What are the negative effects of unemployment - struggling with mental health while on Washington ESD
Been unemployed for 8 months now after getting laid off from my manufacturing job. I know unemployment benefits help with the bills but I'm starting to realize there's a lot more damage happening that I didn't expect. My self-worth is shot, I barely leave the house anymore, and my family relationships are getting strained. My Washington ESD weekly claims keep me afloat financially but the isolation and rejection from job applications is wearing me down. Anyone else dealing with the mental/emotional side effects of being unemployed this long? How do you cope with feeling worthless when every job rejection feels personal?
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Carmella Popescu
I feel you completely. The financial stress is obvious but nobody talks about how unemployment messes with your head. Lost my job 6 months ago and even though Washington ESD covers most of my expenses, I feel like I'm losing myself.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Exactly! People think unemployment benefits solve everything but they don't fix the identity crisis.
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Kai Santiago
•The longer you're out of work, the harder it gets to explain the gap to potential employers too.
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Lim Wong
Unemployment affects people in multiple ways beyond just income loss. Common negative effects include depression, anxiety, loss of daily structure, social isolation, reduced self-esteem, and relationship strain. Studies show unemployment can impact physical health too through stress-related issues.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•That explains why I've been having trouble sleeping and my blood pressure is up. Didn't connect it to unemployment stress.
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Dananyl Lear
•The lack of structure is huge - I used to have a routine and now every day feels the same.
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Noah huntAce420
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Never heard of this before. Is it legit? I've been trying to call Washington ESD for weeks about my job search requirements.
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Noah huntAce420
•Yeah it's real, I used it last month when I couldn't get through about my adjudication. Way better than calling 200 times a day.
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Ana Rusula
The social stigma is the worst part for me. People treat you differently when they find out you're on unemployment. Like it's contagious or something.
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Carmella Popescu
•YES! My neighbors look at me weird when I'm home during the day. Like I chose this.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•I stopped telling people I'm unemployed. I just say I'm between jobs now.
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Kai Santiago
Financial effects are obvious but unemployment also causes skill deterioration, networking gaps, and career momentum loss. The longer you're out, the harder it becomes to explain to employers and the more your skills can become outdated in fast-moving industries.
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Fidel Carson
•This is why I'm taking free online courses even though I'm broke. Trying to keep my skills current.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Good idea. I should probably do that instead of just watching TV all day.
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Dananyl Lear
My marriage is falling apart because of the stress. My spouse works but my unemployment puts pressure on everything - finances, household duties, future planning. We fight about money constantly now.
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Lim Wong
•Unemployment can strain relationships because it changes family dynamics and increases financial pressure. Communication is key during this time.
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Carmella Popescu
•Same here. My partner says they understand but I can tell they're frustrated that I haven't found work yet.
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Fidel Carson
The worst is losing your sense of purpose. Work gave my life structure and meaning. Now I feel useless even though I know logically that my worth isn't tied to my job.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•This hits hard. I used to feel important at work and now I feel like I contribute nothing to society.
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Ana Rusula
•Try volunteering if you can. It helps with the purpose thing and looks good on your resume.
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Isaiah Sanders
been unemployed 3 times in my life and it never gets easier. each time the depression hits harder and recovery takes longer
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Lorenzo McCormick
•That's terrifying to hear. I hope this is my only time dealing with long-term unemployment.
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Kai Santiago
•Building an emergency fund when you're working can help reduce some of the financial stress during unemployment.
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Lim Wong
Physical health impacts of unemployment include increased risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, and substance abuse. The stress hormones from financial and emotional pressure can weaken your immune system and cause chronic health problems.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•I've definitely been drinking more since I lost my job. Didn't realize that was a common thing.
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Carmella Popescu
•My doctor said my blood work shows I'm pre-diabetic now. Never had issues before unemployment.
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Noah huntAce420
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Dananyl Lear
•How much does it cost? Money's tight right now obviously.
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Noah huntAce420
•They focus on the value of actually reaching someone rather than costs. Check their site for details but it's worth it to avoid the phone runaround.
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Xan Dae
The job search rejection cycle is brutal for mental health. You put yourself out there over and over just to get ignored or rejected. After 50+ applications with no responses, you start questioning everything about yourself.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•I'm at 73 applications with 2 interviews and no offers. The rejection emails are crushing.
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Fidel Carson
•At least you get rejection emails. Most places just ghost you now.
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Carmella Popescu
Sleep problems are huge too. I either can't fall asleep because I'm worried about money or I sleep too much because depression makes me want to escape reality.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Same! I'm either up all night or sleeping until 2pm. My sleep schedule is completely messed up.
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Lim Wong
•Unemployment disrupts circadian rhythms because you lose the structure of a work schedule. Try to maintain regular sleep and wake times even without a job.
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Fiona Gallagher
Lost my job right before the holidays and it ruined everything. Couldn't afford gifts, had to skip family gatherings because I was embarrassed, and watching everyone else enjoy themselves while I'm stressed about bills was torture.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Holiday unemployment is the worst. Everyone's celebrating while you're trying to figure out how to pay rent.
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Ana Rusula
•I avoided all social events for months. Couldn't handle the questions about work or the guilt about not contributing to group expenses.
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Kai Santiago
Career advancement gets derailed by unemployment gaps. You lose momentum, miss promotion opportunities, and may have to take lower-level positions when you return to work. This can set your career back years depending on the length of unemployment.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•I'm worried about this. I was in line for a supervisor role before the layoffs and now I'll probably have to start over.
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Fidel Carson
•I had to take a job that pays $8k less than my previous one just to get back to work. The gap hurt my negotiating power.
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Thais Soares
The boredom is mind-numbing. After the first month of applying to jobs every day, you run out of things to do. Netflix gets old, you can't afford to go anywhere, and the days just drag on forever.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•This is so real. I've watched every show on three different streaming services and I'm losing my mind.
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Carmella Popescu
•I started going to the library just to have somewhere to go and be around other people.
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Noah huntAce420
Just want to mention claimyr.com one more time for people struggling with Washington ESD phone issues. When you're already dealing with unemployment stress, the last thing you need is spending hours on hold or getting disconnected. This service has been a lifesaver for getting through to actual humans.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•I'm definitely going to try this. Spent 4 hours yesterday trying to call about my job search log and got nowhere.
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Nalani Liu
•Used this last week when I had adjudication questions. Worked exactly like they said it would.
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Axel Bourke
Age discrimination becomes more obvious when you're unemployed longer. I'm 54 and I can tell employers are writing me off because of my age combined with my employment gap.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•That's awful. Unemployment shouldn't make age discrimination worse but I can see how it would.
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Kai Santiago
•Unfortunately, longer unemployment periods can compound existing hiring biases and make job searches even more challenging.
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Aidan Percy
my credit score dropped 80 points since losing my job. had to miss some payments and close credit cards. this will affect me for years even after i find work
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Mine dropped too. I had to choose between my credit card payment and groceries last month.
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Lim Wong
•Financial damage from unemployment can have long-term consequences beyond the immediate period of joblessness. Credit recovery can take years.
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Fernanda Marquez
The constant anxiety about money is exhausting. Even with unemployment benefits, you're always calculating if you have enough for rent, food, gas. Every purchase becomes a major decision.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•I check my bank account multiple times a day now. Never used to worry about money when I was working.
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Carmella Popescu
•I've become obsessed with coupons and sales. Spend hours planning grocery trips to save $5.
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Norman Fraser
Professional identity crisis is real. I used to introduce myself by my job title and company. Now I don't know how to answer 'what do you do?' without feeling ashamed.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•This hits home. I avoid networking events because I'm embarrassed to say I'm unemployed.
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Fidel Carson
•I started saying I'm a 'consultant' to avoid the awkwardness. Technically not lying since I'm looking for work.
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Kendrick Webb
Thanks for this thread. It's helpful to know I'm not alone in feeling like unemployment is destroying me in ways beyond just money. The mental health impact is something nobody talks about enough.
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Lorenzo McCormick
•Same here. Reading everyone's responses makes me feel less crazy for struggling with more than just finances.
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Lim Wong
•It's important to acknowledge that unemployment affects the whole person, not just their bank account. Seeking support for mental health during this time is crucial.
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