FAFSA help with divorced parents - can my daughter qualify for anything with my high income?
I'm completely overwhelmed trying to navigate the FAFSA process for my daughter (high school senior). Our situation: I'm the custodial parent, no child support from ex-husband, and I earn approximately $95,000/year while her father makes around $48,000. I understand I'm the parent who needs to be on the FAFSA application since she lives with me 100% of the time. My big concern is that my income seems too high for grant eligibility, but I'm in a financial squeeze - decent income on paper but terrible cash flow due to medical bills and housing costs. I don't have college savings set aside, and my credit score is in the low 600s, so I can't even co-sign for private student loans. Will my daughter be completely shut out of financial aid? Are there any options for her to attend a modest state university (about $24,000/year total cost) without me being able to contribute much? I'm really worried she'll have to give up on her education dreams because of my financial situation. Any advice from parents who've navigated similar situations?
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Aisha Hussain
Don't worry too much yet - you should still complete the FAFSA regardless of income. Your daughter will qualify for unsubsidized federal student loans (currently $5,500 for freshmen) in her name alone that don't require your credit score or income qualification. The SAI (Student Aid Index) calculation also accounts for household size and other factors beyond just income. Also, many state schools have institutional aid that isn't solely based on the FAFSA calculation. Is your daughter considering any specific state schools? Some have automatic merit scholarships based on GPA/test scores that could significantly reduce costs.
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Mateo Rodriguez
•Thank you for this! She's looking at Western State University which runs about $24k/year all-in. Her GPA is 3.7 and ACT is 27 - do you think that's competitive enough for merit aid? I didn't realize she could get loans in her name without my credit score being involved. That's a huge relief.
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GalacticGladiator
just went thru this w/ my son. defintely fill out fafsa but ur daughter prolly won't get pell grants w/ ur income. but she CAN still qualify for fed loans in HER name (not yours) up to like 5500 first yr. also tell her to apply for EVERY scholarship she can find - even the small ones add up!!
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Mateo Rodriguez
•Thanks for sharing your experience! I'll definitely encourage her to apply for scholarships. Do you know if there are any specific ones that are easier to get or less competitive? She's willing to write essays and put in the work.
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Ethan Brown
While your income might disqualify her from need-based grants, there are several paths forward: 1. Federal Direct Loans in her name only (no cosigner needed) - $5,500 freshman year, increasing slightly each subsequent year 2. Merit scholarships at state schools - with a 3.7 GPA and 27 ACT, she should qualify for some automatic merit aid at many state schools 3. Parent PLUS loans - if your credit score improves, this could be an option later 4. Work-study programs - even if she doesn't qualify through FAFSA, many schools offer regular student employment 5. Appeal for special circumstances - your divorce, medical expenses, and current financial situation can be grounds for a professional judgment review I'd recommend contacting the financial aid offices directly at her top choices. They can often suggest school-specific options that aren't apparent from just the FAFSA results.
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Mateo Rodriguez
•This is incredibly helpful, thank you! I didn't know about the professional judgment review option. My medical expenses last year were over $14,000 out of pocket even with insurance. Do you think that's significant enough to mention in an appeal?
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Yuki Yamamoto
MY daughter had similar situation (I make too much for grants but not enough 4 college lol). Western State gave her $7k/yr in merit scholarships with 3.6 GPA! She also works on campus 12hrs/week which helps. Don't stress too much yet - there are always options!!!
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Mateo Rodriguez
•This gives me so much hope! Western State is actually her top choice. Did your daughter apply for any specific scholarships there or was the $7k offered automatically based on her GPA?
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Carmen Ruiz
Your ex should be helping pay for college regardless of what FAFSA says!!! My ex tried to get out of helping with college costs too but the court ordered him to pay half after I took him back to court. Just because she lives with you doesn't mean he's off the hook for education expenses. Something to consider if he has the means to help at all.
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Yuki Yamamoto
•Not everyone wants to go back to court tho... my divorce decree specifically says neither parent is obligated for college costs. It depends on their specific agreement & honestly sometimes the legal battle isn't worth it
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Mateo Rodriguez
•Our divorce agreement unfortunately doesn't include college expenses, and going back to court would probably cost more than it's worth given his financial situation. I'm trying to find solutions that don't depend on his contribution, but I appreciate the suggestion.
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Andre Lefebvre
Have you tried calling the Federal Student Aid office to discuss your specific situation? I spent WEEKS trying to get through to someone who could help with my complicated FAFSA situation (divorced parents, one self-employed). I finally used this service called Claimyr (claimyr.com) that got me connected to an actual FSA agent in under 10 minutes instead of waiting on hold forever. They have a video showing how it works: https://youtu.be/TbC8dZQWYNQ The agent I spoke with explained some special circumstance options I had no idea existed. They can sometimes make adjustments for situations exactly like yours with medical expenses and divorce complications.
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Mateo Rodriguez
•I've been trying to call them but kept getting disconnected! Thank you for this tip - I'll check out the service. Did they charge a lot for it? It would be worth it to actually speak to someone who can give me accurate information about our options.
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Andre Lefebvre
•It wasn't expensive considering how much time it saved me (hours of redial attempts and waiting on hold). Totally worth it for the personalized guidance. The agent walked me through exactly what additional documentation to submit for special circumstances.
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Zoe Dimitriou
Don't count out community college for the first two years!!!! My daughter transferred to state university after CC and saved us over $30,000. Same degree in the end but WAY cheaper start. She got her gen-ed classes done for like 1/4 the price and lived at home. Something to consider if the financial aid package isn't enough.
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Mateo Rodriguez
•We've definitely discussed that option. She's really set on the "college experience" of living on campus, but I've told her we need to be practical. Did your daughter feel like she missed out on anything by going the CC route first?
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Zoe Dimitriou
•She was disappointed at first but joined some clubs at the CC and actually made great friends. By the time she transferred for junior year, she was over the 'dorm experience' anyway and appreciated having no debt! She still had 2 years on the main campus for the full university experience.
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Carmen Ruiz
MAKE SURE SHE FILLS OUT CSS PROFILE TOO!!!! Some schools require both FAFSA and CSS Profile for institutional aid. The CSS asks different questions and some schools use it to award their own scholarships even when FAFSA doesn't qualify you for federal grants. It costs money to submit ($25ish) but WORTH IT.
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Mateo Rodriguez
•I hadn't even heard of the CSS Profile! Is this something all schools use or just private colleges? Do you know if Western State requires it? I'll definitely look into this - thank you!
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Carmen Ruiz
•Mostly private schools require it but SOME public universities use it too. Check Western's financial aid website to see if they want it. The CSS Profile looks at your finances differently than FAFSA does and can sometimes work in your favor especially with medical expenses.
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Aisha Hussain
Based on your follow-up comments, I think you have more options than you initially realized. With a 3.7 GPA and 27 ACT, your daughter has a good chance at merit scholarships at Western State. Their automatic merit scholarships typically range from $4,000-$8,000 per year for those stats. Regarding your medical expenses: ABSOLUTELY mention those in a special circumstances appeal. Medical expenses over 11% of your income can significantly adjust your SAI calculation. Make sure to document everything thoroughly. At minimum, your daughter should qualify for: - $5,500 in federal loans her first year - Likely around $5,000-$7,000 in merit scholarships - Potentially work-study or campus employment ($3,000-$4,000/year) That could bring the actual out-of-pocket cost down to around $8,000-$10,000 per year, which is much more manageable than the full $24,000.
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Mateo Rodriguez
•This breakdown is so helpful! $8-10k per year seems much more manageable - I could probably figure out how to help with that amount. Would it be appropriate to contact Western State's financial aid office now (before she's even applied) to ask about their merit scholarship tiers and special circumstances policies?
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Aisha Hussain
•Absolutely! Most financial aid offices welcome these types of inquiries from prospective students. They can give you specific information about their institutional scholarships and what documentation they'd want for a special circumstances review. It shows initiative and interest in the school, which never hurts!
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Harmony Love
I'm in a very similar situation as a newcomer to all this! My son is a junior and I'm already starting to panic about college costs. Reading through all these responses gives me so much hope - I had no idea about federal loans not requiring parent credit scores or that merit aid could bring costs down so significantly. @Mateo Rodriguez - your daughter's stats sound great for merit scholarships! I've been lurking in college financial aid groups and keep seeing that combination of filling out FAFSA + applying for merit aid + documenting special circumstances can really open doors. The medical expense documentation sounds like it could make a real difference in your case. Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences - this thread is incredibly informative for those of us just starting this journey!
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Gemma Andrews
•Welcome to the group! It's so smart that you're starting to research this early with your son being a junior. I wish I had started planning sooner - I feel like I'm scrambling to catch up now that my daughter is a senior. This thread has been a lifesaver for me too. The community here really knows their stuff and has given me so much practical advice I never would have found on my own. Good luck with your college planning journey!
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