Can I claim my girlfriend and her child as dependents? Complex custody situation inside...

I've got a somewhat complicated situation that I'm trying to figure out for tax filing. My girlfriend didn't work at all this year as she stayed home with our newborn daughter. I'm planning to claim our daughter as my qualifying child and my girlfriend as a dependent. The tricky part involves my girlfriend's son from a previous relationship. He lived with us 5-6 nights per week from January through June, then moved in with us full-time (100%) from July through December. The courts granted my girlfriend a temporary parenting plan making her the custodial parent, and her ex currently has zero visitation rights due to a protection order we had to take out against him. Here's what I'm wondering based on these facts: 1. Since my girlfriend had no income and won't be filing, she won't be claiming her son. I'll be claiming her as my dependent. 2. My understanding is that since my girlfriend is the custodial parent, her ex would need her permission to claim their son, which she absolutely isn't giving. 3. Her ex didn't come close to providing half of the boy's financial support, and the child didn't live with him for anywhere near half the year. So I don't think he qualifies to claim the child anyway, right? Given all this, am I eligible to claim her son as my dependent? And even if I can't claim him, is there any possibility her ex could claim him despite only having him for a few days during the first half of the year? Any insights would be super helpful. This tax situation is giving me a headache!

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Aria Park

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The short answer is yes, you can likely claim your girlfriend's son as a dependent if you meet certain requirements! For your girlfriend, if you provided more than half her support and she lived with you all year, you can claim her as a "qualifying relative" dependent if her income was under $4,800. For her son, you'd need to satisfy the "qualifying child" tests for a non-relative. Since he lived with you for more than half the year and you provided more than half his support, you're on the right track. The relationship test can be met if he lived with you as a member of your household for the entire year (which seems to be the case since July, and mostly before that). Regarding the ex - you're correct. Since your girlfriend is the custodial parent according to the court order, the ex would need a signed Form 8332 from her to claim the child, which she hasn't provided. Without that form, and without meeting the support or residency tests, he cannot claim the child. One thing to double-check: make sure no one else (like a grandparent) could claim the child based on the support test, though this seems unlikely in your situation.

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Aria Park

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That's a common misconception. For a qualifying child, they don't need to be YOUR child biologically. They can be your stepchild, foster child, sibling, or even a descendant of any of these (like a niece/nephew). You're right that there's no blood relation here, but the key is the "member of household" test. For a qualifying relative, the child must live with you the entire year as a member of your household. Since the child lived with OP for the majority of the year (5-6 days/week Jan-June and full-time July-Dec), they likely meet this requirement. The IRS doesn't necessarily require 365 days - they look at the overall living situation. In this case, with court documentation showing the girlfriend has full custody, that strengthens the position significantly.

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Chloe Boulanger

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Chloe Boulanger

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It does both - you upload relevant documents (like custody agreements, proof of residency, etc.) and answer some specific questions about your situation. The system then uses these together to analyze your specific circumstances. For your sister's kid situation, it would ask about how long they've lived with you, who provides financial support, and other eligibility factors. For audit protection, yes - that's actually one of the most valuable features. The system creates a detailed report documenting your eligibility to claim the dependent based on your specific situation and the IRS rules that apply. It includes references to the exact tax code sections and explains how your circumstances satisfy those requirements. Many users keep this documentation with their tax records in case of questions later. It helped me feel much more confident when claiming a dependent in a non-traditional situation.

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Olivia Harris

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Alexander Zeus

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Alexander Zeus

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Gabriel Graham

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Drake

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One important thing I haven't seen mentioned yet - make sure you keep ALL documentation about the custody situation! If the ex tries to claim the child (which happens a lot in these situations), both returns will get flagged and you'll need to prove your case. Documents you should keep: - Copy of the court order showing custody - School records showing the child's address - Medical records you've paid for - Documentation of support you've provided (receipts for clothes, food, etc.) - The protection order documentation - Calendar or records showing the actual days the child was in each home The IRS will side with whoever files first initially, then you'll have to prove your case if there's a dispute. With a court order though, you're in a strong position.

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Lucas Notre-Dame

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Thanks for this detailed list! We actually have most of these documents already because of the custody situation. The court order is definitely the strongest piece, but I hadn't thought about keeping a calendar of the actual days. That's really smart, especially for the first half of the year when he was with us most nights but not all. Do you know if there's a specific form I need to fill out to claim him since he's not my biological child? Or do I just list him as a dependent when filing?

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Drake

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You'll list him as a dependent on your tax return just like you would any other dependent. There's no special form required specifically because he's not your biological child. The regular dependency forms (Form 1040 and the associated schedules) are all you need. When you're entering his information in your tax software or forms, you'll need to specify your relationship to him. Since he's not related to you by blood or marriage, you would typically select "Other" and might need to write in something like "girlfriend's child" or "member of household" depending on the tax software you're using.

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