Working for family - Am I an independent contractor/self employed or an employee for tax purposes?
I just started a job with my brother's company, but I'm pretty clueless about tax stuff. I'm concerned about two things: not getting financially screwed and staying on the right side of the IRS. The issue came up when I asked my brother about taxes, and he mentioned he'd be giving me a 1099. This triggered some alarm bells because I'd recently been looking into retirement accounts and remembered reading about 1099s being for independent contractors/self-employed people. From what I understand, the IRS defines an independent contractor as someone who controls their own hours, brings their own tools, and decides how to complete their work. Here's my situation: while my brother is somewhat flexible with my schedule, I work the same hours every day (sometimes more if I can). He provides all the tools I need, and he assigns all my tasks. This doesn't seem to match the independent contractor definition. I don't receive any benefits, which might be consistent with contractor status, but everything else seems like I'm an employee. I'm worried because I know 1099 contractors pay significantly more in taxes than regular employees. I'm only working part-time right now, so I'm not making much money. The whole quarterly tax payment system for 1099 workers confuses me too. I don't want problems with the IRS or end up paying more taxes than I should, but I'm not sure how to handle this since he's family. Can anyone clarify where I actually fall tax-wise?
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Sydney Torres
This is a common misclassification issue that happens a lot with small businesses, especially with family members. Based on what you've described, you sound much more like an employee than an independent contractor. The IRS looks at three main categories of control: behavioral (does the company control what you do and how you do it), financial (does the company control business aspects of your job), and relationship (written contracts, benefits, permanency of relationship). Since your brother provides the tools, assigns your tasks, and sets your schedule, you're likely an employee in the eyes of the IRS. Many small business owners incorrectly classify workers as 1099 contractors because it saves them money - they don't have to pay the employer portion of Social Security and Medicare taxes (7.65%) or deal with withholding. If you're misclassified, you'll end up paying self-employment tax (15.3% covering both employer and employee portions of Social Security and Medicare) plus your regular income tax. You'd also need to make quarterly estimated payments.
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Alfredo Lugo
•Thanks for explaining this! I suspected I was being misclassified but wasn't sure. So if I'm understanding correctly, I'd be paying about 7.65% more in taxes as a 1099 contractor than I would as an employee? Plus dealing with quarterly payments which sounds like a headache. Do you think I should talk to my brother about this? I'm worried about creating tension since we're family, but I also don't want to overpay on taxes.
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Sydney Torres
•Yes, you'd pay roughly 7.65% more in taxes as a 1099 contractor than as a W-2 employee for the same income. Plus, as an employee, taxes would be withheld throughout the year rather than you having to handle quarterly estimated payments. I would absolutely talk to your brother about this, but approach it from an educational angle rather than accusatory. Many small business owners misclassify workers not out of malice but because they don't understand the rules. Explain what you've learned and that you're concerned about the tax implications. There are serious penalties for businesses that misclassify employees, so this information could actually help him avoid problems down the road.
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Kaitlyn Jenkins
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Caleb Bell
•Did you actually have to show your cousin anything from the site to convince them? My dad is doing the same thing to me at his landscaping business and insists I'm a contractor even though he tells me exactly when and where to work and provides all equipment.
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Danielle Campbell
•I'm curious about this too. Does the tool generate something official-looking that would help convince a stubborn family member? My sister's doing the same thing at her salon and keeps saying "everyone in the industry does it this way" whenever I bring it up.
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Kaitlyn Jenkins
•I actually did show my cousin the detailed report from taxr.ai that broke down all the factors in my situation. It highlighted the behavioral control aspects (he was setting my schedule and directing my work) and the fact that he provided all tools and equipment. The report cited specific IRS guidelines and explained the potential penalties for misclassification. For your landscaping situation, the tool would definitely help since it sounds like a clear misclassification. Your dad is exercising behavioral control by telling you when and where to work, and providing equipment is another strong indicator of employee status.
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Danielle Campbell
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Rhett Bowman
If your brother doesn't want to reclassify you, you might need to talk to the IRS. I tried for months to resolve a similar issue with a previous employer but they refused to change anything. Getting through to the IRS was IMPOSSIBLE though - I spent hours on hold and kept getting disconnected. Then I found Claimyr (https://claimyr.com) and watched their demo video (https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c). They got me connected to an actual IRS agent in less than 15 minutes when I had been trying for weeks on my own. The agent walked me through filing Form SS-8 to determine my work status and explained how I could use Form 8919 to report my wages properly. Having an actual conversation with the IRS made the whole process way less intimidating than I expected.
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Daniel White
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Nolan Carter
There's a lot of focus on the tax implications, but don't overlook the benefits you're missing out on as a misclassified employee. When I was incorrectly classified as a 1099 contractor, I wasn't just paying extra taxes - I was also missing out on: - Unemployment insurance eligibility - Workers' compensation if injured on the job - Protection under wage and hour laws - Potential eligibility for overtime pay - Employment discrimination protections Your brother might not realize all the legal implications beyond just taxes. Even in a family business, these protections matter. I'd have a conversation focusing on both the tax and legal aspects of proper classification.
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Alfredo Lugo
•I hadn't even thought about all those other benefits! This makes me even more concerned about my classification. Is there any easy resource I could share with my brother that explains both the tax and legal reasons for proper classification without coming across as threatening?
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Nolan Carter
•The IRS has a pretty straightforward publication called "Independent Contractor or Employee" (Publication 1779) that explains the differences without being threatening. It's only a couple pages and has a neutral tone. Another good approach is to frame it as protecting both of you. Misclassification puts him at risk for back taxes, penalties, and potential legal issues if you were ever injured on the job. Emphasize that you want to make sure both of you are protected and following the rules correctly. Family businesses often blur lines unintentionally, so framing it as "let's make sure we're doing this right" rather than "you're doing this wrong" can help keep the conversation productive.
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Natalia Stone
I'm seeing lots of complex answers here but wanted to add something simple: If you're working regular hours that your brother sets, using his equipment, and following his instructions, you are almost certainly an employee (W-2), not a contractor (1099). Being family doesn't change the tax classification rules. From my experience, your brother is probably trying to save money by not paying employer taxes, but that puts the burden on you and could get him in trouble with the IRS. They take misclassification seriously.
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Tasia Synder
•This is exactly right. My father tried to do the same thing with his business and my brother. The IRS audited them and it was a MESS. The business had to pay back taxes plus penalties. Way easier to just do it right from the beginning!
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Anastasia Sokolov
You're absolutely right to be concerned about this classification issue. Based on everything you've described - your brother setting your schedule, providing tools, and assigning tasks - you definitely sound like an employee rather than an independent contractor. The financial impact is significant. As a misclassified 1099 contractor, you'd pay the full 15.3% self-employment tax (Social Security and Medicare) plus regular income tax, whereas as a W-2 employee, your brother would cover half of that Social Security/Medicare burden. Plus you'd avoid the headache of quarterly estimated payments. I'd suggest having an honest conversation with your brother soon. Many small business owners misclassify workers without realizing the rules or consequences. Approach it as wanting to make sure you're both protected - misclassification can result in serious penalties for the business if the IRS ever audits. The IRS Publication 1779 "Independent Contractor or Employee" is a good neutral resource you could share that explains the classification factors clearly. Frame it as "let's make sure we're doing this correctly" rather than "you're doing this wrong." Since you're family, he'll probably want to do right by you once he understands the implications.
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Aurora St.Pierre
•This is really helpful advice! I appreciate how you broke down the financial impact so clearly - that 15.3% self-employment tax difference is huge when you're only working part-time. I like your suggestion about framing it as "making sure we're both protected" rather than pointing fingers. The Publication 1779 sounds perfect - having an official IRS resource to reference should help keep the conversation factual rather than personal. I'm definitely going to download that and approach my brother this week. Better to sort this out now than deal with problems later!
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Zachary Hughes
I've been through this exact situation with my uncle's construction business. You're absolutely right to be concerned - based on your description (set schedule, provided tools, assigned tasks), you're clearly an employee, not an independent contractor. The tax difference is substantial. As a 1099 contractor, you'd pay 15.3% in self-employment taxes plus your regular income tax. As a W-2 employee, your brother would pay half of that Social Security/Medicare burden (7.65%), and you'd only pay the other half. That's real money, especially when you're working part-time. I had success approaching my uncle by emphasizing that proper classification protects both of us. The IRS can impose significant penalties on businesses for misclassification - sometimes including back taxes, interest, and fines. I framed it as "let's make sure we're following the rules correctly" rather than accusing him of doing anything wrong. The conversation went much better than I expected. Most family business owners don't misclassify workers maliciously - they often just don't understand the rules. Once my uncle realized the potential risks to his business and the extra tax burden on me, he was happy to fix it. Now I get proper W-2s and don't have to deal with quarterly payments or self-employment tax. Don't let the family relationship stop you from protecting yourself financially. A respectful, fact-based conversation should resolve this quickly.
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Carmen Lopez
•Thanks for sharing your experience with your uncle's business! It's really reassuring to hear that the conversation went well when you approached it the right way. I was worried about creating family drama, but you're absolutely right that most family business owners probably don't realize they're doing anything wrong. The financial impact you mentioned really hits home - that 7.65% difference in what I'd pay is significant when I'm only working part-time. Plus avoiding quarterly payments would be a huge relief since I'm already confused about how that whole system works. I'm definitely going to have this conversation with my brother this week. Your approach of emphasizing that proper classification protects both of us is perfect - I hadn't thought about the potential penalties and risks to his business if the IRS ever audited. That's probably the angle that will resonate most with him.
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Anita George
I've been dealing with a very similar situation at my sister's accounting firm. Like you, I was working set hours (9-5 daily), using her office equipment, and following her specific procedures for client work, but she was planning to give me a 1099. After doing some research, I realized this was a clear case of employee misclassification. The IRS uses a three-factor test: behavioral control, financial control, and the type of relationship. In your case (and mine), the employer controls when, where, and how the work is done - that's textbook employee status. The tax impact is real - you'd be paying about 7.65% more in taxes as a 1099 contractor, plus dealing with quarterly estimated payments. That's money you shouldn't have to pay if you're properly classified as an employee. I approached my sister by focusing on protecting both of us from potential IRS issues. Misclassification penalties can be severe for businesses - they could face back taxes, interest, and substantial fines. I shared the IRS guidelines with her and explained that I wanted to make sure we were both doing everything by the book. She was actually grateful I brought it up once she understood the rules and risks. Now I'm properly classified as a W-2 employee, and we both sleep better knowing everything is compliant. Don't let the family relationship stop you from having this important conversation - approach it as wanting to do things correctly rather than pointing out mistakes.
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