My husband is an NRA and hasn't filed taxes in 20 years - what happens if he starts now?

This is definitely a complex situation but not as hopeless as you might think. The IRS has procedures for people who need to catch up on unfiled returns, and your husband's status as an NRA adds another layer but doesn't make it impossible. First, your filing status as Head of Household might be incorrect since you've been married. Generally, married individuals must file either jointly or as Married Filing Separately unless you qualify for certain exceptions. This needs addressing regardless of what your husband decides to do. For your husband, he would need to obtain an ITIN (Individual Taxpayer Identification Number) before filing any returns. The IRS has a process for this using Form W-7. Once he has this, you'd need to determine his tax residency status for each year - whether he was a resident alien or non-resident alien for tax purposes, which depends on his physical presence in the US. Rather than trying to file 20 years of back taxes immediately, focus on the most recent years (typically 3-6 years) to come into compliance. The IRS generally has a 3-year statute of limitations for assessments, but this extends to 6 years for substantial omissions and has no limit for unfiled returns.

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The biggest issue I see here is that you've been filing as Head of Household while married. That's a potentially serious issue that needs to be addressed separately from your husband's unfiled returns. The IRS could potentially view this as fraudulent filing if they discover you've been married all along. For married people, the filing statuses are generally either Married Filing Jointly or Married Filing Separately. Head of Household is specifically for unmarried individuals who pay more than half the cost of keeping up a home for a qualifying person. You might want to consider filing amended returns (Form 1040-X) for at least the last three years to correct your filing status before addressing your husband's situation.

Has your husband been in the US continuously since you got married? Because that affects whether he's considered a resident alien or non-resident alien for tax purposes. If he passes the substantial presence test (basically in the US for 183 days or more in a year), he might actually be considered a resident alien for tax purposes regardless of his immigration status. This matters because resident aliens are taxed on worldwide income, while non-resident aliens are only taxed on US-source income. It completely changes the approach to addressing the back taxes.

I want to emphasize something that might get overlooked in all the technical discussion - don't panic about this situation. While it's complex, the IRS generally works with taxpayers who are making good faith efforts to come into compliance. Given the complexity of your situation (married filing status issues, NRA determination, 20 years of unfiled returns), I'd strongly recommend working with an Enrolled Agent or CPA who specializes in international tax matters. They can help you prioritize which issues to address first and in what order. One thing to consider is that your husband may not actually owe taxes for all those years - if his income was below certain thresholds or if tax treaties apply based on his country of origin, some years might not have required filing at all. The key is getting professional guidance to navigate this systematically rather than trying to tackle everything at once. Start with getting him an ITIN, correcting your recent filing status, and then working backward through the most critical years. This isn't insurmountable - it just needs a careful, strategic approach.