Can I claim my non-biological son on my taxes even though we aren't related?
I've been raising my son (he's 8) since before he was even born. I'm not his biological father, but I've been his dad his entire life. His mom and I split up when he was about 2, but I've continued to be his father figure. This past year has been challenging financially, and he's actually been living with me full-time since around February (he goes to his mom's on weekends). I've never tried to claim him on my taxes before, but I could really use the tax break this year. His mom is insisting that I can't claim him because we don't have a biological connection. Is that actually true? Does the IRS care that I'm not his biological parent if he's been living with me most of the year? I've been providing for him completely since February and I'm wondering what my options are for claiming him as a dependent. Any advice would be really appreciated.
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Liam Duke
You absolutely can claim a non-biological child on your taxes if you meet certain requirements. The IRS doesn't actually care about biological relationships as much as they care about who is supporting the child and where the child lives. For a "qualifying child" dependent, you need to meet these criteria: - The child must have lived with you for more than half the year (which sounds like you meet since February) - You must provide more than half of the child's financial support - The child must be under 19 (or 24 if a student), which at 8 years old, he clearly qualifies The relationship test for a qualifying child includes any child who "is your son, daughter, stepchild, foster child, brother, sister, stepbrother, stepsister, half brother, half sister, or a descendant of any of them." A child who has lived with you in a parent-child relationship can qualify here.
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Manny Lark
•What about if the biological parent also wants to claim the child? Does whoever has them longer get to claim them? Is there a tiebreaker or something?
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Liam Duke
•If both parents want to claim the child, the IRS has tiebreaker rules that determine who gets the dependent deduction. First, it goes to the biological parent if only one person is a biological parent. If neither or both are biological parents, then it goes to the person with whom the child lived the longest during the year. If the time is equal, it goes to the person with the higher adjusted gross income (AGI). Since you had the child living with you for more than half the year (since February), you would likely win the tiebreaker based on residence time. However, this can get messy if the other parent also files claiming the child. The second person to file will likely get rejected electronically, and may need to paper file and potentially deal with IRS correspondence to resolve the conflict.
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Rita Jacobs
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Rosie Harper
Listen, I don't want to contradict what others have said, but my tax preparer told me that you NEED to have legal documentation to claim a non-biological child. She said you either need adoption papers or legal guardianship established by the court. Otherwise, the IRS will side with the biological parent if there's a dispute.
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Elliott luviBorBatman
•This doesn't sound right. Isn't it more about who the child lives with and who provides support? I'm pretty sure the IRS has specific residency tests that don't require legal adoption or guardianship.
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Rosie Harper
•I think I might have been wrong or my tax preparer was confused. I just looked it up on the IRS website, and you're right - the main test is about residency and support, not legal guardianship for the qualifying child test. The child needs to have lived with you for more than half the year and you need to provide more than half their support. There's also a relationship test, but it includes any child who lived with you in a parent-child relationship. Legal adoption or guardianship would make things clearer, but they're not strictly required if you meet the other tests. Sorry for the confusion! This is why I usually pay someone to do my taxes.
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Demi Hall
I'm not a tax professional, but I went through this exact situation with my ex's daughter. Make sure you have documentation showing when the child lived with you - school records with your address, medical records showing you as the caregiver, even dated pictures or calendar entries of the time they spent with you. The IRS might not ask for this, but if the bio mom also tries to claim him, you'll need proof. My ex tried to claim her daughter even though she lived with me 9 months of the year, and I had to provide documentation to support my claim.
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Mateusius Townsend
•What tax software did you use that allowed you to claim a non-bio kid? I tried with TurboTax and it kept asking for adoption documentation or court papers.
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Demi Hall
•I used H&R Block's online software. When it asked about the relationship, I selected "other eligible dependent" rather than "son/daughter" and then it walked me through the qualifying child tests. It asked if the child lived with me for more than half the year and if I provided more than half the support, both of which were true in my case. TurboTax should have a similar option. You might have been going down the wrong path in their question tree if it was asking for adoption papers. Try looking for the option about qualifying dependents rather than specifically entering the child as your son/daughter. The relationship test includes any child who lived with you in a parent-child relationship.
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