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Omar Zaki

Can I legally pay my mom for cooking at home to help her earn Social Security credits?

My mom and I currently share a house, and she's been struggling to find employment lately. She was working before but has been jobless for a few months now. I recently found out she's short on Social Security credits and won't qualify for full benefits when retirement age comes around. I had this thought - what if I hired her as my personal cook? She already makes meals for the household, but could I officially pay her for this service? My thinking is that she could report this as legitimate income, pay taxes on it, and slowly accumulate the Social Security credits she needs before retirement. Is this something that's actually legal to do? Can I employ a family member I live with for household services like cooking? Would the IRS accept this arrangement or would it raise red flags?

Chloe Taylor

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Yes, you can legally pay your mother for cooking services, even while living together. This arrangement would be considered household employment or "domestic services." The key is to treat this as a legitimate employer-employee relationship. Pay her regular wages (not just random amounts), withhold the appropriate taxes, and file Schedule H with your tax return. You'll need to issue a W-2 at year end. Both you and your mother will pay Social Security and Medicare taxes on these wages, which will help her earn those missing credits. For this to be considered legitimate by the IRS, make sure to: 1) Document the arrangement (a simple written agreement works) 2) Pay a reasonable wage for cooking services 3) Keep records of hours worked and payments made 4) Issue a W-2 form annually 5) File Schedule H with your taxes Just be aware you'll need to pay employer taxes on top of her wages, but this is a legitimate way to help her earn those Social Security credits she needs.

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Diego Flores

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This is interesting but I'm confused about the taxes part. Do I need to register as some kind of business to do this? And how much would the employer taxes be that I'd need to pay?

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Chloe Taylor

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You don't need to register as a business. This falls under household employment (like nannies or housekeepers). You'll need an Employer Identification Number (EIN) from the IRS, which is free and easy to get online. For the taxes, you'll pay 7.65% for your half of Social Security and Medicare taxes (your mom also pays 7.65% that you'd withhold from her pay). There's also Federal Unemployment Tax (FUTA) which is about 6% on the first $7,000 of wages, but often ends up being less. Some states have additional unemployment taxes. These employer taxes aren't huge, but they are an additional cost beyond what you pay her.

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Sean Murphy

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Did you need to pay your mom through a payroll service? I'm worried about messing up the tax withholding calculations.

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StarStrider

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Sounds interesting but how does the tool know what's acceptable to the IRS? Did it actually help with creating the documentation or just give general advice?

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You don't absolutely need a payroll service, but it makes things much easier. There are household employer payroll services that handle all the calculations and filings for about $40-60 per month. Totally worth it to avoid mistakes. You can also do it manually with IRS tables if you're comfortable with that. The tool analyzes thousands of IRS rulings and tax court cases to determine what arrangements have been accepted or rejected. It doesn't just give general advice - it helps create customized documentation based on your specific situation, including employment contracts and payment records that satisfy IRS requirements. It also shows you exactly what rates would be considered reasonable in your area for cooking services to avoid raising red flags.

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StarStrider

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Zara Malik

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Luca Marino

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Wait, you pay someone else just to call the IRS for you? How does that even work? Couldn't you just keep calling yourself?

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Nia Davis

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This sounds like a scam honestly. No way the IRS would allow some third party to "hold your place in line." They probably just take your money and tell you to keep waiting.

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Zara Malik

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Nia Davis

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Mateo Perez

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I did something similar with my dad for handyman work around my house. Here are some practical tips: - Pay by check not cash (creates a paper trail) - Set a consistent schedule (like bi-weekly payments) - Take photos of completed meals as documentation - Create simple invoices for each payment - Set a fair market rate (what you'd pay a personal chef) The biggest thing that helped us was writing up a simple contract that specified job duties, payment terms, and hours. Nothing fancy, but it made everything official. My dad earned 8 Social Security credits over 2 years this way!

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Aisha Rahman

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Would Venmo or PayPal work instead of checks? I never use checks anymore and don't even have a checkbook.

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Mateo Perez

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Venmo and PayPal can work, but you need to be careful. Use business transfers (not personal) and make sure to include notes clearly stating what each payment is for (like "Personal chef services - Week of May 15"). The key is creating that clear documentation trail. Just be aware that using payment apps might trigger automatic reporting to the IRS if you exceed certain thresholds ($600/year currently), but since you want this income to be reported anyway, that's actually helpful for your situation.

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Don't forget state requirements! I did this with my mom for childcare and missed that my state required: 1. Workers comp insurance (even for family) 2. State-specific new hire reporting 3. Separate state unemployment tax registration Got hit with a $450 penalty for missing the state unemployment registration. Federal is only part of it! Check your state's household employer requirements too!

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Omar Zaki

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Thanks for mentioning this! Do you have any tips on how I could find the specific requirements for my state? Is there some website that lists all these requirements by state?

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The best place to start is your state's department of labor website. Just search "[your state] household employer requirements" and it should come up. Each state has different rules. You can also call your state's unemployment office directly - they usually have the most accurate information about requirements for family household employees. They're generally more helpful and easier to reach than the IRS.

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This is a really thoughtful way to help your mom! I went through something similar with my grandmother a few years ago. One thing I'd add to the great advice already given - make sure to keep detailed records of what cooking services she's actually providing. I created a simple log showing dates, hours worked, and what meals were prepared. This helped establish that it was legitimate work rather than just paying family for existing around the house. The IRS likes to see that there's actual value being provided for the wages paid. Also consider having her track her time like any other employee would - even if it's just writing down "2 hours meal prep Monday, 1.5 hours cooking dinner Tuesday" etc. It makes the whole arrangement look more professional and legitimate. The Social Security credits she'll earn are definitely worth the extra paperwork hassle. Each quarter she earns at least $1,730 in wages (2024 amount), she gets one credit toward Social Security. So even modest monthly payments can help her catch up over time.

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NeonNebula

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This is excellent advice about keeping detailed records! I'm just starting to consider this arrangement for my mom and hadn't thought about the importance of documenting actual hours and specific tasks. Quick question - when you say "legitimate work rather than just paying family for existing around the house," how detailed do those records need to be? Like, would "prepared breakfast, lunch, and dinner" be enough, or should I be more specific about the actual dishes and prep time involved? Also, do you know if there's a minimum number of hours per week that would look reasonable to the IRS? I don't want to underpay her, but I also want to make sure the arrangement looks authentic.

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Paolo Conti

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@NeonNebula Great questions! For the record keeping, you don't need to go overboard with details. "Prepared breakfast (scrambled eggs, toast), lunch (chicken salad sandwiches), dinner (spaghetti with meatballs)" would be perfectly adequate. The key is showing that actual meal preparation work is happening, not just reimbursing someone for eating food that already exists. As for hours, there's no official IRS minimum, but you want it to look realistic. For cooking services, anywhere from 10-25 hours per week would seem reasonable depending on household size and meal complexity. A single person might justify 10-12 hours/week for meal prep and cooking, while a larger household could easily justify 20+ hours. What matters most is that the hours match the work being done and the pay is reasonable for your area. If you're paying $15/hour for 15 hours of cooking per week, that's $225 weekly or about $11,700 annually - enough to earn all 4 Social Security credits in one year since she only needs $1,730 per quarter in 2024. Just make sure whatever schedule you set up is consistent and that you can genuinely say she's providing that much cooking service to your household!

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Felix Grigori

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This is such a great way to help your mom build up her Social Security credits! I actually did something very similar with my aunt who was in the same situation. One thing I'd strongly recommend is to establish a clear written agreement upfront that outlines her specific duties, work schedule, and pay rate. This doesn't need to be anything fancy - just a simple document that shows this is a legitimate employment arrangement rather than just family financial support. Also, make sure to research what personal chefs or meal prep services charge in your area so you can set a reasonable wage. In most areas, $12-20 per hour for cooking services would be totally justifiable, and paying her for 10-15 hours per week should easily get her the credits she needs. The key is consistency - pay her the same amount on the same schedule (weekly or bi-weekly), keep good records, and treat it like any other employer-employee relationship. Your mom will thank you when she gets those full Social Security benefits! One last tip: consider having her provide other household services too if needed (light cleaning, meal planning, grocery shopping) to justify more hours and higher total wages. Just make sure everything you pay for represents real work being performed.

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Julia Hall

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This is really helpful advice! I like the idea of expanding to other household services too. Could meal planning and grocery shopping realistically add enough hours to make this worthwhile? I'm trying to figure out if I can justify paying my mom enough to get her all 4 credits in one year without it looking excessive to the IRS. Also, when you mention researching local rates for personal chefs - did you just look online, or is there a better way to establish what's "reasonable" in case the IRS ever questions it?

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Hunter Hampton

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@Julia Hall Absolutely! Meal planning and grocery shopping can definitely add legitimate hours. I d'estimate 2-3 hours weekly for meal planning researching (recipes, creating shopping lists, planning balanced meals and) another 3-4 hours for grocery shopping depending on how many stores she visits and household size. Combined with 10-15 hours of actual cooking, you could easily justify 15-22 hours per week total. For establishing reasonable rates, I used a combination of Care.com, Sitter.com, and local Craigslist ads for personal chefs and meal prep services. I also called a few meal prep companies in my area and asked about their hourly rates. This gave me a good range to work with. Keep screenshots or printouts of these research results in your records - if the IRS ever asks, you can show exactly how you determined fair market value. At $15/hour for 20 hours weekly, that s'$15,600 annually - well above the $6,920 needed for 4 credits in 2024. Just make sure the total compensation seems reasonable for the actual services provided in your household!

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This is a really smart way to help your mom! I've been reading through all the great advice here and wanted to add one more practical tip that helped me when I set up a similar arrangement with my father. Consider opening a separate checking account specifically for paying your mom's wages. This creates an even cleaner paper trail and makes it crystal clear that these are employment payments, not just family money transfers. I named mine "Household Employee Payroll" which made everything super obvious for record-keeping. Also, don't forget that your mom will need to pay estimated quarterly taxes on this income since you won't be withholding enough to cover her full tax liability (especially if she has other income sources). Help her set aside about 25-30% of what you pay her for taxes - this prevents any nasty surprises at tax time. The Social Security credits accumulate faster than you might think. At the current rate of $1,730 per quarter for each credit, even paying her $400-500 monthly should get her one credit per quarter. That means she could earn all 4 annual credits with just $6,920 in wages for the year - very achievable with consistent cooking work! The peace of mind knowing she'll have proper Social Security benefits is worth all the extra paperwork. You're being a great son looking out for her future like this.

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