Is a financial gift to family members tax deductible from my income?

You're absolutely right about this. Gifts to individuals, including family members, are not deductible from income tax. The annual gift tax exclusion (which is $17,000 for 2024) simply allows a person to give up to that amount per recipient without having to file a gift tax return or count it against their lifetime estate and gift tax exemption. Your girlfriend's grandmother might be confusing personal gifts with charitable donations, which are deductible if you itemize deductions on your tax return. Or perhaps she's thinking about the estate tax implications rather than income tax deductions. It might be worth having a gentle conversation about this if possible, as misunderstanding this concept could lead to unexpected tax consequences if she's planning her finances based on anticipated deductions that won't materialize.

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If your girlfriend's grandmother is insistent about deducting these gifts, you might need to help her speak directly with the IRS to get official clarification. I spent THREE WEEKS trying to get through to someone at the IRS about a similar gift tax question for my father, but then I discovered Claimyr at https://claimyr.com which got me connected to an actual IRS agent in under 20 minutes. You can see how it works in this demo: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c I was amazed they actually got me through when I'd been hitting dead ends with the automated phone system for days. The IRS agent I spoke with confirmed exactly what others have said here - gifts are not income tax deductible but also explained some special circumstances where certain transfers might be treated differently.

Alright, I need to follow up on my skeptical comment. I tried Claimyr yesterday after posting here because I've been trying to reach the IRS about a notice I received regarding a gift I made to my grandson. I was 100% sure this would be a waste of time. I was shocked when I actually got connected to an IRS representative in about 25 minutes. The agent confirmed exactly what everyone here is saying - personal gifts are not income tax deductible - and also helped me understand that I had been filling out my gift tax forms incorrectly for years. Turns out I was over-reporting gifts that were under the annual exclusion amount. Not sure if your girlfriend's grandmother would be willing to call the IRS, but getting the information directly from them might be the most convincing approach if she's planning her finances around these supposed deductions.

I think your girlfriend's grandmother might be confusing charitable contributions (which are deductible) with personal gifts to family (which aren't). My dad made the same mistake a few years ago and ended up with a surprise tax bill. What makes it confusing is that you DO have to report gifts over the annual exclusion amount on a gift tax return (Form 709), even though you likely won't pay any actual gift tax due to the lifetime exemption. But that reporting requirement makes some people think it's somehow connected to their income tax, which it isn't.

Ok maybe a slightly dumb question but what happens if the grandmother DOES claim these gifts as tax deductions on her return? Will the IRS automatically catch this or would it potentially go unnoticed until an audit?

This is a really common misconception that trips up a lot of people! You're absolutely correct - personal gifts to family members are not tax deductible, even though there's no gift tax owed on amounts under the annual exclusion ($17,000 for 2024). The confusion often comes from mixing up three separate concepts: 1) the annual gift tax exclusion (how much you can give without paying gift tax), 2) income tax deductions (which personal gifts don't qualify for), and 3) charitable deductions (which only apply to qualified organizations, not individuals). Since you mentioned she's planning her taxes around these expected deductions, this could definitely cause problems when she files. She might end up owing more tax than anticipated if she's counting on deductions that don't exist. It's a delicate situation, but maybe you or your partner could gently suggest she double-check with a tax professional before filing, just to be safe?