Can I claim flight costs for grandma who provides respite care for my special needs child?

Respite care for a special needs child can absolutely qualify as a deductible medical expense, but the travel costs for a family member to provide that care is where things get complicated. According to IRS Publication 502, medical expenses include amounts paid for the diagnosis, cure, mitigation, treatment, or prevention of disease. This includes costs for care that's primarily for the alleviation of a physical or mental disability, including respite care. The issue is that while your child's respite care itself would be deductible, the transportation costs for someone else to provide that care is less clear-cut. Generally, travel expenses for medical care are deductible when they're primarily for and essential to medical care. The tricky part is that these rules typically apply to the patient's travel, not the caregiver's travel to the patient. However, if you can document that your mother-in-law is providing specialized care that would otherwise require hiring a professional, you might have a case.

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My daughter is a tax accountant who specializes in special needs families, and she says the key difference for deducting caregiver travel expenses is whether you can prove medical necessity vs. convenience. If your child has been prescribed respite care by a doctor as part of their treatment plan AND the grandmother has special training or qualifications to provide care that goes beyond what an untrained person could provide, then you have a much stronger case for deducting those travel costs as a medical expense. Without that doctor's recommendation and without special qualifications, it would likely be classified as a personal expense even though it's genuinely helpful for your special needs child. It's ridiculous but that's how strict the IRS is about these deductions.

Has anyone used TurboTax to claim these kinds of specialized medical deductions? Their interface is so confusing when it comes to more complex situations like this, and I'm worried about missing something important.