What are my options if my child's mother won't sign Form 8332 for me to claim our child?

This is unfortunately a common issue with Form 8332. Since your ex has primary physical custody, the IRS automatically considers her the custodial parent with the right to claim your child as a dependent - regardless of what your custody agreement says. Here are your options: First, try to resolve this amicably. Remind her that violating the custody agreement could have legal consequences. Maybe suggest mediation if direct communication isn't working. If that fails, you should consult your family law attorney because this is a violation of your court order. In terms of your taxes, without the signed Form 8332, you technically cannot claim your son. If you do, it will likely trigger an audit since your ex will probably also claim him. The IRS doesn't care about your custody agreement - they only care about who has physical custody and whether Form 8332 was signed.

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I've been through this exact Form 8332 nightmare. Here's what worked for me: I had my lawyer send a formal letter to my ex stating that refusing to sign Form 8332 was a violation of our court order and that we would file for contempt if she didn't comply. The letter included a deadline and mentioned potential legal fees she would be responsible for. The key was having the letter come from my lawyer on official letterhead rather than from me. She signed the form within 3 days of receiving it. Sometimes they need to understand there are real consequences for ignoring court orders.

Has anyone tried e-filing and claiming the child WITHOUT Form 8332, then dealing with the audit later? I did this 2 years ago when my ex refused to sign. I attached a copy of our custody agreement showing it was my year to claim our kid and explained in a statement that the other parent was violating the agreement. I did get audited, but was able to show the court order and proof that I'd been trying to get the form signed. The IRS ended up allowing my claim because I had substantial evidence that the refusal to sign Form 8332 was in violation of a court order! Not saying it would work for everyone, but it worked for me.

I'm dealing with a similar situation right now and it's so frustrating! My ex has been refusing to sign Form 8332 for the past two years even though our divorce decree clearly states we alternate claiming our daughter. One thing I learned from my family law attorney is that you should document EVERYTHING - save all your texts, emails, and any other communication where she's refusing to sign or acknowledging that it's your year to claim him. This documentation becomes crucial if you need to go back to court for contempt proceedings. Also, make sure your custody agreement language is specific about the tax arrangements. Some agreements have vague language that can be interpreted different ways. If yours is clear about alternating years, that strengthens your position significantly. I know it's expensive, but honestly the legal route might be your best bet if she continues to refuse. The tax benefits (child tax credit, dependent deduction, etc.) are usually worth more than the cost of having a lawyer send a formal demand letter.

I've been through this exact situation and understand how frustrating it is when your ex violates the custody agreement like this. Here's what I learned from my experience: First, you're absolutely right that this isn't fair and she can't just decide she "needs the tax break more" when you have a court order. The tax benefits for claiming a dependent can be substantial - potentially $2,000+ with the child tax credit alone, plus the dependent deduction. My advice: Start documenting everything immediately. Save screenshots of all her texts refusing to sign Form 8332. If possible, send her a written message (text or email) stating something like "According to our custody agreement dated [date], 2025 is my year to claim [son's name] as a dependent. Please sign Form 8332 as required by our agreement." Her response (or lack of response) becomes evidence. If she continues refusing, you have two main paths: 1) Have your family law attorney send a formal demand letter (usually costs $150-300 but often effective), or 2) File for contempt of court. The legal fees are almost always less than the tax benefits you're entitled to. Don't file your taxes claiming him without Form 8332 unless you're prepared for an audit and potential penalties. The IRS doesn't care about custody agreements - they only recognize Form 8332 for non-custodial parents. Time is running short, so I'd recommend calling your attorney ASAP to discuss sending that formal letter. Good luck!