Tax Implications of buying an unmarried partner out of a house - capital gains question
I'm in a bit of a weird situation and could use some tax advice before I dive into figuring this all out myself. About 3 years ago, I purchased a home with my girlfriend (well, ex-girlfriend now). We're splitting up this year and she's offering to buy me out of the house. Basically she'd pay me what I've contributed financially over the years plus some extra for the house's appreciation. All told, it would be around $27K for me to give up my ownership stake in the property. I'm totally lost on whether there are tax implications I need to worry about. From the little research I've done, I think I might be exempt from capital gains taxes since I've lived in the house as my primary residence for a certain number of months? I'm in Illinois if that helps with state-specific info. Sorry if this is a stupid question - taxes are definitely not my strong suit and this breakup situation is making everything more complicated than I expected. Thanks for any help you can offer.
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Yara Campbell
Good news! You're probably on the right track. The IRS has what's called the Section 121 exclusion, which lets you exclude up to $250,000 of capital gain on the sale of your primary residence if you've owned and lived in it for at least 2 out of the 5 years before the sale. Since you've lived there for about 3 years, you likely qualify. The fact that you're selling to your ex (rather than a third party) doesn't change how it's treated for tax purposes - it's still considered a sale. The capital gain would be calculated as the difference between your original basis (what you paid for your portion) and what you're receiving ($27K). One thing to consider - make sure you document everything properly. Get a proper buyout agreement in writing, and consider having the property appraised to establish fair market value. Also, make sure the title is properly transferred to remove your name. Although this sounds straightforward, it might be worth consulting with a tax professional who can review your specific situation, especially if the property has appreciated significantly.
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Isaac Wright
•Thanks for the info. Quick question - does it matter that we weren't married? I've heard capital gains exclusions are different for married vs unmarried owners. Also, would I need to file any special forms with my taxes next year to report this?
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Yara Campbell
•The Section 121 exclusion applies regardless of marital status - it's about ownership and use, not whether you were married. The $250,000 exclusion is per person, so unmarried co-owners can each exclude up to $250,000 of gain on their respective shares. Married couples filing jointly get a combined $500,000 exclusion. For reporting, you'll need to file Form 8949 and Schedule D with your tax return if you have a capital gain that isn't fully excluded. If your entire gain is excluded under Section 121, the IRS doesn't require you to report the sale unless you received a Form 1099-S. It's still good practice to document everything showing why you qualified for the exclusion.
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Maya Diaz
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Tami Morgan
•Wait, this sounds interesting. Did it help with figuring out your basis in the property? That's what I'm struggling with for a similar situation - determining what my initial basis was since we made a bunch of improvements over the years.
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Rami Samuels
•How does this work for partial ownership transfers though? Everything I've read about Section 121 applies to full sales of houses, not buying out a partner. Does taxr.ai handle these more complicated situations?
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Maya Diaz
•Yes, one of the most helpful things was that it calculated my adjusted basis including the portion of mortgage payments that went to principal and the improvements we made. It explained exactly how to account for everything from the initial down payment to the closing costs we split. For partial ownership transfers, it absolutely handles that complexity. It treats it like a proportional sale of your interest in the property. The system breaks down how the exclusion applies specifically to your ownership percentage and guides you through the documentation needed to prove both your basis and the fair market value at the time of the buyout.
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Tami Morgan
Just wanted to update - I tried taxr.ai after seeing it mentioned here and it was exactly what I needed! I was confused about how to handle the buyout from my ex-partner on our vacation property, especially since I had only owned it for 18 months. The system immediately identified that I didn't meet the 2-year requirement for the full Section 121 exclusion, but it showed me that I qualified for a partial exclusion based on our circumstances. It saved me from making what would have been a pretty expensive tax mistake. They even generated a detailed report that I can provide if I'm ever audited. Definitely give it a try if you're in this situation - cleared up all my confusion about calculating capital gains on a partial interest sale.
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Haley Bennett
Hey, I notice a lot of people here talking about the tax implications, but don't forget about getting your name off the deed and mortgage! I tried for WEEKS to reach the Illinois Recorder's Office and my bank to handle this when my partner bought me out. Complete nightmare. After wasting hours on hold, I found Claimyr (https://claimyr.com) and they got me connected to actual humans at both offices within minutes. Check out how it works in this video: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c Seriously, it saved me so much frustration. The county office walked me through exactly what forms I needed, and the bank representative helped me understand what they required to remove me from the mortgage. Don't underestimate how complicated the non-tax parts of this process can be!
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Douglas Foster
•How exactly does this work? Like, do they just call for you? I don't understand how they get through when nobody else can.
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Nina Chan
•Sorry but this sounds like BS. I've been dealing with government offices for years and there's no magic way to skip the phone queues. They're just charging you for something you could do yourself with enough persistence.
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Haley Bennett
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Nina Chan
I'm back to admit I was completely wrong about Claimyr. After expressing my skepticism, I decided to try it when I needed to talk to the IRS about my ex-partner buyout situation. I needed clarification on some paperwork requirements since our situation was complicated by some rental income from the property. The service connected me to an IRS representative in about 35 minutes, when my previous attempts had resulted in "call volume too high" messages and disconnections. The agent walked me through exactly how to document the partial sale for tax purposes and confirmed what forms I needed. I'm actually shocked at how well it worked. Definitely worth it when you need to talk to a human at these agencies quickly. Sorry for being so dismissive before.
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Ruby Knight
Make sure you get everything in writing! My ex and I did a similar buyout last year, and even though we were on good terms, having a formal agreement saved us from misunderstandings. We had a real estate attorney draft a simple buyout agreement that specified: 1. The agreed value of the home 2. How my equity was calculated 3. Timeline for payment 4. Process for removing me from the deed and mortgage The attorney fee was only about $600 and well worth avoiding problems later. Also, keep all documentation showing the original purchase price, any major improvements you've made (which increase your basis), and the final settlement. You'll need this if you're ever audited.
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Diego Castillo
•Did you need to get the house appraised? My ex and I are trying to avoid that expense if possible. We were thinking of just using recent comparable sales in our neighborhood.
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Ruby Knight
•We did get an appraisal, and I'm glad we did. While comps can work, having an official appraisal removed any potential disagreement about the home's value. It cost around $500, but it established a clear fair market value that we both agreed to accept, which made calculating my equity portion straightforward. The appraiser also provided documentation that was helpful for tax purposes - it gave me something official to use if I ever needed to prove the value at the time of the buyout.
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Logan Stewart
Has anyone dealt with this situation when you've lived in the house less than 2 years? My girlfriend and I are in a similar situation but we've only owned our place for 14 months. Does that mean I'll definitely have to pay capital gains?
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Yara Campbell
•You might still qualify for a partial exclusion if the sale is due to unforeseen circumstances. The IRS considers certain life events like relationship breakups as potentially qualifying for a reduced exclusion.
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Jenna Sloan
•@Logan Stewart You re'right to be concerned about the 2-year requirement, but @Yara Campbell is correct - there are exceptions for unforeseen circumstances "that can" qualify you for a partial exclusion even if you haven t met'the full ownership/residence test. Relationship changes including breakups (can qualify) under the change in "health, employment, or other unforeseen circumstances exception. The" partial exclusion is calculated based on how much of the 2-year period you did meet - so at 14 months, you d potentially'be able to exclude 14/24 about 58% (of the) normal $250,000 limit. You d still'want to document that the sale is directly related to your relationship ending. Keep records of your breakup timeline and the buyout agreement showing it s connected'to the relationship change. This is definitely a situation where consulting a tax professional would be worthwhile to make sure you re applying'the partial exclusion correctly.
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CosmicCruiser
One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is the importance of understanding how your mortgage payments and improvements affect your basis calculation. Since you've been living there for 3 years, you'll want to track not just your original down payment, but also the portion of your mortgage payments that went toward principal (not interest), any closing costs you paid, and documented improvements you made to the property. For example, if you put down $20K initially, paid $5K in principal over 3 years, and spent $3K on improvements, your basis would be $28K. If you're getting $27K in the buyout, you might actually have a small loss rather than a gain, which means no capital gains tax at all. Keep detailed records of everything - bank statements showing mortgage payments, receipts for any improvements (new flooring, appliances, etc.), and your original closing disclosure. The IRS defines improvements as things that add value to the home, extend its useful life, or adapt it to new uses - not regular maintenance and repairs. Also, don't forget that you can include certain selling expenses in your basis calculation, like any legal fees for the buyout agreement or title transfer costs. These can help reduce any potential taxable gain.
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Esteban Tate
•This is really helpful detail about basis calculation! I'm actually in a similar situation and hadn't thought about including the principal payments. Quick question - do you know if shared expenses like property taxes and homeowner's insurance factor into basis at all? My ex and I split those costs 50/50 over the years we owned together. Also, what about things like a new water heater or HVAC repairs - are those considered improvements or just maintenance?
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StarStrider
•@Esteban Tate Great questions! Property taxes and homeowner s'insurance are generally not added to your basis - these are considered ongoing ownership expenses rather than capital improvements. However, any property taxes you paid at closing when you first purchased the home can be included in your basis. For the water heater and HVAC question - this depends on whether it s'a repair or replacement/improvement. If you replaced a broken water heater with a similar unit, that s'typically considered maintenance. But if you upgraded to a more efficient model or higher capacity, that could qualify as an improvement. Major HVAC system replacements or upgrades usually count as improvements since they add value and extend the property s'life. The key test is whether the expense restores the property to its original condition repair/maintenance (or) makes it better than it was before improvement (.)Keep receipts for everything though - even if something doesn t'qualify as a basis adjustment, having documentation shows you re'being thorough if you re'ever questioned about your calculations. Since you mentioned splitting costs 50/50, make sure you re'only claiming your portion of any improvements in your basis calculation. If you spent $4,000 total on new flooring but only paid half, you can only add $2,000 to your basis.
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Sofia Price
One additional consideration that hasn't been mentioned - make sure you understand the timing implications for your 2025 tax filing. Since this buyout is happening this year, you'll need to report it on your 2025 tax return (filed in 2026). If you're planning to move after the buyout, be aware that the Section 121 exclusion is a once-every-two-years benefit. So if you buy another home and need to sell it quickly for any reason, you won't be able to use the exclusion again until 2027. Also, since you're in Illinois, double-check if there are any state-specific forms or requirements. While Illinois generally follows federal tax treatment for capital gains, it's worth confirming there aren't any additional state reporting requirements for property transfers between unmarried partners. The fact that you've lived there as your primary residence for 3 years puts you in a good position with the federal exclusion, but documenting everything properly now will save you headaches next tax season.
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Freya Thomsen
•This is really good timing information! I didn't realize the Section 121 exclusion had a two-year waiting period between uses. That's definitely something to keep in mind for future planning. Quick follow-up question - if someone doesn't meet the full 2-year ownership requirement but qualifies for a partial exclusion due to unforeseen circumstances (like a breakup), does that partial use still trigger the two-year waiting period? Or can they potentially use the full exclusion sooner if they meet all requirements on a future sale? Also, regarding Illinois state requirements - I found that Illinois doesn't have a separate capital gains tax, so whatever exclusion applies federally should work for state taxes too. But definitely worth double-checking with a local tax professional since property transfer rules can vary by county.
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MidnightRider
•@Freya Thomsen Great question about the partial exclusion and waiting period! Yes, even using a partial Section 121 exclusion still triggers the full two-year waiting period before you can use it again. The IRS doesn t'prorate the waiting period based on how much of the exclusion you used - it s'an all-or-nothing rule. So if you use any portion of the exclusion in 2025 even (just a partial one due to unforeseen circumstances ,)you wouldn t'be eligible to use it again until 2027, regardless of whether you meet all the requirements on a future sale. This makes it even more important to carefully consider the timing if you re'planning any major life changes. If you think you might need to sell another property in the next couple years, you might want to weigh whether it s'worth using the exclusion now or paying the capital gains tax and preserving the exclusion for a potentially larger gain later. You re'absolutely right about Illinois following federal treatment - no separate state capital gains tax makes this much simpler than in states like California or New York where you d'have additional state-level considerations.
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Sean O'Connor
I just want to emphasize how important it is to get proper documentation for everything, especially since you mentioned this is a breakup situation. Even if things are amicable now, having everything legally documented protects both of you. A few things I learned from my own similar situation last year: 1. Get a formal property appraisal - don't just rely on online estimates or comparable sales. The $500 cost is worth it to establish an indisputable fair market value. 2. Have a real estate attorney draft a buyout agreement that clearly states the property value, your equity calculation, payment terms, and timeline for deed/mortgage changes. This isn't just for legal protection - the IRS may want to see this documentation if they ever question your capital gains calculation. 3. Keep every receipt and document related to your ownership: original purchase documents, mortgage statements showing principal payments, receipts for any improvements (even small ones), and records of shared expenses. 4. Consider the timing carefully. Since you qualify for the Section 121 exclusion, you're in good shape tax-wise. But remember you can only use this exclusion once every two years, so if you're planning to buy another place soon, factor that into your decision-making. The fact that you've lived there for 3 years puts you in an excellent position with the federal exclusion, and since Illinois follows federal treatment, you shouldn't have additional state complications. Just make sure everything is properly documented now to avoid headaches during tax season.
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