Can I claim my grandchild as a dependent on my tax return?

This is a common but tricky situation. The IRS has specific tests that determine who can claim a child as a dependent. In your case, despite providing most of the support, you're facing what's called the "tie-breaker rules" because multiple people could potentially claim the child. The legal custody agreement gives the mother priority in the eyes of the IRS, even if she's not fulfilling her parental obligations. However, there are some possibilities here. If your son qualifies as the "custodial parent" based on the number of nights the child actually stayed with him (regardless of what the agreement says), he could potentially give the mother Form 8332 which releases his claim. Then YOU might be able to claim your granddaughter if you meet the other dependency tests (relationship, residency, support, etc.). Another option is to document everything thoroughly - keep receipts for all expenses, document nights stayed, etc. - and be prepared to substantiate your claim if challenged.

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This happened in my family too! My brother claimed his son even though the child lived with my parents full-time. The key thing the IRS looks at is where the child sleeps at night for the majority of the year. Keep a calendar showing every night your granddaughter stayed in your home. Also save receipts for clothes, school supplies, medical expenses - everything. Take pictures of her room in your house. Get letters from her school showing your address. The tax court has ruled in favor of grandparents in similar cases when they can prove the child actually lived with them and they provided most of the support, regardless of the custody agreement.

Has your son considered taking the mother back to court to update the custody agreement? If the actual situation doesn't match the legal documents, that's a problem for tax purposes. The IRS generally follows the custody agreement. If he can get the agreement modified to reflect reality (that the child lives with him/you most of the time), it would be much easier to legitimately claim the child on taxes going forward. Also, make sure to look into the Child Tax Credit and the Credit for Other Dependents. Depending on your income and situation, you might qualify for one of these if you're able to claim your granddaughter.

I went through something very similar with my grandson a few years ago. The situation you're describing - where you're providing all the care but someone else has legal custody - is unfortunately common. Here's what I learned: The IRS uses what's called the "tie-breaker rules" when multiple people could potentially claim the same child. Generally, the parent with whom the child lived for the greater number of nights during the year gets to claim them. But when parents aren't living together, the custodial parent (according to the divorce decree or separation agreement) typically has the right to claim the child. However, there's an important exception: if you can prove that your granddaughter lived with you for more than half the year (183+ nights) and you provided more than half of her support, you might be able to claim her as a "qualifying relative" rather than a "qualifying child." My advice: Start documenting everything NOW for next year's taxes. Keep a detailed calendar of where she sleeps each night, save every receipt for her expenses, and get letters from her school, doctor, etc. showing your address as her primary residence. You might also want to consult with a tax professional who specializes in family situations like this - the rules can be tricky but there are often ways to make it work legally.