all of April.
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StarSurfer
Just to add some clarity: Social Security benefits work on a month-of-entitlement basis. To receive benefits for a given month, the beneficiary must be alive for the ENTIRE month. So if your father passed on April 15th: - March payment (received April 15th): This is his and belongs to the estate because he was alive all of March - April payment: He would NOT be entitled to this because he wasn't alive for the entire month of April The funeral director was likely confused or misinformed. That March payment is legitimately part of your father's estate and can be used for funeral expenses.
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Yuki Nakamura
•This makes perfect sense now. I appreciate everyone's help. I'll hold onto the March payment that arrived April 15th for estate expenses, and make sure to report his death so no May payment arrives for April.
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Andre Moreau
make sure u save some of that money just in case until everything is sorted out. my aunt spent all the money and then had to come up with it later when ssa wanted it back and it was a whole thing
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Keisha Robinson
I'm so sorry for your loss. I work in estate administration and can confirm what others have said - that March payment that arrived on April 15th belongs to your father's estate since he was alive for the entire month of March. Social Security pays in arrears, so you're legally entitled to keep it. The funeral director was incorrect. However, I'd recommend setting aside a portion of those funds in a separate account labeled "estate - SSA payment" until you get official confirmation from SSA, just to have a paper trail showing you handled it properly. This protects you if there are any questions later. You can absolutely use it for funeral expenses once you've reported the death and confirmed with SSA.
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Amara Okafor
•That's really smart advice about keeping it in a separate account with a clear label. I hadn't thought about creating a paper trail like that, but it makes total sense from a legal standpoint. I'll set up a separate account today called "Estate - March SSA Payment" and document everything. Thank you for the professional perspective - it's reassuring to hear from someone who works in this field.
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Sean O'Donnell
I'm really sorry for your loss. I went through something similar with my grandmother last year. The key thing to understand is that Social Security benefits are paid a month behind - so that March payment that arrived on April 15th was for February, and since your father was alive for all of February, that money rightfully belongs to his estate. You don't need to return it. The confusion often comes from people not understanding the timing of the payments. I'd definitely call SSA to report the death (try calling right when they open at 8 AM for shorter wait times), but that March payment is yours to keep and can absolutely be used for funeral expenses. The funeral director was well-intentioned but incorrect about this specific situation.
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Santiago Martinez
•Thanks Sean, that's really helpful about calling right at 8 AM - I'll definitely try that tomorrow morning. I'm getting more confident that the March payment is legitimate estate funds based on everyone's consistent explanations about the timing. It's such a relief to know I can use it for the funeral costs without worrying about having to pay it back later. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to explain this clearly during what's already a difficult time.
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Javier Gomez
I'm so sorry for your loss. This is such a difficult time and it's understandable you want to make sure you're handling everything correctly. Based on what others have shared, it sounds like you're in the clear with that March payment since your father was alive for the entire month it covers. One thing I'd add is that when you do get through to SSA, make sure to ask them to send you written confirmation that the death has been reported and processed. This can be helpful documentation for the estate and gives you peace of mind that no future payments will be sent. Also, if you have any joint accounts or automatic deposits set up, you might want to check with the bank about how to handle those going forward. Wishing you strength during this difficult time.
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Amara Oluwaseyi
•That's excellent advice about getting written confirmation from SSA. I hadn't thought about asking for documentation that the death was properly reported and processed - that would definitely give me peace of mind and protect the estate if any questions come up later. I'll make sure to request that when I call tomorrow morning. The joint account tip is also really helpful since my dad did have some automatic deposits set up. Thank you for thinking of those practical details that I might have missed while dealing with everything else right now.
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Reginald Blackwell
I'm so sorry for your loss. This is exactly the kind of confusing situation that adds unnecessary stress during an already difficult time. Based on what others have explained about Social Security's payment timing, it sounds like you're absolutely entitled to keep that March payment since your father was alive for the entire month it covers. I went through something similar with my mother-in-law, and the key thing I learned is to document everything carefully. Keep records of when you report the death to SSA, save any confirmation numbers they give you, and consider keeping a simple log of all the steps you take. This not only protects you legally but also helps you stay organized when you're grieving and everything feels overwhelming. That $2,350 can definitely help with funeral costs - you've got enough to worry about without adding financial stress on top of everything else.
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Madeline Blaze
•Thank you so much for the kind words and practical advice about documentation. You're absolutely right that keeping detailed records is important - I've been so focused on the immediate decisions that I hadn't thought about creating a proper paper trail. I'll start a simple log today documenting all my calls to SSA, any confirmation numbers, and the steps I'm taking. It's reassuring to hear from someone who went through a similar situation and came out okay on the other side. The stress of potentially making the wrong financial decision on top of grieving has been really overwhelming, so knowing that this March payment can legitimately help with the funeral costs is such a relief.
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Zoe Papanikolaou
I'm so sorry for your loss. This is an incredibly stressful situation to navigate while you're grieving. I want to echo what others have said - that March payment that arrived on April 15th is legitimately part of your father's estate. Social Security pays benefits the month after they're earned, so that payment was for March when your father was alive the entire month. One thing I'd suggest is calling SSA first thing in the morning (8 AM sharp) when wait times are typically shorter. When you do get through, ask them to walk you through exactly what happens next and request they send you written confirmation that the death has been properly recorded in their system. This gives you documentation for the estate records. That $2,350 can absolutely be used for funeral expenses - you have enough to deal with right now without worrying about money that rightfully belongs to the estate. Take care of yourself during this difficult time.
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Amara Nnamani
•I'm so sorry for your loss as well. Your advice about calling at 8 AM is really valuable - I've been trying to get through during midday and the wait times have been impossible. I'll definitely set my alarm early tomorrow and try right when they open. Getting that written confirmation sounds like a smart move for the estate records. It's been such a relief reading everyone's consistent explanations about the March payment being legitimate - the funeral director really had me worried that I'd be doing something wrong by using it for expenses. Thank you for taking the time to offer such thoughtful guidance during what I know is a difficult topic to discuss.
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