Passport Renewal When You Have Unfiled Taxes - Urgent Help Needed
I feel like I'm about to have a breakdown. I need to get real with someone here. I know I'm in the wrong, so please go easy on me, I'm already beating myself up over this. I recently applied for my passport renewal, but it just hit me that it might get denied. I'm scheduled for an international trip in a few weeks, and I'm terrified that my biggest secret is about to blow up in my face. I'm a freelancer/independent contractor and haven't filed or paid taxes in about 6 years. Every year I file for an extension thinking "I'll definitely catch up this summer" but then... nothing happens. The whole thing is so overwhelming that I can't bring myself to face it, and I'm too ashamed to tell anyone because I know they'll judge me. My wife doesn't know about this. We've been married for 4 years and file separately. I've told her it's so she can still get her refund since she works a regular job with tax withholding, while I would owe money. I know there's something called "innocent spouse relief" so I've convinced myself that by keeping her in the dark, I'm protecting her from having to pay for my mistakes. I keep promising myself I'll make some progress (at least file and figure out how much I owe) before confessing to her, but I haven't made any real progress and a denied passport will be pretty obvious evidence that something's wrong. Whenever I try to start filing, I literally have panic attacks. I freeze up, feel sick to my stomach, and start trembling. Here's the weird part: neither the IRS nor my state tax authority has contacted me about this. The IRS has accepted every extension I've filed online. I've never received any notices about my unfiled returns or unpaid taxes. I think I've somehow been flying under the radar all these years? I almost wish they had caught me after the first year - it would've forced me to deal with this! I was just a dumb 26-year-old when this started, and it's snowballed since then. The one positive thing is that I've been putting money aside, hoping I can pay a chunk of what I owe when I finally file. Questions: 1. Since the IRS hasn't contacted me at all about not filing or paying, is there any chance my passport will be approved? Like, at all? 2. How do I even begin to fix this mess? 3. Has anyone been through something similar with their spouse? Please tell me she won't leave me when she finds out.
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Paolo Ricci
First, take a deep breath. While this is serious, it's fixable and you're not alone in this situation. Many people fall behind on taxes due to anxiety, and the fact that you've been saving money shows you're taking responsibility. Regarding your passport: The IRS typically only certifies "seriously delinquent tax debt" to the State Department when you have a formally assessed tax debt exceeding $59,000 AND there's already a lien or levy. Since you haven't filed, there's no formal assessment yet. This means there's a decent chance your passport renewal might be processed without issues, though I can't guarantee it. To start fixing this: 1. Find a tax professional who specializes in tax resolution - preferably an Enrolled Agent or CPA with experience in unfiled returns 2. Start gathering income documentation for all unfiled years (1099s, bank statements, expense records) 3. Consider applying for a payment plan once your returns are filed 4. Look into the IRS Fresh Start program which can help taxpayers with significant back taxes Regarding your wife: In my experience, honesty is crucial here. The financial issue is serious, but hiding it often causes more relationship damage than the debt itself. Consider talking to her before the passport issue forces your hand. Many spouses are more understanding than expected, especially when presented with a concrete plan to fix things.
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Keisha Williams
•Thank you for taking the time to respond and not judging me. The $59,000 thing gives me a little hope. I have no idea how much I'll actually owe yet, but it's possible it's under that amount. And you're right that there's no formal assessment since I haven't filed. Do you think I should try to file everything at once, or start with the most recent year and work backwards? And how bad are the penalties likely to be after all this time?
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Paolo Ricci
•Start with the most recent three years and then work backwards. The IRS generally focuses on the last six years for enforcement, though technically there's no statute of limitations on unfiled returns. Penalties will include failure-to-file (5% of unpaid taxes each month, up to 25%), failure-to-pay (0.5% per month, up to 25%), plus interest. However, the IRS does have penalty abatement programs for first-time offenders or those with reasonable cause. A tax pro can help request these abatements after your returns are filed.
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Amina Toure
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Oliver Zimmermann
•How long did the whole process take? I'm in a similar situation (4 years unfiled) and wondering if they could help me get caught up before my passport expires in two months.
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CosmicCommander
•Sounds too good to be true. Did they actually get you any penalty abatements? I tried working with a "tax relief" company before and they took my money but didn't do anything special the IRS wouldn't have done anyway.
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Amina Toure
•The entire process took about 8 weeks from start to finish for 5 years of unfiled returns. They were extremely efficient with document collection and processing. With two months before your passport expires, you'd likely have enough time if you start immediately. Yes, they successfully got about 60% of my penalties abated through the First Time Abatement program and reasonable cause arguments. They're not one of those sketchy "pennies on the dollar" companies you see advertised on TV. They're actual tax professionals who use technology to make the process more efficient and less expensive. They were upfront about what they could realistically accomplish.
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Oliver Zimmermann
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Natasha Volkova
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Javier Torres
•How does this service actually work? Do they just call for you or do they also help with the actual tax filing stuff? Do they have access to your personal info?
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Emma Davis
•I don't believe this for a second. Nobody gets helpful IRS agents on the phone. This sounds like an ad.
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Natasha Volkova
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Emma Davis
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Malik Johnson
About your spouse question - I went through this exact situation. Hid 4 years of unfiled taxes from my husband. When I finally broke down and told him, he was upset, but mostly because I didn't trust him enough to tell him sooner so we could tackle it together. We're still married 7 years later. The trust took time to rebuild, but being upfront about the problem and having a plan to fix it went a long way. What damaged our relationship wasn't the tax debt - it was the secrecy. My advice: Tell your wife before the passport issue forces your hand. Come with some research done and maybe even an appointment already scheduled with a tax professional. Show her you're taking responsibility and have a plan.
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Keisha Williams
•Thank you so much for sharing your experience. That's honestly my biggest fear - not the tax bill itself but losing my wife's trust. Did you tell your husband before or after you figured out how much you owed? I'm torn between wanting to have all the information first versus not keeping the secret any longer.
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Malik Johnson
•I told him before I knew the exact amount. I had a rough estimate, but hadn't filed yet. Initially, I wanted to wait until I had everything figured out, but a friend gave me wise advice: the longer I waited, the worse the betrayal would feel to him. When I finally told him, I framed it as "I've made a mistake I've been too ashamed to talk about, and I need your support while I fix it." I showed him I had already contacted a tax professional and had an appointment scheduled. That approach helped him see that I was taking responsibility rather than just dumping a problem in his lap.
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Isabella Ferreira
One important thing nobody's mentioned: if you've been filing extensions, the statute of limitations on assessment hasn't started running. The IRS generally has 3 years from the date you file a return to assess additional tax. Since you haven't filed, that clock hasn't started. But here's the good news - the IRS typically only looks back 6 years for unfiled returns unless they suspect fraud. If you voluntarily come forward and file your back returns before they contact you, you're in a much better position than if they find you first. Also, self-employed people often overestimate what they'll owe because they forget about all the legitimate business deductions they qualify for. A good tax pro might find you qualify for things like home office deduction, health insurance deduction, SEP IRA contributions, business mileage, etc.
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Ravi Sharma
•Is this true even if the person has been filing extensions every year? I thought extensions were only for the filing deadline, not for the payment deadline. Wouldn't they still be considered late on payments?
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Chloe Robinson
•You're absolutely right that extensions only extend the filing deadline, not the payment deadline. So yes, there would still be failure-to-pay penalties accruing from the original due date. However, the key point about the assessment statute of limitations is still valid - the IRS can't assess additional tax beyond what's on a filed return until that return is actually filed. The failure-to-pay penalty is 0.5% per month (up to 25% total), while failure-to-file is much steeper at 5% per month (also capped at 25%). So filing extensions does help avoid the harsher failure-to-file penalty, even if you can't pay immediately. That's probably why @30b012095b50 hasn't gotten collection notices yet - the extensions are keeping the more severe penalties at bay.
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