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FAFSA confusion with 50/50 custody divorce - which parent reports? And what is CSS?

I'm so confused about filling out the FAFSA for my son who's heading to college next fall. His dad and I split years ago, have 50/50 custody legally, and we evenly split all his expenses. Here's where it gets tricky - I remarried in 2021, but my current husband was unemployed for most of 2023 due to company layoffs. Meanwhile, my ex has significant investments, a vacation property, and makes about double what my household does currently. The FAFSA website isn't clear about our situation. Who should be the contributing parent in this case? Does my ex's higher assets mean he should file? Or should I file since my household income is lower right now? Also, I keep seeing people mention something called CSS - is this something different we need to fill out too? My son is applying to 6 schools and I'm worried we'll mess something up that might cost him aid opportunities. Any guidance would be SO appreciated!

For FAFSA the parent who provided the most financial support in the last 12 months is supposed to fill it out. But with 50/50 split its the parent the student lived with the most. If thats also 50/50 then whoever has the lower income should do it for more aid. Thats what we did last yr.

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Thanks for responding! It's literally 50/50 for both time and financial support (we track everything to the penny). So it sounds like since my household has lower income right now, I should be the one filing? I'm just worried they'll somehow find out about my ex's assets and think we're trying to game the system or something.

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@Jade O'Malley This is incorrect. If there is a 50/50 split, the parent with more assets must be the one contributing to the FAFSA. It is not up to the parents or based on who the student lives with more. The one caveat to this would be that you might be able to prove you provide more than 50% of the support by providing a roof over their head the majority of the time.

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The FAFSA rules for divorced parents changed with the 2024-2025 FAFSA Simplification Act. Now FAFSA only considers the parent who provided the MOST financial support during the last 12 months, regardless of custody arrangements. If support is truly equal at 50/50, then it defaults to whichever parent the student lived with the most. If that's also equal, then YOU get to choose which parent completes the FAFSA (and yes, typically the one with lower income/assets would be advantageous). Regarding CSS Profile: This is the College Scholarship Service Profile, a separate financial aid application required by about 200 mostly private colleges and universities. Unlike FAFSA, CSS often requires BOTH divorced parents' financial information, so your ex might need to complete a portion even if you're the FAFSA parent. Check each school's financial aid website to see if they require CSS, as not all schools do.

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Thank you so much for such a detailed explanation! That clarifies a lot. We truly do split everything 50/50, so I guess I'll be the one filling out the FAFSA since my household income is lower. I'll check each school's website about the CSS Profile too - I had no idea some schools might want information from both of us!

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make sure u keep proof of the 50/50 split if they ask for verification!! my sister got audited on her fafsa and they wanted bank statements and everything

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Oh wow, that's stressful! We do have documentation since we use a co-parenting app that tracks all expenses and custody time. Would that be enough proof if they ask?

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I went through this EXACT situation last year with my daughter!!! The whole divorced parent thing with FAFSA is a NIGHTMARE and no one at her school could give me a straight answer. We ended up calling FSA directly and waiting FOREVER on hold just to be told something different than what their website said. After 3 HOURS I finally got someone helpful who explained it all. My ex has way more money than me too but we do 50/50 custody. If you're doing true 50/50 financial support and 50/50 custody, then YOU GET TO PICK WHICH PARENT! Pick the parent with lower income/assets (you) to maximize aid. But CSS Profile is a WHOLE OTHER BEAST and will probably want both parents' info anyway. Each school has different CSS requirements!! Some wanted both parents to fill out separate CSS forms, others only wanted the FAFSA parent to do CSS. It was confusing as hell.

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This is why I love this forum!! Real experiences from parents who already went through the same thing! Way more helpful than the confusing govt websites.

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If you're struggling to get through to someone at Federal Student Aid about your specific divorce situation, try using Claimyr.com - it helped me skip the hours-long wait times when I had a similar complicated FAFSA question. They have a video demo at https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ showing how it works. Got me through to a live agent in about 10 minutes instead of being on hold for hours. The agent I spoke with was able to confirm exactly how to handle our divorced parent situation with my stepdaughter's FAFSA.

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That's really helpful, thank you! I've tried calling FSA twice already and got disconnected both times after waiting over an hour. I'll check out that service if I need to call again.

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I recommend you file as the contributing parent since your household income is lower. That will likely result in a better SAI (Student Aid Index) for your son. However, be aware that for the CSS Profile schools, they'll likely want BOTH parents' financial information regardless of your custody arrangement. Each school sets their own policies for the CSS Profile, and most private schools that use it want to see the complete financial picture. The CSS Profile is much more detailed than FAFSA and considers things FAFSA doesn't (like home equity, retirement accounts, etc.). It's primarily used by private schools and some selective public universities to distribute their institutional aid (not federal aid). There's also a fee to submit the CSS Profile, unlike FAFSA which is free. Check each school's financial aid website to see which forms they require. Some only need FAFSA, others need both FAFSA and CSS Profile.

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Thank you! I just checked my son's school list, and 4 of the 6 require the CSS Profile. I had no idea there would be fees involved or that they'd look at retirement accounts! Does this mean my ex will have to submit his financial information separately to those schools?

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Yes, for those 4 schools requiring the CSS Profile, both you and your ex will likely need to submit separate profiles. Each noncustodial parent typically gets a special link to complete their portion. The schools will evaluate both parents' ability to pay, regardless of your divorce agreement. And yes, CSS does look at retirement accounts, though they're generally assessed at a lower rate than regular assets. Each school has their own formula for how they use CSS data to determine institutional aid.

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my brothers college made both parents fill out the css thing even tho they been divorced for like 10 years and his dad had to pay part of the tuition even tho they had a divorce agreement saying he wouldnt! so watch out for that

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Oh no, that sounds like a nightmare! I'll definitely need to talk to my ex about this CSS Profile thing. Our divorce decree doesn't specifically address college expenses since we always assumed we'd both contribute somehow.

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One more important detail: Both FAFSA and CSS Profile will count your current spouse's (your son's stepfather) income and assets as part of your household financial picture, even though he's not biologically related to your son. The 2024-2025 FAFSA will use 2023 tax information, so his period of unemployment will actually be reflected in your application, which may help your son qualify for more aid. For the CSS Profile schools, they will want to see information from: 1. You and your current husband (as one household) 2. Your ex-husband (as the other biological parent) Each school will then use their own formula to determine how much each household might be expected to contribute. This is why some students receive very different financial aid packages from different schools, even with the same FAFSA SAI score.

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This is so helpful, thank you! At least my husband's unemployment in 2023 will be reflected accurately. I'm going to need to have a conversation with my ex soon about all this. He's generally cooperative but I'm not sure how he'll feel about disclosing all his financial information to these schools.

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Ugh I feel your pain! Went thru this last year and its so complicated when parents are divorced. Just pick whoever has lower income for FAFSA but be prepared for lots of paperwork for those fancy private schools!!

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Thanks for the encouragement! I'm definitely feeling overwhelmed by all this paperwork ahead.

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Watch out for the priority deadlines too! Some schools have really early CSS deadlines for the best aid packages, like in November or December! Don't wait till last minute like we did lol

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Oh that's good to know! I was thinking we had until the regular application deadlines. I'll check each school's financial aid deadlines right away.

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Just want to add that you should also check if any of your son's schools have their own institutional financial aid forms beyond FAFSA and CSS! Some schools (especially state schools) have their own supplemental forms that ask different questions. Also, make sure to submit everything well before the deadlines - financial aid offices get swamped and sometimes there are technical issues with the websites. We learned this the hard way when the CSS Profile site crashed the night before one of our deadlines! Good luck with everything, the divorce situation definitely makes it more complicated but you've got this!

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