FAFSA parent refusing to verify 2023 tax info - will they reject my whole application?
I'm absolutely freaking out right now. My FAFSA application status changed to 'Selected for Verification' last week, and they specifically want my parent's 2023 tax information verified. The problem? My dad is refusing to provide any documentation! He thinks the government is 'collecting too much information' and says he already 'gave them enough' when he filed taxes. I've tried explaining this isn't optional if I want financial aid, but he won't budge. My SAI is currently showing $8,720 which would qualify me for some aid, but I'm worried my whole application will get thrown out if he doesn't cooperate. Has anyone dealt with this before? Can I submit the verification with just my mom's information? My parents file separately and I live with my mom most of the time, but dad claimed me as dependent in 2023. The verification deadline is in 3 weeks and I'm seriously panicking!
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Mateo Hernandez
i had something similar happen with my stepdad. he wouldnt sign ANYTHING for fafsa. i called the financial aid office at my school and they told me to request a 'dependency override' which let me file as independent. you might qualify if you can prove you live with your mom most of the time. worth asking about!
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NebulaNova
•Thank you! Did you have to provide any specific documentation for that override? My dad will be furious if he finds out I'm trying to work around him on this...
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Aisha Khan
This happens ALL THE TIME. Your dad needs to understand he's potentially costing you thousands in aid. The verification is required and they won't process your app without it. If he claimed you as dependent, you definitely need his info. Maybe show him exactly what they're asking for? Sometimes parents think it's worse than it is.
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NebulaNova
•I've tried showing him the exact forms, but he says giving his SSN on the FAFSA was already 'too much information' and now they want even more. I'm not sure how to convince him this is normal.
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Ethan Taylor
Before you go the dependency override route (which is difficult to get approved), try these steps: 1. Schedule a meeting with your school's financial aid office - explain your situation 2. Ask if a "Professional Judgment" review might be possible given your circumstances 3. See if your mom can help convince your father by explaining the verification process is standard (about 30% of FAFSA applications get selected randomly) 4. If your dad filed electronically, remind him that he can simply use the IRS Data Retrieval Tool which transfers info directly without him having to provide additional documents If none of that works, then yes, investigate the dependency override, but know that simply having an uncooperative parent usually doesn't qualify unless there are other circumstances (abuse, abandonment, etc).
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NebulaNova
•This is really helpful, thank you! I didn't know about the IRS Data Retrieval Tool - that might be less intimidating for him since he wouldn't have to give me any physical documents. I'll try that angle first.
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Yuki Ito
UGH the whole verification process is such garbage!!! I got selected last year and it took FOREVER to sort out. Ended up missing priority deadlines because of it. The system is designed to make people give up. Don't let your dad's paranoia cost you aid money!! Show him this thread if you have to. EVERYONE has to do verification if selected - it's not personal against him.
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NebulaNova
•It does feel like they make it unnecessarily complicated! Did you eventually get it resolved or did you lose aid because of the delays?
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Carmen Lopez
have u tried talking to ur school counselor? mine helped me when my parents were being difficult about fafsa stuff. they might be able to call ur dad and explain why its important
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NebulaNova
•That's a good suggestion. My counselor has met my dad before at parent-teacher conferences, so maybe he'd listen to her. I'll email her tomorrow.
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AstroAdventurer
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Yuki Ito
•does this actually work? i've been on hold with FSA for like 2 hours today and literally got disconnected TWICE
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AstroAdventurer
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Andre Dupont
Listen, I've worked in financial aid for 7 years. Here's the reality: Without verification, your application will eventually be rejected. The $8,720 SAI is meaningless until verification is complete. Since your dad claimed you as a dependent on taxes, you absolutely need his information - no way around that unless you qualify for a dependency override, which requires documentation of extreme circumstances (abuse, abandonment, incarceration, etc). Your best option is to have your dad speak directly with a financial aid counselor who can address his privacy concerns. The verification process is extremely secure and protected by federal privacy laws. The information is ONLY used for determining aid eligibility, nothing else.
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NebulaNova
•Thank you for being straight with me about this. I'll try to set up a meeting with financial aid and see if my dad will agree to talk to them directly about his concerns.
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Aisha Khan
What state are you in? Some states have special programs for students with uncooperative parents. My roommate got a special grant through our state aid commission when her dad refused to provide info for FAFSA.
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NebulaNova
•I'm in Michigan. I didn't know states might have programs for this specific situation - I'll definitely look into that! Thanks for the tip.
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Jayden Reed
I went through something similar last year! My dad was super paranoid about "government overreach" and refused to cooperate with verification at first. What finally worked was having my mom show him the official FSA website explaining that verification is completely normal and required by law - not some special targeting. She also pointed out that he'd already given the IRS all this same information when he filed taxes, so the school was just confirming what the government already had. Maybe try approaching it from the angle that this is standard procedure that happens to thousands of students, not some conspiracy against your family? Also, emphasize that without this, you'll lose ALL financial aid - not just some of it. Sometimes parents don't realize how much money is actually at stake. Good luck!
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