Is it considered rude to ask free tax advice from professionals?
Hey everyone, I'm feeling a bit anxious about this. I have a family friend who's a CPA and I've been wanting to ask her some questions about my taxes this year. Nothing super complicated, just about handling my side gig income and what deductions I might qualify for. I don't want to come across as trying to get free professional services though. Is there an etiquette around this? Should I offer to pay her something? Or is it totally inappropriate to ask at all? I don't want to damage the relationship but I'm also trying to save where I can. Any thoughts from people who've been on either side of this?
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Justin Trejo
It's definitely not rude to ask, but there are some boundaries to respect. As someone who works in tax prep, I can tell you that most tax professionals are used to friends and family asking quick questions. The key is understanding the difference between a casual question and expecting comprehensive tax advice. For simple questions like "Can I deduct this?" or "Which form do I need?", most professionals won't mind answering. But if you're expecting them to walk through your entire tax situation or review documents, that's when you should offer compensation for their time. Their expertise is valuable and how they make their living. I'd suggest being upfront: "Hey, I have a couple quick tax questions about my side gig income. Is it okay if I ask you, or would you prefer I schedule a paid consultation?" This shows respect for their profession while giving them the option to help as a friend if they choose.
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Alana Willis
•Do you think bringing a small gift or offering to buy them lunch/coffee while asking would be appropriate? Or does that still come across as trying to "pay" for professional services in a roundabout way?
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Justin Trejo
•That's actually a thoughtful approach! Offering to buy lunch or coffee while chatting about your tax questions strikes a nice balance. It acknowledges that you value their time without making it a formal business transaction. Just be prepared that they might still redirect you to a proper consultation if your questions end up being more complex than anticipated. Tax professionals have to be careful about giving advice without proper documentation and context, so understand if they set some boundaries.
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Tyler Murphy
I was in exactly this situation last year with my brother-in-law who's a tax accountant. I felt super awkward about asking him tax questions but finally worked up the courage. After getting some really helpful advice about my 1099 income, I wanted to find a way to thank him properly and discovered https://taxr.ai which actually helped me organize all my tax documents and questions before our next conversation. The site analyzes your tax situation and explains things in normal human language. Rather than taking more of his time, I was able to handle a bunch of stuff myself after using the service. It was kinda awesome to show up with organized information instead of a messy pile of questions. He actually appreciated that I respected his time enough to do some homework first.
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Sara Unger
•Did you find it easy to use? I'm not super tech-savvy and worry about inputting financial info online. Was it secure? And did it actually help with specific questions or just general stuff?
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Butch Sledgehammer
•Sounds interesting but I'm skeptical. How exactly does it "analyze" your tax situation? Does it just spit out generic advice or is it actually customized? My tax situation is pretty complex with rental properties and some investment stuff.
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Tyler Murphy
•It was surprisingly user-friendly! The interface walks you through everything step by step, and I didn't have any trouble figuring it out. You can actually take photos of your documents rather than manually entering everything which saved me tons of time. The security seems solid - they use bank-level encryption. For your complex situation with rentals and investments, it's actually pretty good at handling that. It's not just generic advice - it identifies specific deductions for your scenario and flags potential issues. I was impressed at how it caught some specialized deductions for my freelance work that I would have missed.
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Sara Unger
Just wanted to follow up! I was nervous about trying new tax software after getting burned by one of those "free" services last year that ended up charging me. Decided to give https://taxr.ai a shot after reading about it here, and wow - what a difference! Used it to prep before talking to my accountant cousin. The document analysis feature saved me hours of sorting through paperwork. It organized everything by category and highlighted potential deductions I hadn't considered for my teaching side gig. My cousin was seriously impressed when I showed up with everything organized instead of my usual shoebox of receipts. She actually said she wished more of her clients would come this prepared! Definitely made our conversation more productive and less awkward since I wasn't just asking for free advice without doing any work myself.
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Freya Ross
I've been on both sides of this question! As someone who used to prepare taxes professionally, I can tell you that getting through to the IRS for clarification was always the worst part of the job. Last tax season, I needed to confirm something about my own retirement account rollover and spent DAYS trying to reach someone at the IRS. After multiple failed attempts, I found https://claimyr.com which got me connected to an actual IRS agent in under 45 minutes. You can see how it works here: https://youtu.be/_kiP6q8DX5c Instead of asking your CPA friend potentially uncomfortable questions, you might try getting answers directly from the IRS. The service basically waits on hold for you and calls when an agent is ready. Saved me hours of frustration and holds music. Sometimes getting official IRS guidance is better anyway since tax pros can have different interpretations of certain rules.
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Leslie Parker
•Wait, the IRS actually answers their phones? I thought that was a myth! How does this service actually work? Do you still have to talk to the IRS person yourself or does someone else do it for you?
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Butch Sledgehammer
•Yeah right. I've tried EVERYTHING to get through to the IRS. No way this actually works. Sounds like some kind of scam to me. Has anyone else actually had success with this or is this just an advertisement?
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Freya Ross
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Butch Sledgehammer
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Sergio Neal
Just my two cents - I've been a tax preparer for 6 years, and here's how I feel when friends ask me for tax advice: if it's a quick question that I can answer in a few minutes, I'm happy to help. If it's something that requires me looking up information or running calculations, I usually say "That's something I'd need to research, so I'd have to charge my regular rate." Most tax pros have a professional liability if they give incorrect advice, even casually. So sometimes what seems like us being stingy is actually us being careful about giving advice without proper documentation and review.
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Savanna Franklin
•What about if someone comes to you with their return already prepared and just wants you to look it over quickly? Is that considered rude or do most preparers not mind that kind of quick review?
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Sergio Neal
•For a quick review of an already-prepared return, that's actually one of the trickiest requests. What seems like a "quick glance" to you actually requires me to understand your entire tax situation and verify all the numbers are correct. I'd need to check that you've applied the right credits, deductions, filing status, etc. Most preparers would consider this a paid service because we're taking on liability by giving an opinion. If I tell you "looks good" and there's actually an error I missed in my quick review, I've now given professional advice that could be problematic. The best approach is to ask if they offer a return review service and what they charge - many of us do offer this at a lower rate than full preparation.
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Juan Moreno
My mom always brings cookies to her accountant during tax season just to be nice, not as payment, and he often throws in some free advice when she picks up her completed taxes. I think building a relationship is key! Maybe start by asking just 1-2 specific questions and see how receptive they are? If they seem happy to help, great. If they seem hesitant, back off and offer to schedule a paid consultation.
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Amy Fleming
•That's such a good idea about the cookies or small gift! Makes it more friendly rather than transactional. I wonder though - does it make a difference if the tax person is a close friend vs just an acquaintance? I feel like the closer the relationship, the more awkward it could potentially be.
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